Eternal Sunshine Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I think that men tend to focus on the big picture and gloss over the details when it comes to looks. For example, they will often not care about the details of woman's face. As long as her body is (roughly) nice, she has long hair, dressed somewhat appealing, sorta young and they are all set 2
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 You didn't stumble onto any national secrets here. I figured this would be common knowledge by now. I have never heard any guy say, "would you check out the nicely painted nails on that girl!" Most guys focus on the same few things, roughly in this order; hips, butt, boobs. Studies have shown that when you observe a man checking women out, his eyes naturally go to the hip area first. The famous hourglass shape is very appealing, and if you look at history, all of the women who are found the most attractive have had almost an exaggerated hourglass shape. Well I think that a lot of women obsess over having a larger nose or ears or something. Where that's almost irrelevant in what men find attractive. 2
SammySammy Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I'm not sure that's true for all men. I definitely pay attention to the details. Things that are naturally beyond her control are not judged harshly. Breasts, hips, nose ... stuff like that. I've learn to appreciate women of various body types and features. However, I pay a lot of attention to things that they can control. Physical fitness. Important. Hair, teeth, nails, shoes, style of dress, personality ... on and on. Yes, I pay attention. I love to see a woman on top of her game and well put together as a matter of habit. She doesn't need to have long hair or be young. She just has to be ... fully present. Presenting herself to the world in a way that says I know who I am, what I want and my worth as a woman. Without saying a word. Simply through her appearance and personality. That's the woman I want to be with. 6
Scrab22 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Actually I am a person who puts primary focus on the face, maybe because I have developing theories regarding what a face can say about one's personality. Body doesn't matter much to me for a serious relationship (unless she's very overweight). Don't forget that it also depends on what a woman is wearing. Tight pants for sports, undershirts half-exposing breasts... Cloths these days are becoming more tight (literally and metaphorically) to the wearer's body. I can go into further details on this if needed.
Priv Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 And you just now figured this out What I find most attractive in a woman is her being physically fit. Doesn't matter what body type she has, there is a world of difference between a fit woman and a non-fit woman (and with being fit I don't mean someone who thinks having an active lifestyle means running on a threadmill or going to a zumba class once a week). This for me trumps all other details. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 A Kennedy Trust Fund will "Trump" quite a few physical idiosyncracies... TFY 2
notserene Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I think many men like women who look put together but they don't notice the minutiae the way women do. If you asked a guy is your manicure was a regular manicure, acrylic, or gel nails he would probably say "huh?" because he doesn't know the difference.
Imported Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 (edited) Well I think that a lot of women obsess over having a larger nose or ears or something. Where that's almost irrelevant in what men find attractive. I was with a girl for a while that wanted to get a nose job done. She hated her nose. She started putting herself down to me about her nose. I didn't really notice. Before that. She was fit, nice breast, nice womenly figure and a pretty smile. I thought she looked great. But she was right. That nose of her's was ugly. Huge nostrils! Everytime I talked to her after that, I was staring at her nose. It really upset her. And I couldn't stop doing it I do notice age lines on womens face though. And you just now figured this out What I find most attractive in a woman is her being physically fit. Doesn't matter what body type she has, there is a world of difference between a fit woman and a non-fit woman (and with being fit I don't mean someone who thinks having an active lifestyle means running on a threadmill or going to a zumba class once a week). This for me trumps all other details. There are some women with bodies that well........you just have to be born that way. They are amazing. Their proportions are amazing. You can't diet down or excersize to get there, unless that body is within you. It's a bone thickness, torso length, leg length, shoulder width, hip width, structure kinda thing. Plastic surgery? I mean, you can make a Honda Civic look ...erm...better? But you're not going to make a Honda Civic look like a Ferrari. Edited July 19, 2014 by Imported 2
ffw Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I think that men tend to focus on the big picture and gloss over the details when it comes to looks. For example, they will often not care about the details of woman's face. As long as her body is (roughly) nice, she has long hair, dressed somewhat appealing, sorta young and they are all set Personally, I tend to get more attract towards eyes, smile, lips (face) & hair. I guess somewhere in between comes the physical attraction towards the body figure. I also tend not to gaze below neck unless cleavage is popping out or if she is wearing shot clothes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Bruce Leigh Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Women are generally their own worst critics. Most guys I know will be attracted to a girl with only one good feature out of the 3 I named. For myself and most of my male friends it can be just one thing and it isn't always obvious what that thing is either. Say there are a group of guys and they say "wow, check her out", odds are that what each guy in that group find most attractive will be different. If i see a woman i find attractive and i'm not really sure why i do, it makes me that bit more interested. 2
carhill Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 OP, I think that's a fair theory, applicable to most men. However, if I had to reflect upon every woman who ever became important in my life, back to the beginning, and having the benefit of aging myself, I'd go back to the consistency of this and this, over time. The marked downside of this style and preference is that far fewer potentially attractive women will be noticed to approach than with the more 'overall' style where attention to details, or specifics, is discounted. Fortunately, most men are more 'overall' so a typical lady will be approached more often. 1
somedude81 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I think that men tend to focus on the big picture and gloss over the details when it comes to looks. For example, they will often not care about the details of woman's face. As long as her body is (roughly) nice, she has long hair, dressed somewhat appealing, sorta young and they are all set Did you ever get my PM with the pictures of my ex and I? What do you think of her? Does she match your theory?
No Limit Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 hips, butt, boobs Those are the main things, yeah. Although money too has its role in everything. Of course women are more focused on the good old dollar/euro/peso/etc than men. I'm not sure that's true for all men. I guess we'd waste decades if we even attempted to bring all factors for every single man on this planet together.
Woggle Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 There is no exact science to what men find attractive but I do agree we tend to be bigger picture kind of people. Nothing and I mean nothing in life is 100% perfect so if the overall picture is great and maybe at 90% then we consider that a very good thing.
EasyHeart Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Different men like different things. Some prefer a pretty face, some prefer a smoking body. Even among those men who are more interested in a woman's body, some will look more at boobs and some more at butts. And some may like small boobs/butts, some will prefer big boobs/butts. I have a bit of a freckle fetish, so I've dated more than my share of women with freckles. Every single one of them hated their freckles; I thought the freckles were super-sexy. No woman is attractive to every man. Heck, all you have to do is listen to men talk about celebrity women. These are some of the most perfect women in the world, and guys will think some of them are ugly. 2
RonaldS Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 First and foremost, I don't care how hot a woman is....if she's not intelligent, then she gets no play. Zero tolerance policy. 1
SummerDreams Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 What men find attractive depends on what men LEARN to find attractive. In the eastern countries chubby girls are the ones who take all the attention. How about the african women who are walking around half naked? Would any western man even look at one of them, their boobs on their belly? But men there are attracted by them. Also some decades ago shapes like Monroe were what a man wanted. Suddenly Twingy launched a new era. A nice article to read. Almost all men when asked will require a fit girl to date. Though in real life they choose the chubby, overweight girls who make them happy. Stereotypes are only for the magazines. Young women should stop obsessing about their looks cause many men will in their lives find them attractive. They should start caring about making their mind more "beautiful" instead, as this is the rarity these days. Model looking girls are everywhere, we are lacking smart and honest women. 1
Bruce Leigh Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I have a bit of a freckle fetish, so I've dated more than my share of women with freckles. Every single one of them hated their freckles; I thought the freckles were super-sexy. No freckle fetish for me but i have always been drawn to natural redheads. Freckles and redheads go hand in hand though, so maybe i do 1
somedude81 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 What men find attractive depends on what men LEARN to find attractive. In the eastern countries chubby girls are the ones who take all the attention. How about the african women who are walking around half naked? Would any western man even look at one of them, their boobs on their belly? But men there are attracted by them. Also some decades ago shapes like Monroe were what a man wanted. Suddenly Twingy launched a new era. A nice article to read. I strongly disagree with you. Nobody taught me what to find attractive in a woman. My preferences developed naturally. Here's a simple reason to explain why Polynesian men are attracted to big women and why African men are attracted to the half naked boob sagging women; those are the women that are around them and that they grew up with. The vast majority of men naturally prefer the woman that are around them. If I grew up in Samoa, I'd most likely prefer the really curvy women and if I grew up in Japan, I'd most likely prefer the really thin, small busted Asian women. Simply because those are the type of women that live there. Since I'm a white guy who grew up in California, it's perfectly natural for me to prefer thin white women with big breasts. Almost all men when asked will require a fit girl to date. Though in real life they choose the chubby, overweight girls who make them happy. Are those men choosing the "chubby, overweight girls" or are those girls really the only girls who would actually date those men? Are they the best he can get? 3
hotpotato Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 (edited) What men find attractive depends on what men LEARN to find attractive. In the eastern countries chubby girls are the ones who take all the attention. How about the african women who are walking around half naked? Would any western man even look at one of them, their boobs on their belly? But men there are attracted by them. Also some decades ago shapes like Monroe were what a man wanted. Suddenly Twingy launched a new era. A nice article to read. Almost all men when asked will require a fit girl to date. Though in real life they choose the chubby, overweight girls who make them happy. Stereotypes are only for the magazines. Young women should stop obsessing about their looks cause many men will in their lives find them attractive. They should start caring about making their mind more "beautiful" instead, as this is the rarity these days. Model looking girls are everywhere, we are lacking smart and honest women. Plenty of african women have pert breasts and nice bellies. They are not all national geographic. There are some black men who like toned, strong women. Really? Ive heard from men married to eastern european women that being in shape is very important. One in particular said his wife was working out and doing handstands even while pregnant. Maybe the ones whove been americanized are chubby, but what you said is opposite from what ive heard. Edited July 19, 2014 by hotpotato 2
Weezy1973 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 (edited) What men find attractive depends on what men LEARN to find attractive... Young women should stop obsessing about their looks cause many men will in their lives find them attractive. They should start caring about making their mind more "beautiful" instead, as this is the rarity these days. Model looking girls are everywhere, we are lacking smart and honest women. In general what men and women find attractive is pretty universal (i.e. cross cultural). Some of the details may change (ex. hairless chest vs. hairy chest), but the main components are there. Women tend to be attracted to the V (i.e. broad shoulders tapering to a narrow waist) and men tend to be attracted to a small waist in proportion to the hips. Some prefer "thicker" (about 30% of cultures) but most prefer thinner (the other 70%). Look up research by David Buss out of the University of Texas. And of course there are exceptions here and there...like anything in life... It's actually hard for any of us as a sexually reproducing species to not care if we're sexually attractive to the opposite sex. It's kind of designed that way by natural selection - those that reproduce pass on their genes, so the desire to reproduce (and be attractive to the opposite sex) is going to be a trait that's been selected for. So asking anybody to stop caring what they look like is asking a bit too much. What people should do is not place their self worth on their physical appearance. That's more of a challenge for some than others, but certainly something we should be instilling in our young peeps. And to the OPs original question: Once you find someone you fall in love with, none of it matters because they become the most beautiful person in the world to you... Edited July 19, 2014 by Weezy1973
ThaWholigan Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Depends really. I think there's a large element of truth to that, especially in terms of physical attractiveness, but it definitely varies. Like, for me, I'm not the most fashion-aware guy, but there are details like eyes, lips, shape of her face, the contours of her legs, teeth and hair. I tend not to guess too much regarding makeup, girls are f*cking wizards when it comes to makeup. Just outlining is enough for me. However, where I think you are right is simply that while I notice all these things by default, I tend to override it because the package overall is appealing. On a physical level at least. If she is intelligent and stimulates mentally, it boosts everything else tenfold. 1
Anela Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Are those men choosing the "chubby, overweight girls" or are those girls really the only girls who would actually date those men? Are they the best he can get? What is your problem with chubby girls? Why do you have such a bias towards them, and yet expect people to want you regardless of your height? (I never said there's a problem with your height, you did.) I don't see why it's impossible for a man to be attracted to a woman who isn't tiny, with huge breasts. 3
ThaWholigan Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 What is your problem with chubby girls? Why do you have such a bias towards them, and yet expect people to want you regardless of your height? (I never said there's a problem with your height, you did.) I don't see why it's impossible for a man to be attracted to a woman who isn't tiny, with huge breasts. To be fair, I've found myself really attracted to a few chubby girls! Sometimes, even with the extra weight, a woman can be well put together and look good. I've been surprised quite a few times . 2
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