Starburst23 Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 I've only been dating this guy for 7 months. But I'm really debating breaking it off. I just don't wanna risk making a mistake. Unfortunately he works at the gym so I would have to see him a few times a week there. I know that would be hard. Also, I've only been in the city for less than a year. So his friends have become my friends. I don't want to lose them or for it to be awkward. I know these are both selfish reasons to hold off. But I can't help but think of them. In regards to our relationship, it started off really great. He's nowhere close to romantic but he did used to do thoughtful things that made me feel really cared about. Now though, he doesn't. And 75% of the time he's speaking rudely to me and poking fun at my beliefs or thoughts. I've tried to talk to him about it but he always says I need to learn to "take a joke." He's the one who calls it poking fun. But really, he'll just say... God, you're so dumb. I don't think it's funny. Especially when it happens 10 times a day. Even his best friend/roommate tells me I deserve better. My boyfriend will never ever admit to being wrong. Even when he's especially rude, I basically have to force an apology out of him. And of course it seems meaningless and insincere. Reading back on this, I fully realize I need to leave him. Of course there are good times... But I deserve better. Can someone please help me build the courage to do it? And also maybe some advice on how to get over a break up. I do really really care about him. So I know it will be hard. And I don't have any close girl friends or family in the city. Is it terrible of me to wait another month so that I have the distraction of school and sports to keep me busy? PLEASE HELP!!!! :$
sumathi Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Why do you hesitate from a relationship is abusive? Yes, when your boyfriend passes snide remarks about you he is being abusive. Such relationship do not have a future. It is always better to break free from such a person as his habit of poking fun of you will get worse as years pass. Have a frank talk with him and firmly move away from him. Do not listen to his reasoning as he will be back to his original self before long.
melodicintention Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Is he "negging" you? About the 2nd time of the attitude and I personally would have walked. I agree sumanthi, this guy is verbally and emotionally abusive. Why settle? Worry about school and kick this sorry fool to the curb, and don't look back sister.
SteakandSalad Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 It's a wonder his friends don't say anything to him. He sounds awful don't stand for being emotionally abused you DO deserve much better! As for losing friends well that may happen but you WILL make new friends. Be courageous!
JimmyWeezy Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 My boyfriend left me for what seems to be jumping into 'summer mode'. Apparently he lost his feelings way earlier and dumped me while on vacation so he can enjoy himself and finally be single. So... Don't be a bit** and wait for a comfortable moment for you to break up, do it now. You don't want him to feel how I feel, used and played. He does seem a jerk, so hurry up and stick to it
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