Bumpin in My Trunk Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 But when can you start a new relationship after you got out of an old one? The thing is that I got out of an LDR since June but a month before that I met a girl in school and we just hit it off. Now, a month ago I wasn't really with my ex. She was in this whole indecision thing between choosing me or some other guy and I decided to stick around. Eventually, and magically, her and all dating prospects just vanished. Even the girl that I met in school, after talking non-stop for a month, just vanished. She said she was in her home country for vacation but I didn't believe her (symptom of last relationship) but I still didn't mention anything. After one month, I get a breadcrumb from ex, I'm stupid enough to respond and get my heart broken again and a while after that this girl I met at school shows up again. To her credit, she actually was in another country for vacation. The question is: But when can you start a new relationship after you got out of an old one? From talking with my ex, I see that she jumped from one relationship to another one. Idk if the problems she had/has with her current bf are cuz of me but from in contact for 2 weeks I see she is trying really hard to forget me. She admitted it and from our conversations I know she still loves me and sees all the bad things she's done. Idk if she finally got over me. I assume she did and is having the time of her life because I probably pushed away and more into him. I blocked her but a little too late I guess. Now with me, I'm starting to pick back up with this girl and it looks like she didn't forget about me. She mentioned how she was rooting for me and Colombia all the time and she remembers we have a lunch pending. The one month of NC has helped me see how stupid I am for letting my ex walk all over me. Even if I didn't try to get back with her and tried just to be a friend, I see I still love her and I don't want to make the same mistake as my ex. I want to take things slow but not too slow so that this new girl doesn't run off and become uninterested. At this moment, I still have a lot of progress to make. But should I wait 1 more month? Or 2? Is it safe to enter a new relationship when I'm getting almost so close to healing and getting over someone or is it completely better when there are 0 feelings left?
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 You can start a new relationship when you are ready. That will vary from person to person but generally it's when you no longer care about the EX & have stopped thinking about them. Also, it's when you want the new person in your life for their unique qualities & you aren't just trying to fill the hole left by the departure of the EX. If you worry that you are not ready, you are not ready. When you are ready you won't have those doubts. 1
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