Jump to content

she said she cant do it


While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted (edited)

been taking to this girl, had a fw dates...have had a good time

 

out of nowhere tonight she texted me saying

 

"im not having sex till marriage, if this bothers you we need to end it now"

 

i sai d"not an issue"

 

then she said

 

"im sorry i cant..i mean as un is i cant do you and i"

 

i was shocked

 

i texted back and said "im sorry? i dont understand where this is all coming from"

 

havent heard back since

 

does it sound like i did something..everything was fine till 30 mins ago

 

 

she texte dback and said she just found out a guy she was with in the past was actually still in a relationship with another girl and she feels awful...and feel slowly of herself

 

not sure why she doesnt ant to be with me though now

Edited by lueisredandwhite
Posted

She's not over her ex and she's not ready to be in a relationship.

Posted

She still wants to be with you.

She actually wants to have sex with you.

 

Dont talk yourself out of it

  • Author
Posted

shes saying she doenst want to put me through ehr craziness

Posted
shes saying she doenst want to put me through ehr craziness

 

When people warn you of these things. Take them seriously.

  • Like 8
Posted
been taking to this girl, had a fw dates...have had a good time

 

out of nowhere tonight she texted me saying

 

"im not having sex till marriage, if this bothers you we need to end it now"

 

i sai d"not an issue"

 

then she said

 

"im sorry i cant..i mean as un is i cant do you and i"

 

i was shocked

 

i texted back and said "im sorry? i dont understand where this is all coming from"

 

havent heard back since

 

does it sound like i did something..everything was fine till 30 mins ago

 

 

she texte dback and said she just found out a guy she was with in the past was actually still in a relationship with another girl and she feels awful...and feel slowly of herself

 

not sure why she doesnt ant to be with me though now

 

So in other words...

 

Her: "This will get him to dump me" Um...so I'm not having sex till marriage

You: Not a problem

Her: "Oh ****..is he for real? Damn...now I'm forced to be honest" Okay, I don't want to date you

You: I'm sorry?

Her: Yeah, I'm in love with someone else and I was just using you...no no that makes me look bitchy..um..what else can I say..Ok, My ex is with someone else and now I feel lowly about myself (whew)

  • Like 9
  • Author
Posted

nooo a guy she was with in the past was still in a relationship with another girl. she had no idea, so basically the guy was cheating on his girlfriend with the girl im dating, wheneevr that was

  • Like 1
Posted

She has absolutely no idea what she wants and she is self sabotaging.

  • Like 1
  • Author
Posted
She has absolutely no idea what she wants and she is self sabotaging.

 

 

what should i do

Posted

She was using "not having sex till marriage" thing as an excuse to try and get you to dump her.

 

She's a nutter.

 

Let her go, bro.

 

(She already said she's crazy... BELIEVE HER).

  • Like 3
Posted
what should i do

 

Walk away and don't look back. Not worth the headache

Posted

What you should do is let her walk away. She's lost. She's confused. She's hurt. She's playing games. Either way, she's not worth the effort you want to put into this. Move on.

  • Author
Posted
What you should do is let her walk away. She's lost. She's confused. She's hurt. She's playing games. Either way, she's not worth the effort you want to put into this. Move on.

 

its just dumb..everything seemed to be going great

Posted
its just dumb..everything seemed to be going great

 

Of course it was great. People are on their best behavior during the course of a few dates.

 

She used the no sex till marriage as an excuse to end it and when you agreed, she came clean.

Posted

She was throwing you a bone to let her go, when that didn't work she had to rethink the crazy.

 

You're too nice......

  • Author
Posted
She was throwing you a bone to let her go, when that didn't work she had to rethink the crazy.

 

You're too nice......

 

what you mean im to nice

Posted

just sucs, things were going well

Posted

Agreed with everyone else, she sounds a bit crazy. She'll have lots of drama for you in the foreseeable future.

Posted

I still stand by my comment.

This was a test.

 

I dont know if you past or not

Posted
I still stand by my comment.

This was a test.

 

I dont know if you past or not

 

He definitely failed.

Posted
He definitely failed.

 

Maybe the test was not attracting a crazy woman, and he passed?

  • Like 2
  • Author
Posted
Maybe the test was not attracting a crazy woman, and he passed?

 

everythinf is fine now

Posted
everythinf is fine now

 

Everything was great. Then she got weird & you came asking for help. We told you to walk away because the 180 degree personality change was already problematic. Now she's "fine" again. Ha. What are you going to do when she does this again? She will freak again & again.

 

Good luck.

Posted

In her own way, she's telling you to move on or be prepared for a ton of BS in the future.

 

You've been warned so now you have a choice to make and if your smart, you'll high step it out of there and find someone new.

×
×
  • Create New...