nightbird101 Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 About 5 months ago my 7 year relationship came to an end. My fiance called off the relationship expecting I wouldn't change (and how wrong was she). What she thought I would stay a jobless person who was on the computer all day. To her defiance I understand very clearly why she broke up with me and I completely agree with her decision. What I've done to myself since obviously I promised her I'd change. I'm rather proud of what I've accomplished recently. I have a decent paying job of $27-$30hr (6hrs a day 5 days wk). Been taking up Hip Hop Dance lessons since I've always wanted to learn it. And I'm a glider pilot in training. I'm also in the process of making an animated short for a few film fests. My biggest regret is I wish I had done this YEARS AGO. What the Awkward was My Ex blocked me from EVERYTHING since the last time we spoke (3ish months ago). A mutual friend of ours organised a catch up since he was flying out. There were about 20 of us. I asked prior to the event if my Ex was invited and he confirmed to me she wasn't. So naturally she shows up. It was a rather movie style moment for me. I was walking with a friend talking to bring the sauce over to the BBQ. Because I'm talking to my friend my vision is limited to my left and down at my feet. Once we reached the BBQ I look up and she's right there. I just froze on the spot. As much as I wanted to talk to her and see how she was going. I had the thought in my mind "well she hasn't spoken to me online so there's a chance she'll do the same here if I try and talk to her". What felt like 5 minutes (which I'm sure was 20 seconds at most) I just turned around and joined the rest of the party away from her. After about 2 minutes she walks past everyone saying goodbye and leaves. shortly after she left the host of the even ran over to me going "I swear she said she said she wasn't coming today". I believe she came because she thought I was still lazy and would've stayed at home. What I wish I had done I wish I had spoken to her. At least said hello. Stopped her when she left and told her to stay. Its just seeing her out of the blue like that caught me off guard. I only spotted her when she was with in arms reach of me. I most likely handled the whole thing badly which sucks. She was my first GF which obviously makes her my first EX.
bubbaganoosh Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Nah. You handled it pretty good. Look. She could have just as easily said hi to you too but she didn't. Not to mention that if you would have started up a conversation, you would start the whole process of the break up over again and you would be back at square one. You don't need to prove yourself to her or anyone else. You set goals and made them so enjoy your new successful life and have some fun with your new activities and the right girl will come along.
Mr.Pine Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 I wish I had spoken to her. At least said hello. Stopped her when she left and told her to stay. Nope. You shouldn't have. You did exactly the right thing. She blocked you from her life after the breakup, and you avoided her at the party because you were there to have fun, not to deal with any drama. Stop kicking yourself. The beeyotch left 2 minutes later. She didn't stick around. Your presence moved her to bail. Very telling. I wonder who's taking the breakup worse. I wonder...
supportlove Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 you handled it well. she chose to give you up at the first place. Your post is sorta of inspiring. I wish I could do as well as you.
LovemySons Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Kudos to you for making such significant changes in your life! I think you handled the situation fine. As others have mentioned, she blocked you from every area of her life. If you see her again, and you want to say hi, then do it. But I wouldn't obsess about this one. Good luck!
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 You handled it brilliantly! Now get on with your day & don't give it another thought x
Author nightbird101 Posted July 24, 2014 Author Posted July 24, 2014 thanks for the feed back guys real helpful Just ran into my EX yet again today. Since I was warned about her showing up to dinner I was able to approach things a little better. I walked up to smiled and simply said "hi"...what did I get back. A glare and she walked off. So yea I hate to say it but she can go f@$%k herself.
DKT3 Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 thanks for the feed back guys real helpful Just ran into my EX yet again today. Since I was warned about her showing up to dinner I was able to approach things a little better. I walked up to smiled and simply said "hi"...what did I get back. A glare and she walked off. So yea I hate to say it but she can go f@$%k herself. Some women have a morbid desire to know that your life has come crushing down on top of you with them out of your life. I guess is she fully expected you to be at that party and went there hope to get some ego boosting begging from you. You having not even spoke to her had the opposite effect. Couple that with you doing better in life I'm sure it made her livid, thus the coldness in the return meeting. The question is, what do you want? Would you like another go with her?
Chi townD Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 thanks for the feed back guys real helpful Just ran into my EX yet again today. Since I was warned about her showing up to dinner I was able to approach things a little better. I walked up to smiled and simply said "hi"...what did I get back. A glare and she walked off. So yea I hate to say it but she can go f@$%k herself. Laughable isn't it? When you really look at it? You handled it well. Just don't go out of your way the next time. You just have to think like, "Okay! Tried to be nice. Oh Well...NEXT!"
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