Jason808 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Okay so I just want to share my experience with you, the mistakes I've made and how I felt afterwards. So this is my story, I have had a great relationship and my ex broke up with me out of the blue. We kept talking because I thought she had made a bad decision and that she would come back soon. After a while I started to get frustrated because things weren't going as I had planned. I asked her how she felt about us and even though she told me I pressured her I never really stopped, I apologised for it but I didn't stop. I was driving myself and my ex insane. The only reason she still talked to me because we were each others best friend. The mistakes everyone will make when you got dumped is that you think you can talk everything back together, your mind makes you think that your ex still wants you and so you keep telling yourself that things will work out eventually. I wished I started NC the day my ex broke up. Because even if there is a small chance for me to get my ex back, I know I've reduced my chances by talking to my ex. When you are done with the normal talking with your ex you start your begging, it's no shame a lot of us have been there and you might have been there too. Only after a few weeks or even months you start realizing how pathetic you looked and how unattractive your begging is. I literally want to slap myself in the face right now because I sunk that low. This is not meant to be a guide on how to get your ex back or something but it is still for the people that might know it is over but still have some hope left that they might come back. Maybe they will and maybe they won't, all I know is that the thought of not contacting your ex could be your only hope to get your ex back is a very good motivation to endure your NC. And after a while of NC you start caring less, you might still want your ex back but you will get too the point where you feel like you're independent and it feels great. I myself have broke NC and it was my biggest mistake ever, it's like you get pulled back in the pit you've made so much effort into getting out. I still have hope my ex will contact me someday and if she does I will see how I feel and if you still want to meet them, and the same goes for you. I hope this might help some people, I'm not good at writing stuff but I did my best. Just hold on to your NC, it is the best choice for ANY situation.
dumbass2 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 most everyone on here will agree with you. I was dumped recently. Best thing is to not beg and plead once the words come out of her mouth. You can say, "are you sure you want ot do this?" at break up and wish I had just said that to give her a chance. My problem is that I did not initiate contact but by my actions she continued to contact me and I replied nicely and short and not right away. She was missing me but it didn't mean she wanted me back. She will let you know if she does and it should come from her without pressure from dumpee. NC I have learned is really the best, but like peope will tell you, you have to use it for yourself and not a game to try and get the ex back. If it happens that way great, but if you really think you have a shot at getting her back and you TRULY want to and you think she may be regretting it, I think it's best to not beg and plead, but try to talk and see if things can be worked out. If not, then use no contact to help you get over it.
FitnessRN Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 So the person that dumped you and all of sudden wants you back..they sound like a low self-esteemed looney toon!
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