Kateskips Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 So here's the thing, me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and a half. Up until recently 2 days ago, he decided to tell me that he is unhappy with this relationship, and wanted to call it quits. I on the other hand wanted to know "why?" Dating him, he is 32 and I am 22 years old. We come from different backgrounds, him being Armenian and me being a Filipino-American. So already the age difference, and cultural barrier that is between us. However, knowingly recently last month around June, the first time he wanted to call it quits was because I failed to support him. That to him was a big deal because, how would he be with this person if they can't support him. I on the other hand regret, and knew I was wrong to not be supportive when he only ask me this one thing. To come with him to this business expo. I talked him out and eventually we were together in less than 24 hours, that is when the relationship started getting bumpy. Lack of sex, intimacy, and even just being next to each other felt empty. He broke up with me because he said that: he is unhappy, depressed, loves me but not enough, and believes it's best for us to be apart. The connection, and chemistry is not there, and especially kept mentioning that he doesn't see us in the future, happy. He basically gave up, only thing is that he has made up his mind saying he doesn't wanna be with me. I asked him why, but he won't give me answers. He is going through a loop. I love him a lot, and would do anything to make things work between me and him. Help!
owenlee Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 I'm sorry you love him. You have a lot going against you in this relationship. Unless you are absolutely sure you are strong enough, I usually advice against dating folks when your values, approaches, backgrounds, ages and things along those lines are all drastically different. It can make for a good story but usually makes for a heart breaking and uncomfortable relationship. You really can't change his misery to happiness; he has to do that. If you're willing to help him find help and stand by while he does, that's an option, but a depressed person is often tough to reach, and getting into a healthy relationship with someone with an unhealthy sense of self is just not ordinarily in the cards. Decide whether you're willing to wait. I'm very sorry for your loss.
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