bluesgirl Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Hi guys I need a little advice: What would you think if your girlfriend said she wanted to be a stay at home mom? Would you be supportive of her decision if you knew she was the one for you and you knew you were going to marry her? Or would it scare you to death and make you re evaluate your relationship? Whenever that time comes for me to have kids I want to stay home with them until they can go to school. My mom did with my sibling and I and it's just a preference I have. I would just like an opinion from the male mind on when to bring it up in the relationship. Or should it be something that just happens naturally? Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks!!
Assasda Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 It takes a lot of factor to determine this. Economic factors, Personal factors, Financial factors, Emotional factors. Factors regarding roles. I think its something that has to happen naturally, personally. If a woman I was dating told me that, I would think "Yeah, we all want the ideal job, but sometime we cant get the job that we want.' Then see how it works out
Author bluesgirl Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 Really appreciate your replies guys! I do see both of your points of view as well. A lot of women take advantage of the "housewife" role and it really sucks cause not all women are lazy when it comes to that. I think in my next relationship i'm just going to let it happen naturally. 1
Keenly Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Hi guys I need a little advice: What would you think if your girlfriend said she wanted to be a stay at home mom? Would you be supportive of her decision if you knew she was the one for you and you knew you were going to marry her? Or would it scare you to death and make you re evaluate your relationship? Whenever that time comes for me to have kids I want to stay home with them until they can go to school. My mom did with my sibling and I and it's just a preference I have. I would just like an opinion from the male mind on when to bring it up in the relationship. Or should it be something that just happens naturally? Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks!! The first thing I think of is the enormous strain that a scenario like that is going to place on me to be the sole provider of the entire house.
PegNosePete Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 What does it matter what WE think? What does your BF think?? His opinion is very unlikely to be swayed by the opinions of a bunch of strangers on the internet.
Author bluesgirl Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 I definitely agree with you on this! A lot of women don't want to be a housewife either, I think it's just a matter of what a person wants in the future. I work now and will continue to work until the day comes when i have kids (a while from now).
Author bluesgirl Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 And that's why when I find the right guy i'm just going to let it progress naturally. The last thing I want to do is put a strain on the relationship or make my guy feel a huge weight on his shoulders. I learned this from my previous relationship. Thanks for the insight!!
TXGuy Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 What does it matter what WE think? What does your BF think?? For that matter, what does it matter what your (OP) boyfriend thinks. Avoid the discussion until after marriage and your pregnancy. Then simply announce you are staying home. There is nothing he can do about it. He will be stuck with it at that point/ What is he going to do about it? He is trapped and he knows it. It simply doesn't matter if he agrees or not. But, that might be what you (OP) meant by letting it happen naturally. ETA: the above is the argument for having the conversation before marriage.
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