sonicthehedgehog Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 About, well, 3 months ago now, I finally got to be alone with my crush at the end of a party, and I got so excited about finally having a chance to be all alone with her, that I just told her that I liked her. It was kind of awkward since I didn't said things the way I could have said them (I pretty much only said "hey there's something I've been keeping inside for a while, I like you":o) and I really regret not telling her all I wanted to tell her, and approach the subject properly. After I said it, she looked pretty uncomfortable, and just said no, and left. After that we ignored each other for a few days, but things have calmed down now.. (I would be worried if they haven't after 3 months ) I'm such and idiot sometimes... Thought you should know the story first. The thing is that now I want to try and be good friends again with her, since we haven't talked that much since then, and since vacations started, we haven't been able to see each other. I plan on inviting her to my house next week, but I'm not sure how to tell her that I know what I said back then was rushed, and I want to start again. Should I apologize? Tell her right away all I wanted to say? I'm not planning on giving up what I feel for her, I don't want to just bury down something like this and move on, if I can. Is it too late? Please help Thanks.
leavesonautumn Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 First of all, good on you! It's very hard to be vulnerable with people, especially when we don't know how they will react to it. Don't take this one time and be scared to show that vulnerability ever again. You're NOT an idiot, far from it. You were interested in someone who did not feel the same way. We've all been there. I know you like her a lot but it might be a good idea to relax a bit and wait until you move on or your feelings cool off a bit. I'm sorry to say it but I don't think she is interested in you in the way you are interested in her. Unfortunately, it just happens sometimes. If it took you 3 months to get where you are now, I don't think telling her how you feel again is a good idea at this point. I understand you want to be friends again which is totally attainable. You just have to wait until you are no longer romantically interested in her. I've been able to become friends again with ex boyfriends after years of time went by. This is probably not what you wanted to hear but read your post from an outsider's point of view.
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