Hello_is_it_me Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 So my thing is similar to another post I just read (re: FACEBOOK lol). My gf and I are at 5 months. When we initially dated, I noticed she was pretty active with posting/liking pictures of her recent ex and he the same on her page. I was a little annoyed at it at first but never set any ultimatum. Just said a time or two that it made me uncomfortable. Well, as time passed I noticed that contact between them pretty much completely ceased. So for months there was nothing. Though within the last month I've been working a new job and we haven't seen eachother as much. Around a few weeks ago I noticed that the facebook-liking-eachother's photos has come back and picked up again. I expressed again how contact with exes makes me uncomfortable and she replies with, "I have friends and I'm not going to change who I am."
Gaeta Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 So liking someone's picture on FB is some type of cheating now?
Author Hello_is_it_me Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 So liking someone's picture on FB is some type of cheating now? Lol petty, I know. Though.. Again, I told her contact with exes is not my thing.
Gaeta Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Are you saying liking his pictures is a form of communication or they do communicate as in good old time by phone and email etc?
Author Hello_is_it_me Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 Are you saying liking his pictures is a form of communication or they do communicate as in good old time by phone and email etc? She said they ramdomly bumped into eachother recently and caught up a little bit. After that is when the facebook contact went back to the level from when we first dated. My point being - Is it peculiar that" We first start dating, she comments/likes amost everything this one ex she was with posts on there (pics and statuses). And he on hers. After around a month or two, contact between them on fbook ceases completely. Our relationship starts to have problems a few months later and suddenly the contact with her and the ex on facebook suddenly goes back to the level it was before.
Assasda Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 She's a grown ass woman. Youre gonna either trust her or not, but you cant control her
PogoStick Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 She's going to do it, and it's "not your thing". So how are you going to break up with her?
Author Hello_is_it_me Posted July 20, 2014 Author Posted July 20, 2014 Update: I asked her why the increase in contact now and she said: At first did the whole "You're stalking me on fbook!?" thing to try to divert Then said, "He's a close friend who's always been there for me. I'm not cutting him out of my life." And finally, "Yeah well, if you were there for me when I needed you maybe I wouldn't need to contact him." Showing true loyalty, lol -___- 1
Gaeta Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Update: I asked her why the increase in contact now and she said: At first did the whole "You're stalking me on fbook!?" thing to try to divert Then said, "He's a close friend who's always been there for me. I'm not cutting him out of my life." And finally, "Yeah well, if you were there for me when I needed you maybe I wouldn't need to contact him." Showing true loyalty, lol -___- I think you know what you need to do. 2
Author Hello_is_it_me Posted July 20, 2014 Author Posted July 20, 2014 I think you know what you need to do. So you see now how innocent "likes" of facebook posts and pictures can indicate something more? 2
FortunateSon Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Update: I asked her why the increase in contact now and she said: At first did the whole "You're stalking me on fbook!?" thing to try to divert Then said, "He's a close friend who's always been there for me. I'm not cutting him out of my life." And finally, "Yeah well, if you were there for me when I needed you maybe I wouldn't need to contact him." Showing true loyalty, lol -___- Pull the plug, this girl is nothing but trouble. 1
rewl Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Show her you can use facebook as well, dump her on facebook. 1
Gaeta Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 So you see now how innocent "likes" of facebook posts and pictures can indicate something more? That is a total new concept to me. I only have family on my FB. I never add men I date. I'm smarter than that 1
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Personally trusting your gut is always advisable. I know sometimes people want to give others the benefit of the doubt and brush things off. But you didn't and that's commendable. If i had done the same thing, and trusted my instincts before, I don't thinn I would have been hurt as much as I have previously. It's not about " trust issues" it's a knowing that something isn't right
longjohn Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 I think I'd be out of there if an ex takes priority over you, the current bf.
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