BrokenHeartAndWings Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Hi everyone. My fiancé left almost 3 weeks ago. NC since then. I'm a big believer in getting back out there and meeting new people. When I was with him, I had A LOT of mojo, was hit on and asked out by so many men, even in front of him. Now it seems like I've temporarily lost my mojo cause when I go out, I feel invisible, even though I'm told I'm beautiful, gorgeous, etc. My confidence took a hit as well, but I'm working on that. I've tried on-line dating, but in my area, it's never been very good (low numbers of eligible men, few messages, the guys just wanted hook ups). All the men I work with are married. I'm not a rebounder, I'd just enjoy the company of other men, dates, get my mojo back, have fun, and someday find a man I can love again. Any ideas on where to meet great guys? I'm very active, adventurous, in shape. I go out a lot, either with friends or by myself, but lately I see couples everywhere, or guys who stare and don't approach. LOL
sleepycat Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Might not be what you want to hear but no wonder your mojo has gone astray the guy you planned to spend the rest of your life with left less than a month ago, while wanting to get back out there so soon is admirable I do think it is rather soon to be looking to meet a new man, you should use this time to do stuff you have always wanted to and for meeting people maybe have a look on meetup. 3
deathandtaxes Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Take a break. Don't worry about your mojo right now. Three weeks is no time at all to be contemplating riding the horse again after getting out of such a serious relationship. Don't worry about meeting guys right now. Just enjoy YOU. Enjoy being active, going out with friends, for those reasons only. Don't even use those things to meet men. That is NOT what you need right now. 3
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 So you were planning to spend the rest of your life with someone & all ready you want to move on three weeks later with someone else. Ain't no better time in your life than now. Spend some time getting to know who you are rather than filling some lonely void. Being single is something you can survive and thrive in. Once you do a lot of the things you like and love doing, the right person will come along at the right time. Recapture you rather than some mysterious " mojo" that I'm not even sure austin powers possessed accurately. 2
MissBee Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 Take a break. Don't worry about your mojo right now. Three weeks is no time at all to be contemplating riding the horse again after getting out of such a serious relationship. Don't worry about meeting guys right now. Just enjoy YOU. Enjoy being active, going out with friends, for those reasons only. Don't even use those things to meet men. That is NOT what you need right now. I agree. I think it is a blessing in disguise that you're not meeting anyone right now. Perhaps some vibe is being given off that you're not ready and when you genuinely are you'll have more success. Why does meeting "new people" mean new men? If you have friends and hobbies, focus on those things and not so much on meeting men. I guarantee that will work out better in the long run than diving back into even "casual" dating. 1
mattny Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 Im going to agree with everyone else. Take a break. My girlfriend walked out of our relationship 30 days before I was going to propose. Qe were together almost 4 years, 5 as friends. That was 10 months ago. Im just starting to not give a **** about her (saw her at the gym for the first time in 3 months today and i actually felt nothing). My confidence took a nosedive as well but i made some great friends in the process, got myself out there with standards for my next relationship and i happened to just click with a woman last saturday and things have been progressing well. It happened when I least expected it....as much as everyone hates that term (including myself) it turned out that way. Im in the process of setting my boy up with a great friend of mine....he also went through a lot of **** last year around the same time I did..so we supported each other. And its about time he deserved a great girl as he got played around by so many others. Give it some time to yourself. Go out have fun and do stuff single people do!! 1
GoBlue Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 I agree with many of the other posts that three weeks after an engagement ends is a little quick on the trigger, but it seems that you are more interested in companionship than real dating. By the way, I am a divorced man and I almost never approach a woman because I usually think that they wouldn't be interested any way. If a woman expresses an interest it then opens my heart to become more aggressive and willing to pursue her. You will be surprised how a simple "hello" will unlock more opportunities and break down barriers for men who may be interested in engaging you in conversation. 1
jphcbpa Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 take the rest of the year off and reflect, work on you. check back in 2015 with the work you have been doing 1
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