magicalmazza Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Right.. my original post was http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t57024/#newpost! Now i have hit a bit of trouble.. The day after my birthday she came to my house, with my birthday card. I acted like i was on top of the world and that life was great without her. I simply said oh thx for the card got loads of em now. Then i said i was busy and shut the door. Then the same day my ex girlfriend rung me up crying her eyes out. She had got a virus on her dad's computer and the only person she knew who could fix it was me. So because i can't see any1 crying i went to fix it all the while i was sticking to my guns of no touching her or trying to kiss her. She was crying saying "u hate me dont ya" i was saying no course i dont just to stop her crying. Then it happened i (temporarily) fixed the virus for her and she jumped on me going "i love you soooo much" etc. I was just playing it cool but then she kissed me and all my feelings which i had been fighting for a week suddendly came back. Now we have started speaking on a regular basis. So about 3 days after i went back up to fix her virus completly when i had done that again the same thing happened but this time we ended up sleeping with each other. After that she was saying my head is totally messed up now i love u, i really do. So i left it at that and went home i didnt want to make a fool of myself. She has told the other guy she dosent feel anything for him and that she just needed him to get over me. (Apparently). But ever since we have broke up 3 guys are after her and keep ringing her but she isnt even intrested in what they have to say and only talks to them for like 5 mins. (even apparently) We had a long chat last night (50 mins) and she sorta said that she would love to go back out with me but their are many things stopping her from doing so. My family hate her for what she has do to me. She is never allowed to come to my house again. I was talking on the phone about this couple we know spliting up after 3 years. She said "it is impossible to have a relationship at our age. You are always looking for something better." She knows that i would love to get back with her and last night she said that she loves me and misses me all day. She also said that lets not promise each other anything and just have fun. We really need to sit down and have a good chat about how we really feel because i am really unsure how u feel and am scared you dont feel the same as me. Then i added yes that would be good because even thought we are friends again we are still playing games with each other. I really want this girl back even though she cheated. She keeps telling me she is sooo sorry for treating me like **** but that the only way she could get over me! So any suggestions on how to play this one i have tried telling her what i really feel for her.
Sukotto Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 I'd just say be careful, I done the exact same thing your doing. But I wasn't fixing a virus it was removing spyware. Lasted a week and things just weren't the same, the physical attraction was still there but we started having communication problems. Once she realised that she could have me back she started not wanting me any more, play hard to get and keep her on a shoe string is the only advice i can give you. Don't try to go back to the way things were, take it slowly and maybe only see each other once or twice a week and keep phonecalls / sms to a minimum.
Author magicalmazza Posted February 22, 2005 Author Posted February 22, 2005 As i thought thx for the reply more would be good pls
Author magicalmazza Posted February 22, 2005 Author Posted February 22, 2005 More replies would be good please! really wanna do something for the best or does every1 agree with Sukotto?? Thanks,
Sukotto Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Its a hard situtation to judge, thats all. I tried to take back the ex after she cheated on me and I think I was just giving her that ego boost that she needed. I've read your post again and the only real difference is that I had the support of my family who to be honest didnt know that she cheated on me. My friends did and weren't too happy, but were willing to go along with whatever made me happy. You need to treat this as a new girl, don't try to make things go back to the way they were. They'll do so on their own and mosy likely be different. Please don't take any crap from her, first sign of her losing interest call her on it. Its hard to remove that physical attraction but sometimes the emotional damage just can't be fixed. If you feel like its the right thing to do then go for it, but remember its going to open fresh wounds. You dont mention how long since you've broken up. It was roughly 2 months between my split and the ex wanting to make it work again.
Author magicalmazza Posted February 23, 2005 Author Posted February 23, 2005 It has only been 3 weeks today actually.. I have played it quite well so far i have been getting over her aswell as trying to get back with her. I have set a deadline if she dosent make contact with me today i am gunna move on! No point trying to make something work. When another girl maybe round the corner who will appreciate all the chasing i have been doing! Thanks for the advice.. I have realised i really cant be bothered trying anymore if its going to happen then it will until then i best get on with my life. Thanks again
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