Pleasant Surprise Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Normally anything I've seen about dreams on here have been about people dreaming of reconciliation. Usually they're supposed to disregard these dreams. This makes sense. The dream I had of my ex, however, was very different in nature. It took place during school, during the winter (we were wearing jackets). I was ignoring her for a long time and I could tell she noticed me too. One day I was standing there waiting for my bus or something and she came up just to say hey. Made small talk or whatever. I was pretty resistant to her conversation and cut it off pretty quickly. Then the rest of the dream I was hanging out with some people with her kinda in the background, but I still peeked at her frequently. I've had realistic dreams like this in the past, where the outcome of the dream actually ended up happening (more than once). Is it possible that my ex will approach me and I will become friends with her if I so choose? I know she wants to be friends with me because she didn't stop talking about wanting me in her life during the break up. Recently she dropped a very small breadcrumb which I ignored (just favorited a tweet). I'm close to a month into no contact and even though it sucks I've made progress. I have a feeling she'll contact me eventually, but I'm not sure how I would handle it based on what she says. My biggest fear is that she will reach out to me and it will impede my healing process. I have a feeling I won't be ready for friendship by the time school comes around, but I don't wanna give her the satisfaction of hearing "I'm still hung up on you so I can't be your friend." I feel like NC has helped a lot but not at all in some respects. How can I expedite the process of healing? We didn't even date that long...4 months. Definitely GIGS breakup and she dumped me (even the last time we talked she seemed very unsure but sure of her choice at the same time). I just wanna be done with this situation but I'm holding on to something. Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 My biggest fear is that she will reach out to me Here is your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pleasant Surprise Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 Here is your answer. Should I be anticipating contact? I know I'm on the right road with NC and afraid that her contacting me will set me back. I don't WANT her to contact me. I wouldn't accept any attempt at reconciliation either if given the opportunity. I don't really understand what you mean... I want to be at a point in my life where her being my friend will not be an issue. I wanna move on, but it's not working well because she's always on my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Should I be anticipating contact? I know I'm on the right road with NC and afraid that her contacting me will set me back. I don't WANT her to contact me. I wouldn't accept any attempt at reconciliation either if given the opportunity. I don't really understand what you mean... I want to be at a point in my life where her being my friend will not be an issue. I wanna move on, but it's not working well because she's always on my mind. Hard to say, some do and others do not. If she is constantly on your mind it definitely is not the right time yet for being friends with her. Unfortunately this is one of the things in life we have no say about it, it takes as long as it takes, you have to give it time. Link to post Share on other sites
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