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Girlfriend Just Showed Me Nude Pics of Her Male Neighbor

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Imported Established Member

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No mention is made anywhere of this neighbour actually being married or having a partner.

Read into that what you will....

 

Yes because a married man sending your girlfriend nudes is so much better than a single man doing the same.

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ascendotum Established Member

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The only guys that have ever sent me that kind of picture - are men that know I've already seen their stuff.

 

Your GF has a much more loose boundary than you do.

 

The fact that she's not put off by it means she is ok with being that personal with him.

 

1st sentence - Not these days. Nude shots are flying around in these times. Its practically an opener these days for some guys.

2nd sentence - Yes she does. Looking at a nude pic or fantasizing about the person or doing something about it are two different things as millions of men who love porn will tell you. I'd strongly suspect the neighbor wouldn't mind taking it to the next level but whether the OPs gf would is another story.

3rd sentence - I disagree. Not being put off by possible flirtatious behavior (Im using 'possible here since this guy is a nudist), does not mean you are actively following up on all the leads. Lots of men/women who are attached still get flirted with all the time. Just because they don't have a 'talk to the hand' attitude in shutting the other person down does not mean that's evidence they must be ****ing that person.

If she had dirty intentions, I very much doubt she would willing show her bf, the nude pics of the guy she is banging on the side. If you are cheating you don't volunteer incriminating evidence. If you have a guilty conscience you simply just don't show your partner nude images of your lover, and then battle the interogations from your shocked partner. The neighbor could easily be a former fling, but I thought she would be a lot more discrete if he was a current one.

 

I wonder what her attitude would be if the OP showed her nudeis from a co-worker or female friend. Doubt she would be 'hey cool'

thefooloftheyear Established Member

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... and if you find pictures of some poor animal suspended in mid-air because some arse-whole* of an owner has seriously overloaded the cart the poor creature is pulling, then that's your bag.

you find that funny? I don't. Having worked at a donkey sanctuary, the state of some of the poor animals was pitiful, and had to be seen to be believed.

That poor animal is probably scared, distressed and in some pain.

 

But hey, if that humour tickles your funny-bone, then so be it. You find it amusing. I don't. Does that make you 'abnormal'? No of course not. it just makes what makes you laugh, different.

 

But it's not something that would be immediately obvious to somebody coming into your life. A woman may only find out your humour is off-the-wall (to her) some time down the line. And it could be a deal-breaker, or not, depending on how you manage to discuss it and work things out.

 

(*misspelling deliberate).

 

 

What a great analogy.....:rolleyes:

 

BTW, I dont think its funny...as a matter of fact its quite sad and has a great meaning in my life...

 

You done, now??

 

TFY

Robert Established Member

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Let's keep the posts on topic and less personal, thanks

thefooloftheyear Established Member

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:rolleyes:

 

No woman I have ever been with would ever bother looking for an explanation, if they found out I had crotch shots of the neighbor or any random woman I knew...

 

They'd get out a baseball bat and go A-rod on all my stuff...And thats just for starters..

 

TFY

TigerLilly78 Established Member

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Well he might well be a moron but that's besides the point I think hes a nudest and IF he has a wife shes prob one as well. So to people like that taking vacation pics in the buff is no different then the fully clothed snap shots some family's would share after a vacation.

 

I guess its just not taboo to folk's like that to me the fact the gf showed the pics to the OP means shes not trying to hide it. So I doubt there's anything going on hanky pankey wise that doesn't mean its a tactful choice but yeah..

 

This is just me but if I met the guy and it was all explained that they are avid nudists and nothing was hidden I prob wouldn't have any further issues with it cause it would be a logical explanation its a valid all be it alternative lifestyle that's all.

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Tbisb74 Established Member

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No mention is made anywhere of this neighbour actually being married or having a partner.

Read into that what you will....

 

Yes because a married man sending your girlfriend nudes is so much better than a single man doing the same.

 

That wasn't my point. My point is that CarrieT introduced the concept of whether his wife or partner knew about the texts/pictures. I pointed out that there is no actual mention of a partner... So the point is moot.

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Emilia Established Member

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OP, your lady doesn't sound.... classy. To put it politely. I don't know your or her background but this isn't how a grown woman with manners and a good family grounding is supposed to behave. I'd assume this bothers you too, not only the lack of respect.

 

She sounds like someone who has no idea about boundaries at best, disrespectful at worst.

 

You need to evaluate whether you can do better...

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Art_Critic Established Member

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Well he might well be a moron but that's besides the point I think hes a nudest and IF he has a wife shes prob one as well.

 

That might explain why the neighbor gave her the pics, why then does the girl he is dating have them on her phone ?

 

I guess she is a nudist too ?... possible I guess but even for a nudist isn't is going to far to keep men's junk pics on your phone while dating someone ?

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TigerLilly78 Established Member

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That might explain why the neighbor gave her the pics, why then does the girl he is dating have them on her phone ?

 

I guess she is a nudist too ?... possible I guess but even for a nudist isn't is going to far to keep men's junk pics on your phone while dating someone ?

 

Well in my view and this is the only way I could see it was if the male friend saw it as no different then sending another vacation pic to a friend? I don't know its one explanation like I said to them pics are pics ide imagine. Maybe he did so cause he knows shes accepting of his lifestyle? didn't say it was the best idea or tactful but its a reason..

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Yea, something seems a bit off here. A forty-something year old woman, in a relationship, hangs out often with a male neighbor (that the boyfriend hasn't met)... who just happens to not wear clothes... sends her pics of his weenie... and said forty-something woman saves the pics on her phone and shows them to boyfriend.

 

OP, did you ask her if he wears clothes when they're hanging out, or are they hanging out in a more literal sense? I wonder what kind of pics she's sending him, and if she wears clothes for social visits? Of course, none of this automatically means she's doing him, but it sounds like you'd prefer the type of woman who is more predisposed to hanging out with neighbors who do wear clothes, and don't have penises.

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Emilia Established Member

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Well in my view and this is the only way I could see it was if the male friend saw it as no different then sending another vacation pic to a friend? I don't know its one explanation like I said to them pics are pics ide imagine. Maybe he did so cause he knows shes accepting of his lifestyle? didn't say it was the best idea or tactful but its a reason..

Nudists are not weirdos (or not in this sense, at least), they don't just send naked pictures of themselves to any Tom, Dick and Harry just because they like a bit of naked walking. They are normal human beings who realise that it's not to everyone's taste. They have boundaries like everyone else.

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TigerLilly78 Established Member

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Nudists are not weirdos (or not in this sense, at least), they don't just send naked pictures of themselves to any Tom, Dick and Harry just because they like a bit of naked walking. They are normal human beings who realise that it's not to everyone's taste. They have boundaries like everyone else.

 

Never said nudists are weirdos but if they are close friends and he knows she don't care? I don't know its just one explanation I just cant see the OPs GF having a fling with the nabor and sitting him down and showing him the evidence like hey take a lookie at this surely not..lol

Emilia Established Member

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Never said nudists are weirdos but if they are close friends and he knows she don't care? I don't know its just one explanation I just cant see the OPs GF having a fling with the nabor and sitting him down and showing him the evidence like hey take a lookie at this surely not..lol

So you are saying that they are weirdos? Essentially? It is an extremely unlikely explanation.

TigerLilly78 Established Member

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So you are saying that they are weirdos? Essentially? It is an extremely unlikely explanation.

 

Not to sure were your drawing that conclusion from exactly but NO I don't think they are. I do think that its a lifestyle and if one friend knows another isn't bothered by his chosen lifestyle then yes maybe he sent her some pics of him on vacation nude?

 

I don't know and frankly don't want to know the exact content of the pics if they were only dick picks then yeah I think thats rather cut and dry. But for all we know they could have been pics of the dude playing volleyball or in a group of others who knows..

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Whenever you see pics of nudists they are always playing Volleyball. Its never darts or angling.

 

Think we are all waiting for the OP to fill in some blanks here.

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Tbisb74 Established Member

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Whenever you see pics of nudists they are always playing Volleyball. Its never darts or angling.

 

Think we are all waiting for the OP to fill in some blanks here.

 

I used to belong to a naturist club,

Believe me, you have never seen anything funnier than several, stout and burly gentlemen all acting as professional volunteers, building a proper, solid new brick-built club-house, wearing the pre-requisite hard-hats and safety work boots - and nothing in between. Defies belief that they'd protect their extremities but leave their best friends exposed to all manner of potential hazards....!

 

Oh, and don't let anybody tell you that people frequenting a naturist club are the epitome of 'the Body beautiful'. Nothing could be further from that myth....

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This doesn't have to be an issue about nudism as a lifestyle, or even about whether this guy could have innocent motives for sending the pics (I don't believe that's the case, but I'm cynical that way).

 

This is merely an issue about whether the OP is cool about this and other aspects of the relationship between his gf and nekkiddude. He doesn't have to be. He's within his rights to think that's a dynamic that he's not okay with.

 

The question he needs to be asking himself is whether it's a deal-killer.

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beach Established Member

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Did you ask her why her neighbor feels so comfortable with her - enough to send nudie pictures? What is her response?

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