xxxDantexEmmelixxx Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 okay, so I've never really been a clingy, controllive kind of guy... but basically, my girlfriend hangs out with a load of guys (about 7) every Thursday.... and I'm not so happy about it... I like her having friends who don't judge her and all... but these guys in particular, all flirt with her, 1 of them is extremely clingy and won't let go of her 1 of them is very sexual and dirty minded around her 1 of them is the guy she would be going out with, if me and her weren't together.... (I don't know the others much, all I know is they flirt with her a lot..) and she doesn't even seem to mind.. she says stuff like "I only hang out cuz they don't judge me" and "no, they're not like that..." but I can see it with my own eyes! (we have eachothers facebook login details so we can stalk eachothers accounts...) and its on the chats, she doesn't flirt back or anything... but she doesn't seem to mind them.. and she denies that they flirt with her - even though she knows I can see it with my own eyes... not so long ago we had a big argument when she went to the beach with them... I wasn't so happy with her pretty much stripping down into underwear (pretty much what a skimpy little bikini is) with a load of guys who fancy her, and flirt... and are also VERY pervy... I feel like a bad, controllive boyfriend... and I propably am... but when I find it hard dealing in a previous relationship, with a girl who never really even went out of the house, except with family... I find it just kinda impossible to cope with a girl that hangs out with so many flirty, pervy guys, who all fancy her... (I should also clarify, there is 1 other girl who goes with her, her best friend... but it doesn't make me feel much safer since this other girl is quite flirty, and flirts with the other guys, this girl is closer than a sister to me... but still) I just can't cope any longer... I've done some pretty stupid stuff recently, stuff I always talk people out of doing... but can't stop myself... its just impossible for me... she means the world to me, and, as well as being kinda depressed right now (kinda like a man period xD) she hangs out with all these guys... doesn't mind them flirting, or being half-naked in front of them..... and all the messages she's deleted in the past (same logic as deleting texts, just on facebook..) (that pretty much destroyed my trust once and for all...) and the fact, I'm still sure she's hiding stuff from me... it just makes me worry so much, I just can't get on with life... I just never stop thinking about her.... those guys are definitely the worst part of the problem though... please, somebody tell me, am I controllive?... just be honest, no hate... just honesty... please..
SkeletonPanda Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 okay, so I've never really been a clingy, controllive kind of guy... but basically, my girlfriend hangs out with a load of guys (about 7) every Thursday.... and I'm not so happy about it... I like her having friends who don't judge her and all... but these guys in particular, all flirt with her, 1 of them is extremely clingy and won't let go of her 1 of them is very sexual and dirty minded around her 1 of them is the guy she would be going out with, if me and her weren't together.... (I don't know the others much, all I know is they flirt with her a lot..) and she doesn't even seem to mind.. she says stuff like "I only hang out cuz they don't judge me" and "no, they're not like that..." but I can see it with my own eyes! (we have eachothers facebook login details so we can stalk eachothers accounts...) and its on the chats, she doesn't flirt back or anything... but she doesn't seem to mind them.. and she denies that they flirt with her - even though she knows I can see it with my own eyes... not so long ago we had a big argument when she went to the beach with them... I wasn't so happy with her pretty much stripping down into underwear (pretty much what a skimpy little bikini is) with a load of guys who fancy her, and flirt... and are also VERY pervy... I feel like a bad, controllive boyfriend... and I propably am... but when I find it hard dealing in a previous relationship, with a girl who never really even went out of the house, except with family... I find it just kinda impossible to cope with a girl that hangs out with so many flirty, pervy guys, who all fancy her... (I should also clarify, there is 1 other girl who goes with her, her best friend... but it doesn't make me feel much safer since this other girl is quite flirty, and flirts with the other guys, this girl is closer than a sister to me... but still) I just can't cope any longer... I've done some pretty stupid stuff recently, stuff I always talk people out of doing... but can't stop myself... its just impossible for me... she means the world to me, and, as well as being kinda depressed right now (kinda like a man period xD) she hangs out with all these guys... doesn't mind them flirting, or being half-naked in front of them..... and all the messages she's deleted in the past (same logic as deleting texts, just on facebook..) (that pretty much destroyed my trust once and for all...) and the fact, I'm still sure she's hiding stuff from me... it just makes me worry so much, I just can't get on with life... I just never stop thinking about her.... those guys are definitely the worst part of the problem though... please, somebody tell me, am I controllive?... just be honest, no hate... just honesty... please.. hey sweetie.. i read it all now... and you are not clingy, and you are not controllive - you are worried - cuz of all your other relationships... no offence but you are over-thinking, you are worried, and paranoid of my turning out to be like your exes... and you took that one with the last one wrong, i said that there wasn't any other than you i wanted to go out with, but you forced me to say at least one name, so I took the first name (of them who lives near me) in my chat list - and that turned out to be Michael... and about the beach thing, nothing happened! i know that a bikini is almost like underwear, mine is a bit different tho, cuz its not a 'skimpy little bikini', my bikini is actually covering my butt and chest (not like all those sluts in way too small bikinis) .. I don't like showing myself off in bikini, but i hate wearing a swimsuit.... and I already told you that they didn't was pervy with me,and that they didn't touched me. and i know i deleted some messages, and i reject it, so f*cking much!.. but I am not hiding anything, we talked about it so many times, and i keep telling you everything... but you obviously have some thought in your head of what i could have done, and you don't want to let go of those thoughts.. oh, and we are usually 3 girls (sometimes 4) every Thursday, either me, Naja and Janette or Me, Naja and Cecil, or us all 4 i know you can't cope with the guys, but at least have faith in me that i won't let them flirt or get to be pervy with me. And I mind that they are flirting with me, I really do. I just know that they usually make a lot of pervy jokes (also on them self, and on other boys, and Naja, its NOT only me), so what they say, just seems like annoying jokes to me... you are NOT controllive, you are worried and paranoid.. that's all ... well, I don't feel like you are controllive
almond Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 Are you invited to accompany her to these gatherings every Thursday?
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