tamar Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 (edited) He texted me on Monday after 3 months of NC and said “Hey stranger,” now I can’t stop thinking about him. Why did he do this?? I had gotten over him with so much effort. As a result of his text, we had a short convo basically catching up on what I was doing and what he had been up to and thats it. Now I feel so horrible because everything I had suppressed and gotten past has surged back up and I can’t stop thinking about him. The history between me and this guy is somewhat weird. We were never in a relationship but hooked up several times. We met at work and were co-workers throughout the entire time we were “involved,” which was about 9 months. There was amazing chemistry between the two of us, something I can’t really describe. He was so genuine and open with me. However, this guy is 10 years older than me, and very confident of himself while I was an innocent girl, fresh out of college and a virgin. Because of the “chemistry” I felt with this guy I had sex with him after sometime because it just felt right and I really don’t regret it. We stayed involved for a while, but I was always very wary and scared of getting hurt, not sure of his intentions. Basically, I didn’t really let him in, to get to know me in depth, and rarely was the one to initiate contact. I never quite really understood him, but can’t say he was an a— hole or anything like that because he wasn’t but at the same time he never really put too much effort other than the flirting and texting, which only fed my insecurities about getting hurt. Now in retrospect, I think maybe I was at fault too because I never opened up to him much or let him know how I felt. It’s a confusing mess. The last few times I saw him he tried to kiss me and I would just turn my head and give him a kiss on the cheeks and I now realize that I was probably acting distant. He’s also the type of person whose mood goes up and down and becomes depressed. Basically, I’m just trying to make sense of why he got back in touch. I thought he had probably moved on, forgotten about me. Plus I know for a fact he is back with his ex. And the conversation we recently had didn’t really go anywhere but got me thinking about him again. I hate it because I still have feelings for him, but had gotten past that. Edited July 19, 2014 by tamar
travelbug1996 Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 he has a girlfriend. end of story unless you want to get humped and dumped. ignore him
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