lueisredandwhite Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 this girl im dating (we arent a official couple) asked me what my views on relationships are i said , i dont understand and she said whats your take, your opinion my reply was "i see it as two people who like each othr and think something is there chemistry wise that it could advance into something serious" anyone think thats a good answer or was it stupid?
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 I don't think she was looking for your "view" on relationships and not so much your definition. Like how you feel about being in a relationship and what your expectations are. Not necessarily a stupid answer, but probably not what she was fishing for.
Gaeta Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 this girl im dating (we arent a official couple) asked me what my views on relationships are I hate these vague questions. If she wanted to know something specific then she should have asked. She asked a vague question so she got a vague answer. Next time ask her what's her views on relationship, then you can complete your answer. When the question is too vague after I reply I will sometimes ask the person if I answered their question. Then they get more specific about what information they were looking for. 2
Author lueisredandwhite Posted July 20, 2014 Author Posted July 20, 2014 her reply was....they should be effortless, not to say effort isnt put in it but it shouldnt be a chore. i wont ever "work on" a relationship because if it is right there wouldnt be need. i see th person im with as an extension of my happiniess and i of his so i guess i should have went into more detail
Survivor12 Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 her reply was....they should be effortless, not to say effort isnt put in it but it shouldnt be a chore. i wont ever "work on" a relationship because if it is right there wouldnt be need. i see th person im with as an extension of my happiniess and i of his so i guess i should have went into more detail She's got a lot of maturing to do if she believes that a relationship doesn't take work (i.e. effort). In a good & healthy relationship, one's happiness is not dependent on the other. Think about it--both partners in a relationship standing on their own two feet is much stronger than if they must rely on the other to hold them up. Which has more stability--a chair with four legs or a stool with 3? This girl is looking for a lap dog.
Gaeta Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 her reply was....they should be effortless, not to say effort isnt put in it but it shouldnt be a chore. i wont ever "work on" a relationship because if it is right there wouldnt be need. i see th person im with as an extension of my happiniess and i of his She watched too many Walt Disney movies. Yes it should start very smoothly but does she think people go through long term relationships, parenthood, financial stress, health issues, without ever working on their relationship! 2
TXGuy Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 her reply was....they should be effortless, not to say effort isnt put in it but it shouldnt be a chore. i wont ever "work on" a relationship because if it is right there wouldnt be need. i see th person im with as an extension of my happiniess and i of his so i guess i should have went into more detail She means it should be effortless on her end. She expects you (or the man) do put in all of the effort and make it effortless for her. If I had to guess, I would say she is under 25. That attitude can be had at any age, but most women figure out it is not the case by 30.
veggirl Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 her reply was....they should be effortless, not to say effort isnt put in it but it shouldnt be a chore. i wont ever "work on" a relationship because if it is right there wouldnt be need. i see th person im with as an extension of my happiniess and i of his so i guess i should have went into more detail I wouldn't date someone who blatantly tells me they bail when things get tough. That's not a partner.
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