Jadedbyluv Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Something I have learned from a lot of my past relationships is that actions speak louder than words. I posted something the other day about the guy in dating. I'm starting to really evaluate the relationship, and if this is someone I really want to be with. In the beginning, things did go fast but I went with. I hadn't felt those butterflies in a long time with someone. We used to talk every night on the phone, even if it was to say good night. He would try to make plans with me in advance. He would tell me he wish he could see me every night. He talked about the future. However, recently he has seemed more distant. He's not texting as much. He never calls me anymore. Making plans is a lot tougher. Yet he still told me he was falling for me. I have developed feelings for him, and I am falling for him. But even though he said he felt that way, his actions aren't matching his words. If you want to see someone every night, why is it so hard to make plans? If you're falling in love with someone, why don't you want to talk to them? It doesn't make sense to me. I don't know if I'm overthinking things or not. It just seems too soon for someone to be flaky and distant.
Author Jadedbyluv Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 Yes I have met him. We have been in an exclusive relationship.
fred123 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 hmm my gut says bail. iv been in ur shoes before. sorry
fred123 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 find someone who wants to be with u as much as u do them 2
rocketman122 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 seems like youre getting into it much more and I think he got up to speed faster that it took you and is now just in cruise control. youre just catching up to him now. maybe youre smothering him? how long together? how many times do u meet a week?
Author Jadedbyluv Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 seems like youre getting into it much more and I think he got up to speed faster that it took you and is now just in cruise control. youre just catching up to him now. maybe youre smothering him? how long together? how many times do u meet a week? It's only been about 2 months. We were seeing each other every weekend at first. Now it's maybe once a week or every other week. He is always doing something on the weekend now.
Assasda Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I get the feeling that you nag him a lot. If thats the case, he may just not like that, and thats whats keeping him away. Just enjoy the moment for now, and stop worrying
Gaeta Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 What kind of things is he doing? Yes actions speak louder than words. He is choosing to do other things than seeing you unless he is obligated to go to work. If you think about the moment he started changing, did something happen? Is it when you started being intimate? Honestly I think you've become too much work. He was not that serious about a relationship but now that you need all kind of re-assurance concerning your abusive past he's losing interest. He said he viewed it as being weak. Let this guy go, he changed his mind about you be he doesn't have the gut to tell you.
Author Jadedbyluv Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 I get the feeling that you nag him a lot. If thats the case, he may just not like that, and thats whats keeping him away. Just enjoy the moment for now, and stop worrying I wouldn't say I nag him a lot. The amount we have communicated has remained the same from the get go. I haven't texted him all week since he is away. He hasn't texted me either.
Author Jadedbyluv Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 What kind of things is he doing? Yes actions speak louder than words. He is choosing to do other things than seeing you unless he is obligated to go to work. If you think about the moment he started changing, did something happen? Is it when you started being intimate? Honestly I think you've become too much work. He was not that serious about a relationship but now that you need all kind of re-assurance concerning your abusive past he's losing interest. He said he viewed it as being weak. Let this guy go, he changed his mind about you be he doesn't have the gut to tell you. Things started changing when my work schedule got hectic. I worked 100 hours one week and I couldn't see him all week and weekend. From the beginning, he said he was looking for long term and he doesn't date just to date. It is possible he may have changed his mind. But any stand up, mature guy who told you they had fallen in love with you would still have the decency and respect to properly end things. And I know I needed reassurance. This relationship has gone fast and I just wanted to make sure it wasn't going too fast. That's why I asked him to be patient with me. I needed reassurance because sometimes the hottest love has the coldest end. If things progressed a little slower, I probably wouldn't need as much reassurance. This is what I was afraid of. Him being so excited and interested in the beginning only to lose interest and get bored early on.
Elle1975 Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 I wouldn't say I nag him a lot. The amount we have communicated has remained the same from the get go. I haven't texted him all week since he is away. He hasn't texted me either. Pull the plug. That's not a loving relationship. He's pulling a slow fade. I would hate for you to get dumped. At least you will walk away with your self-esteem. 1
Gaeta Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 This is what I was afraid of. Him being so excited and interested in the beginning only to lose interest and get bored early on. Unfortunately these things happen so often. Every big intense beginning I had ended up being like fireworks, ends as fast as they starts. I agree you pull away from this. Remember to stay in the driver's seat of your life.
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