nickieh8 Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 hi, im new to this site and i simply joined it in the hope that you could help me, im a 16 year old lad maddly in love with a girl (15), and this is like a short story i hope you can advise me on I started dating this girl in september 2004,she was new to the area and started hnging around with the people i also hang around with,her name is ?????, me and ????? started dating and we were in love with each other and even went threw alot of problems but allways came threw at the end stronger than ever,one of the things was a miscarrage which we both thort had happend,the problem is she missed a period in december and her dad was saying her was gonna get a pregnance test because he was worryed About 3 weeks before i took her to a sex clinic and she took one there and it came back saying she wasnt, a week later she still felt the same so together we went and bought a home pregnance test, she took that and it came back saying she wasnt pregnant again, by the time her dad knew she had missed almost 2 periods he told her he would get her a pregnace test,he said this on the wensday, on the friday i walked home with ????? and kissed her goodbye and 2 hours later she would normally come round mine, i got a fone call about 30 mins after walkin her home,it was ????? crying down the fone saying she couldnt be with me because her dad said so,her refused to let her out and even took her to and from school just so i couldnt see her, ok so heres the bigger twist ????? had a meeting at school with a few other parents and her dad,all because she had a fight with !!!!, now !!!! is an ex of mine who i dated for over 6 months but split up because i sent her a text msg saying i wanted to have sex with her,well her mom opened the message and told me i was to stay away from her, well in this meetin !!!! had both her mom and dad there,and they were waiting to go in the meeting and ?????`s dad and $$$$$(?????`s best friend) well her mom was there,????? and $$$$$ parents sat together in the waiting room and !!!!`s parents thort they were $$$$$`s parents, they told them that i was to blame for all the arguements even tho i dont even attend that school,they also said that !!!! told them that i forced her into having sex with me which is a lie, now ?????`s dad started to believe i was like that and i pressured girls into having sex with me,which is a lie because i lost my virginaty to ????? and shes the only girl i have ever had sex with,so her dad was now evern more mader than the friday a couple of days ago, wel its now3 weeks since all this begun, i still have contact with ????? because i call her on her old mobile because her dad took away her new one,they dont know she has it. well her mom is starting to be nice to her but her dad still isnt, i need this girl and i would do anythink, after several fone calls shes said shes unsure what to do but last night she told me she loves me and wants to be with me but were gonna have to wait til shes 16 and she will move in with me Shes 16 in 9 months and thats a long time to go without seeing the one you love as many of you may know, i was hopeing a few parents may read this and advise me best, i do love this girl but i dont think i can lose the girl i love all because of her dad been unfair, ive spoke to my mom and shes willing to go round to see ?????`s parents n discuse the matter, i told ????? and she went mad telling me if i done that then i might as well forget us, i dont think im been strung along but could you help me How can i get her back? What should i do? Any other ideas to get her back? Any other ideas how to win her parents trust back? I hope you can help because i would really aprechate it, thanks for reading this
NiCoLe20 Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 well her parents are basically thinking that she's too young to be dating & having sex. at 15 yrs old, i agree 100% with them... just back off and give them some space for a few weeks. i mean, if you really love this girl then you'd do anything to gain respect right? and i hope your using condoms b/c by the sound of this post, if you were, she shouldnt be worried about missing her period. also sounds like the reason you really love this girl is b/c she gives it up. if your only sticking around her b/c you can have sex with her thats wrong. seems like you just want her around so you can have sex... but i could be wrong. just let her have some time away from you so her parents arent thinking anything bad about you.. see what happens
tiki Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 I'd suggest that you stay away from her, keep your distance, and quit trying to have sex with girls. You're too young to be having sex with and knocking up girls. There's no wonder the parents are pissed. It's time to grow up, show some respect and responsibility. THEN try winning a girl's parents over.
LittleMiss Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 I agree with Nicole and Tiki. You are both too young to be having sex. I don't think either of you can handle the consequences of adult behavior. I mean if she ended up pregnant how were you planning on taking care of a baby at such a young age. That's a huge life changing responsibilty. Trust me. I'm 22 and a single mom and it's the hardest job I've ever had. I would stay away for a while and not try to contact her parents either. I'm a parent now and if she were my daughter I would be mad at you as well and she would be grounded. I think you should concetrate on being a teenager and having fun with friends. Save worrying about relationships and girlfriends for your adult years. Trust me there is much more and much worse to come.
Author nickieh8 Posted February 22, 2005 Author Posted February 22, 2005 well ive gave it 3 weeks but it is really killing me inside, and no im not just useing her for sex,i enjoy making love with her but id much rather prefer just to be in her company. i made contact with her today and we spoke and are feelings are the same, she even sugested running away, i told her its not best to do it but if she does i cant go with her because i know her parents will be round mine first thing blameing, i do need this girl and i love having a relationship with her. i would die for her and i mean it. i could seriously see myself growing old with her,we connect in so many ways its unbeliveable. also she had 2 previous boyfriends who she had sex with and her parents know about these two lads so thats why i feel its unfair on me
clynn Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 They are reacting fairly normally, if irrationally. Stay in touch periodically with her and remain friends with her. If you can see her once in a while, do you go to the same school? Then that might help. After all, you don't actually NEED another person it is just nice to WANT another person. Have you ever read or watched Romeo & Juliet? Anyhow, good luck with it. I would work for the time being on just being FRIENDS ONLY with her and if that can survive then anything can. Time will tell. (By the way, I know you're young for all of this stuff.....that being said, I think that it is possible for people to be swept away by young love and why not???)
dmac Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 haha, he started off with "and this is like a short story "
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by clynn Have you ever read or watched Romeo & Juliet? Yes, I strongly recommend this one Although don't try the last scene at home with your girlfriend. With or without a member of the clergy
_Saffy_ Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Yes, I strongly recommend this one Although don't try the last scene at home with your girlfriend. With or without a member of the clergy
Lightson Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Nickie8 I agree with the parents, however I know it would be hard to keep the two of you apart if you love each other. It seems as though the two of you may not have given thought to the consequences of having a sexual relationship. This (as well as your age) is why the parents do not want you to be together. You said she won't be 16 for 9 months. Nine months is also the amount of time for a pregnant teen to give birth to your baby. Can you imagine still being together in nine months? I know that in England, it is illegal to have sex before you are 16. If the two of you could just be friends and grow up for the next year it would be best. Show the parents you respect their daughter by backing away. If, when she turns 16, you two still want to be together and have an intimate relationship, you must both approach her parents. Explain that you love and respect each other. Tell them you want to be safe but you want to be together. Show them how mature you both are by telling them you will use condoms and the pill so she won't get pregant. If you act responsibly, talk calmly and take things slowly, showing the parents that you are not using their daughter, but truly care for and respect her, when she is 16, they may come around. Good Luck
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