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Am I the only one that finds the college girl and older guys thing to be a myth?

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I go to a large university where everyone is 18-22 and I have literally never seen a college aged girl with a guy who is older (past the age of 24). Almost all of the hot ones I know are dating frat boys and guys very close in their social circles. The hot ones that graduate typically get married soon after college anyways.

 

As a guy I personally never got why so many older guys think they can have college girls.

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When I was in college, my friends and I would never date old men over the age of 25. :laugh:

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I'm an older guy going to college and I have opportunities with younger college girls. I'm 35 and just last semester I had a 21 year old girl ask me out. There have been others.

 

You must be going to a commuter campus, I am talking more about the traditional universities full of 18-22 yr olds.

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As a college age girl in college I really haven't looked twice at a guy more than four or so years my senior since high school. I've had older guys approach me, I mean much older, like by twenty years, even gone out with a few but I can't find one iota of attraction for them aside from whatever initial "Hmm, okay yeah he's kind of a hot silver fox" but as far as seriously dating one? No thanks, I'll pass.

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It is a community college. Not sure your point though. They are young college girls, and I am an older guy. While I wouldn't have my choice among them, neither would anyone else. I have had quite a few options though.

 

That's my point, if you went to say UCLA or Arizona St as a 30 year old then you wouldn't be able to get girls there as a 30 yr old no matter what.

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That's my point, if you went to say UCLA or Arizona St as a 30 year old then you wouldn't be able to get girls there as a 30 yr old no matter what.

 

Most of the women that I met dont care about age.

Be like water.

See the thing is, if you have a problem with your age, then they will have a problem with it too... Its all because of your insecurites.

 

In my experience, there are plenty girls that even have a fetish for older guys, not just because they think they have money either

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That's my point, if you went to say UCLA or Arizona St as a 30 year old then you wouldn't be able to get girls there as a 30 yr old no matter what.

 

No you can!

If you are fit and attractive, with confidence and personality. You can!

 

But I agree most of the girls and guys I know are not social outside of their friends circle, so to get these girls, you have to be friends with the guys....

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I go to a large university where everyone is 18-22 and I have literally never seen a college aged girl with a guy who is older (past the age of 24). Almost all of the hot ones I know are dating frat boys and guys very close in their social circles. The hot ones that graduate typically get married soon after college anyways.

 

As a guy I personally never got why so many older guys think they can have college girls.

Most people date peers in their age group. But there are some young men and women who date older.

 

However, I will say that older guys do tend to inflate and overestimate their attractiveness. Dont be that guy. Simply be fit, well put together, and stylish and youll be fine.

 

Realize most college women want college men. But dont let it hold you back. Just be realistic. And honestly...go after women closer to your age to. Dont put yourself in dating droughts by banking on college women only.

 

If you look young you shouldnt have many problems. Im 28 in a few months and always have people wowing at my age. The front desk kid at the gym the other day was talking to me about school, and he thought I just graduated lol. I can prolly pass for 23/24 the youngest imo. When I dont shave I def look my age though.

 

Fear da beard.

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Never in college knew girls who dated 30+. We all thought 30 = old. I went to a big party school (ASU) so there was no need to date old guys, there was tons of young sexy in shape guys our own age.

 

TBH I'm 31 now and don't know anyone who dates much older on the regular except 2 girls who honestly probably can't get quality guys our own age.

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I went to a large state university 20+ years ago and I don't remember anyone dating people who were over 25. You do a lot of growing up between the ages of 18-22 (and between 22 and 30).

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No doubt there are some college age women who are dating older men. They may not be common, but they definitely exist. And outside of the hothouse college environment, there are many women of that age who date somewhat older men, and a few who date much older men. It's not a myth, just not really common.

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That was my point with this thread as a few users posted. Yes, older guys can get young college girls at a community college or commuter like campus but even if you are a well off and good looking older guy you aren't going to be with some sorority girl at USC (So cal) or Arizona St.

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I go to a large university where everyone is 18-22 and I have literally never seen a college aged girl with a guy who is older (past the age of 24). Almost all of the hot ones I know are dating frat boys and guys very close in their social circles. The hot ones that graduate typically get married soon after college anyways.

 

As a guy I personally never got why so many older guys think they can have college girls.

 

I would point out, just parenthetically that women aren't possessions. You don't "have them" like you possess baseball cards or kitchen utensils.

 

More to the point though, I think it depends on the school. A lot of colleges are basically college towns where everything revolves around the school. So there are very few people to meet who are older than you. It's kind of like a bubble you live in for four years.

 

Other schools, like the ones I went to are in places where the college isn't the main thing going on. Maybe it's in a big city or the suburbs of a big city and you have college aged kids mingling with older people at work or socially. I've seen it happen. Or sometimes you have grad students meeting undergrads, etc.

 

So it really depends.

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It is a symbiotic relationship in the way I have seen it.

 

A young woman is full of energy and enthusiasm.

She may be in a exploratory phase in her life.

Yet she lacks mental skills, wisdom and that glowing aura of life experience.

 

An older man may not be as sexy.

The older guy may not have the energy of youth.

But he may be kind and have understanding and appreciation of the younger woman. He may be able to actually guide her and have a good influence on her.

 

So how it might play out would go something like this: Mrs. young college hottie becomes dissatisfied with guys her age because they just want to party and have sex. Since this is too easy to get for a woman, she needs a challenge. In comes the older guy...

 

The likely result is that the older guy will know its not going to last but will enjoy the time he has with her. Likewise Mrs. college hottie will have completed her "older guy experimental phase", and will also move on.

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How old are we talking?

 

I'm 30 and tend to attract 24+ in age. I wear a lot of stubble on my face and I know younger girls may be more intimidated by me so they aren't in my dating pool generally.

 

My friend is 43 and tends to get women in their mid to late 20s. Also 30+

 

Both of us keep in shape and work out. People say I could pass for 27.

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When I was college age, anyone over 30 seemed like an old grandpa, I'm serious. And actually still so when I was in my mid-twenties.

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When I was college age, anyone over 30 seemed like an old grandpa, I'm serious. And actually still so when I was in my mid-twenties.

 

What about someone who is in their mid 20s but just looks like they're close to 40?

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OP so you can get any college girls, not even the unattractive and lonely?

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I don't think I ever dated anyone my age...

No! I lie. In high school I dated a guy 1 year older than me. It was very short lived.

 

Other than that, the average was always about 7/8 years older than me. Though I don't think I dated anyone while at university, though... my ex and I broke up a couple of months into my first year (he is 7 years older than me), and it took me a while to get over him. I had a few flings, but nothing serious. Then at 23 I started dating a guy 9 years older.

 

Most of my friends dated guys their age though. I always found that I was more an exception than a rule.

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I'm an older guy going to college and I have opportunities with younger college girls. I'm 35 and just last semester I had a 21 year old girl ask me out. There have been others.

 

Are you good looking? Young looking? Charismatic?

You are probably different in some way...

 

I was in college and dating a man nearly 20 years older. He's not conventionally attractive, but he's never had issues getting girls.

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I ran track in college. One of the track girls was dating a guy in his 30s when she was a freshman. They stayed together through her entire 4 years. She was blonde with a hell of a body, easily had other choices. It seemed weird when the 30+ y/o was visiting her in the dorms...but good for him!

 

This was a college where virtually no students were over age 22.

 

And I haven't been dating college girls lately, but my last 2 girlfriends were 25. I was seeing them at age 34 and 36. Last summer I hooked up with a cute 18 y/o who had just graduated high school. She was totally cool and thought nothing of my age. In retrospect, I should have tried to keep her around.

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I've been told I look around 27 or 28, but I don't trust that sort of thing. A lot of people say that just to be nice. I am VERY different than pretty much any other guy you could ever meet, and my charm can be described as a force of nature. I know, because I often describe it as such.

 

Im sure you are different. For other guys trying to date college girls, your results may vary.

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I don't think I ever dated anyone my age...

No! I lie. In high school I dated a guy 1 year older than me. It was very short lived.

 

Other than that, the average was always about 7/8 years older than me. Though I don't think I dated anyone while at university, though... my ex and I broke up a couple of months into my first year (he is 7 years older than me), and it took me a while to get over him. I had a few flings, but nothing serious. Then at 23 I started dating a guy 9 years older.

 

Most of my friends dated guys their age though. I always found that I was more an exception than a rule.

 

Yep, my experience as well. I think on average I date 7 years younger than me with outliers at either side. Though at uni I dated someone 2 years older than me. I don't go looking for it, it just sort of happens that way. And well... I like younger women *gasp*.

 

 

But I must admit, now at 31 dating a 21 year old college girl doesn't seem too appealing, but would be open to it (but that would mean me prowling the nearest college campus, which quite frankly sounds exhausting :p).

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My first two or three years of college, I dated a guy my own age. We were in an exclusive relationship for the majority of that time. When I ended that, I really didn't have any desire to date within my college circle. At that point I had known them all for years, and I went to a smaller university in an even smaller major program, so we were all very close. The idea of dating them really turned me off. I started doing online dating and that's how I met my next boyfriend, who was roughly 10 years older than me (21 and 31 when we met). Since then, that's been pretty close to the trend…my fiancé is 7 years older than me (27 and 34 now). So, no, it's not mythical…it does happen. But I think there's a difference between women who just happen to meet older guys that they like and women who set out to do so. When I look at my fiancé, I don't see a number…I just see a really good-looking guy that I'm in love with. And obviously now, at 27 and 34, our ages are really not a source of controversy.

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