My ex claims that someone sent texts to him claiming that I used him

[suchamamasboy]

Hi guys! So I haven't talked to my ex since he tried to get me back (you can read my previous posts for more info) and I've been pretty happy.

 

So, my ex sent me an email claiming that someone sent him messages of a conversation where I claimed that I was only with him for his money. He was very angry and told me never to contact him again. I was confused because:

 

1) I haven't been in contact with him for a long time so I don't know why he had to tell me never to contact him again. I think that he used that line to get some kind of power because he said that when he broke up with me too.

 

and

 

2)I was never with him for his money and I would have never even mentioned something like that to anyone because it's something I never thought about. We actually had an argument once about the fact that I didn't want him to buy me a very expensive gift and he said it was no problem. I told him that I was uncomfortable with it, and refused to let him buy it. If I were with him for his money, I would have taken it without a fuss. He didn't even get me anything for Valentine's day and I gave no f*****. I was content watching Netflix.

 

 

My friends believe that he's lying, but there is one person who may be behind this. I recently stopped being friends with someone because they lied about everything, and they also had the maturity of a middle schooler. I'm guessing that the friend told my ex these lies and he said something about messages because he thought I would admit to it. However, I know there are no messages because like I said, I never said anything like that or even thought it.

 

The second possibility is my ex is just trying to get in contact with me and this is his way of doing that.

 

I just don't want my ex to think I was using him for anything. I even sent an email telling him of instances where it was very clear where I wasn't with him for money, but he never replied. Although I'm over my ex, I feel like this is an attack on my character. I'm a good person, and I know that. I just don't want him to think differently.

 

What should I do?

[suchamamasboy]

Also, my ex lied a lot. Even about very small things. I don't know what to believe.

[oldshirt]

One of the benefits of someone being an "ex" is that you don't have to put up with their crap or concern yourself about what they are thinking anymore. you can just go on with your own life and not worry about appeasing them any more.

[dumbass2]

Very simple. No contact. You don't need to convince him of anything and he probably will believe what he wants to any way. You wont be able to change that. There is nothing you can or should do at this point. It's meaningless. You know who you are and that's all that matters.

 

He said do not contact him again so DO NOT respond. Probably what he wants and then he wont respond back anyway or do so with something you don't want to hear.

 

Block him on email, phone and anything else where he could contact you so you don't have to see or hear anything.

 

You said you hadn't communicated in a while and you were happy.

 

Be happy again! You don't need him.

[suchamamasboy]

One of the benefits of someone being an "ex" is that you don't have to put up with their crap or concern yourself about what they are thinking anymore. you can just go on with your own life and not worry about appeasing them any more.

 

Thanks! I'm trying really hard not to care about what he thinks, but I don't want him to hate me. Also, this is petty, but I feel like now he has validation for not being with me if he thinks I used him. Before, it was "he dumped me because his mom told him to" and now I look like that bad guy.

 

It just makes me sad.

[suchamamasboy]

You know who you are and that's all that matters.

 

So true. I think I'm going to be at peace now. Thank you. I'm also wondering if this is something his spiteful mom has been telling him. Gosh, he's full of drama.

[loversquarrel]

Honestly after reading your post, I think you are both full of drama. He broke up with you, he obviously doesn't think very highly of you anyway so why let crap like this get to you?? He probably in all likelihood knows such comments get to you - and they do. He doesn't want you contacting him, you said you haven't but you did?!?!?

 

Next time, ignore it. How can you move on if you let such trivial things bother you?

[Tbisb74]

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What should I do?

 

You should give a s*_*t.

[mightycpa]

Give him what he wants. Don't ever contact him again.

 

There are two possibilities:

 

1) he's the kind of guy who will believe this about you because somebody told him, and he can't trust his memory or instincts about the time you were together, making him a complete DRAMA BOY

 

or

 

2) He's trying to manipulate you into contacting him, and it is almost working.

 

I predict that if you ignore it, he'll be back with an apology about his last letter, and some new emotion-filled explanation designed to make you respond.

[suchamamasboy]

He just sent me screenshots of the texts! I don't know if this is something he is doing or if someone (the person I mentioned before is behind this). I loved him a lot, and I was never with him for his money. Whoever is behind this is really cruel, whether it's him or my ex friend.

 

I'm not going to respond, but it feels like day 1 of my breakup again. If you read my posts, you would see how difficult this breakup was for me and it wouldn't have been that hard if I was with him for his money.

 

There were even times that I felt suicidal.

 

I feel like my whole world is crashing down. Who would do something like this? I guess he doesn't remember the times that I declined his offers of paying for dates. Sure, he paid for things sometime, but I also paid for things. We took turns. On top of that, when I found out how much wealth he had, I had a serious conversation with my best friend about whether to stay with him or not as we had only been together for about two months and it was overwhelming for me.

 

I just don't want him to hate him. I guess as long as I know that I never used him, I'll get over this.

[suchamamasboy]

Honestly after reading your post, I think you are both full of drama. He broke up with you, he obviously doesn't think very highly of you anyway so why let crap like this get to you?? He probably in all likelihood knows such comments get to you - and they do. He doesn't want you contacting him, you said you haven't but you did?!?!?

 

Next time, ignore it. How can you move on if you let such trivial things bother you?

 

How am I full of drama? This is upsetting because I loved this guy a lot and I don't want him to think that I never loved him.

 

And I only contacted him to let him know that I didn't want to get together with him. Maybe you should read better.

[dumbass2]

You HAVE TO BLOCK him! I wish I had done that earlier with my ex. Please block him everywhere you can so you can get over this. You don't need this. If you don't block him it means that you still want to try and get him back and if that is the case, go ahead and call, email and text your heart out, but you will more then likely be sorry and this will go on a lot longer and you will continue to feel pain. I'm with you. I was there and still not 100% over her.

[suchamamasboy]

You HAVE TO BLOCK him! I wish I had done that earlier with my ex. Please block him everywhere you can so you can get over this. You don't need this. If you don't block him it means that you still want to try and get him back and if that is the case, go ahead and call, email and text your heart out, but you will more then likely be sorry and this will go on a lot longer and you will continue to feel pain. I'm with you. I was there and still not 100% over her.

 

I just blocked him. Thanks. I''m not going to respond. It's not worth it. And I don't want to try to get him back. I already said no to him when he wanted to reconcile.

[suchamamasboy]

Edit: The contact aforementioned was almost a month ago when he wanted to reconcile, and I said no.

[dumbass2]

Edit: The contact aforementioned was almost a month ago when he wanted to reconcile, and I said no.

 

you said no back then. Are you having seconds thoughts now?

[chelsea2011]

I just logged in to say good for you for standng up for yourself! That's awesome. Don't worry about what your ex is saying - as long as you know the truth it doesn't matter. You dodged a bullet with this guy because he can't even fart without his mother's approval. That in and of itself tells you what kinda boy he is. Eww, what a schmucky putz.

 

I want to say before I go I wish you the best and stay strong! Don't take any sheet from him. He sounds like artotal loser and his mom doesn't like you because you were making him grow up and think for himself. That means she can't control him if that happens. Keep up the good work!

 

I'm logging out and making this my last post on Loveshack because some a**hole is stalking me on here trying to p*ss me off. He's can only survive by dumping his dysfuntional sheet on me! He thinks I'm his whipping post. What an a**.

 

Good luck and continue standing up for yourself and don't get sucked back into his weirdo world. He's an asshat.

[loversquarrel]

How am I full of drama? This is upsetting because I loved this guy a lot and I don't want him to think that I never loved him.

 

And I only contacted him to let him know that I didn't want to get together with him. Maybe you should read better.

 

I said you both were, and I did read your post. Maybe you should read it yourself. He told you not to contact him again, so what did you do - contacted him. Leave the poor guy alone.

[suchamamasboy]

I said you both were, and I did read your post. Maybe you should read it yourself. He told you not to contact him again, so what did you do - contacted him. Leave the poor guy alone.

 

Poor guy? Maybe he should stop contacting me. He's the one who sent me an email after I rejected his attempts at reconciliation. It's weird to end someone an email after not talking to them for over a month and end with, "don't contact me". So he should leave me alone. He was the one calling me at all hours of the day to try to get back with me.

 

 

Responding to an email that he sent me does not make him deserving of a "poor guy" title. I can respond to defend my character. I could understand if I sent him multiple emails.

[suchamamasboy]

you said no back then. Are you having seconds thoughts now?

 

No, I'm not. I just know that I'm better off. I just need a guy who at least showers regularly and doesn't have poop stains in their underwear:p

 

 

I don't think he'll be ever be that guy.

[loversquarrel]

Poor guy? Maybe he should stop contacting me. He's the one who sent me an email after I rejected his attempts at reconciliation. It's weird to end someone an email after not talking to them for over a month and end with, "don't contact me". So he should leave me alone. He was the one calling me at all hours of the day to try to get back with me.

 

 

Responding to an email that he sent me does not make him deserving of a "poor guy" title. I can respond to defend my character. I could understand if I sent him multiple emails.

 

He shouldn't contact you, you are correct...but he did, so your next best option is to IGNORE it. You bad mouth him enough, maybe you would be better served treating him with indifference. Showing him you are bothered by what he may think gives him power over you.

[suchamamasboy]

He shouldn't contact you, you are correct...but he did, so your next best option is to IGNORE it. You bad mouth him enough, maybe you would be better served treating him with indifference. Showing him you are bothered by what he may think gives him power over you.

 

Thanks for your response.