ttjames Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 I'm wondering how long it took you to be completely 100% over your ex? I'm talking no feelings at all! Or if that never happened then how long it has been? My first love from high school I'm completely over. Lasted 3 years.... It took about a year and half to get over her. My last love, Lasted 3 years... It's been a little over a month... and .. let me check... yep it's still there. Oh and include how long you were together too..
quankanne Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 we were together less than a year and it took several years to get over "Mr. Right." I'd been married about 5-6 years when it hit me that I was mooning over an ideal, and that the one I was meant to truly love was the one I was married to! *smacks head* I can be slow sometimes ... seriously, though, I think we can get so bogged down by the details and the what-ifs that something good can be right there and we don't immediately realize it because we are that bogged down. I can honestly say thank goodness I didn't end up with "Mr. Right," because I don't believe I could ever be as happy with him as I am with my husband, even when he drives me nuts!
hyjacked Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Im one of those sensitive types (real pain in the butt to be that way most the time) It always took me at least a yr before it felt bearable, a couple to get past it. The last was my ex wife who even used me and abused me, it was 5 yrs before that " No feeling what so ever" you asked about. And Friend that is the greatest feeling Im not having anymore!!
whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 2 of my ex's I will always care for. If I saw them on the street my heart would not skip a beat. But there is one who will ALWAYS make my heart jump. I hope I never run into him. I think some people we just don't ever stop loving...Just don't feel it but they have a special place in the heart.
moimeme Posted February 26, 2005 Posted February 26, 2005 I have no longings or hankerings for any of the past people. The past is over and done with. There's nobody I hate or am mad at, and I hope they're all doing well.
Naive Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by quankanne we were together less than a year and it took several years to get over "Mr. Right." I'd been married about 5-6 years when it hit me that I was mooning over an ideal, and that the one I was meant to truly love was the one I was married to! *smacks head* I can be slow sometimes ... seriously, though, I think we can get so bogged down by the details and the what-ifs that something good can be right there and we don't immediately realize it because we are that bogged down. I can honestly say thank goodness I didn't end up with "Mr. Right," because I don't believe I could ever be as happy with him as I am with my husband, even when he drives me nuts! It;s so amazing how similar your answer is to mine. I just realized that all these years I have been trying to get over who I thought was Mr. Right and not opened my eyes enough to know that my bf/H is the one. It's unbelievable that I have thought about this guy for about 3 years and then all of a sudden my eyes opened up and in less than a few minutes everything changed. All the years of thinking about him where erased in a couple of missly minutes. I guess that's how life is. All this time I was to worried thinking and wondering about how things would have been if we would have stayed together that my head created a fairytale, just an illusion I guess. Time helps though.
lynnered Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 similar to the first 2 reply my 1st love i was w/h 4years, i started dating a guy a month later stayed w/h him 3years the whole time i thought about my x !!!he wasn't ideal he was actually abusive ,but he was the 1st everything ,so i seemed to only remember good things at that time . after i broke up w/h rebound guy (a 3year rebound lol) i actually didn't think of him so much i haven't ran into him since 6 months after breakup ,my heart felt like it would jump out of my chest &my body felt shaky . if i saw him today that same feeling would come over me i think ,i think of him every once in awhile i think its more of the memory ,i mean I've never loved so freely ,i was native but at that time all that mattered was him /us ,his family was my family &since then i haven't had a good relationship , but as someone else said ,time does heal !! it doesn't feel like it while your going through it ,but one day you'll look up &the sun will be shining inside &out ,don't waste time moping around get out ,find a new interest ,&just keep your mind busy it will speed up your recovery. best wishes
SummerRae Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 Originally posted by hyjacked And Friend that is the greatest feeling Im not having anymore!! lol! Yep, can't wait to get to that place 100%!
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