XFITGrl Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 That is the reason why things ended between my ex and I. We are both 25 and we met on Match in January, we dated for 2 months and were exclusive but he broke things off when he felt his feelings weren't on the same level as mine. A month and a half later he contacted me and wanted a second chance. I decided to and since then we were together almost 2 and a half months. During this time I had adapted to his schedule. He is a cop so I had to be flexible but he made me a priority we had a date night set aside once a week but still saw each other multiple times. We hadn't introduce each other to families and only minimal friends, and he hadn't asked me to be his girlfriend. He has been burned in past relationships (but who hasn't right?) but still I was fine and I let it be it. One night about a week before things ended he brought up kids, apparently because I made a comment about fearing that I wouldn't be able to have my own children. He asked my thoughts on family and kids and I told him, I don't want any kids right now but I have never thought about not having kids. That it was more of a natural progression. He said that he wasn't sure if he wanted kids. We kind of set the conversation aside for the night but the night after we talked about it again and his point of view was in 6 months if we are still on the different page, then what? He has a point. Low and behold a week later he said he was losing sleep over thinking about it, that because we were off on this topic he felt disconnected from me and he didn't know what to do but he didn't think it was fair to me because he was 99.5% sure he never wants kids. He said he wants me to be with someone who can give me everything I want and deserve including a family in the future. With everything said. I have overthought this to the ends of the earth. IT SUCKS! I fell in love with him and he broke my heart twice. Yes, there were other things that were going to be needed to be determined like his level of commitment. But at the end of the day we broke up because he never wants kids and I do in the future. I get so mad because this is a decision that won't even be in my mind for 3+ years down the road. Why can't it be easier? Why can't I be thankful he wants me to be with someone who can give me 100% of what I want/deserve/need? Why do I have this anger in my heart towards him for his own opinion? I feel so alone now and know I need to just get going and start over, but unfortunately a part of me lingers hoping that he'd come back again with his mind changed, and his heart ready. But I know that's not going to happen.
supportlove Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 You are not alone. My story is similar to yours. I post it couple days ago and Ppl gave me good advices. Check about my post. I'd like to share it with you.
supportlove Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 I think he has commitment issues. He find any excuses he could to avoid fully commitment. You'd better keep yourself away from him or be patient without any expectations with him.
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