Would you invest in a relationship where yr partner refused to pay for meals outside

[Elle1975]

Depends. If he's a student like me, working toward a better future, I could understand the guy being frugal. Other than that, no.

 

Even though I'm on a budget, I still manage to have little extras. I took my friend out for ice cream yesterday, and I paid, since she had paid for me the last time we went out.

[Jon Tenzo]

Reminds me of my situation, but I'm a male. The girl I am on/off with said let's split the check and I agreed, and she got upset with me.

 

Drop her like it's hot!

[FitChick]

If this guy doesn't work and never plans to, where is he getting his "savings" money? Maybe it's his allowance from mom and dad? Have you met his parents? What do they think of him and the two of you as a couple?

[Miss Awesome]

He wants to stay at home self-teaching (English Lit) most of the day.

 

Do you mean reading books?

 

Haha, not to downplay how awesome reading is, but calling it self-teaching is a little presumptuous..

 

Only you can really decide what you want in a relationship. If you want someone who will take you out all the time, then it sounds like this guy isn't for you.

[MissBee]

... a guy who refused to go out to eat dinner or go to the cinema because he didn't want to pay for himself let alone treat you?

 

*Guy doesn't want to work, and is living off his savings. He wants to stay at home self-teaching (English Lit) most of the day. Will spend money on concerts or plays (£5). He hasn't really changed his clothing style since he was a teenager (baggy jeans and hoody). I don't really care how a person dresses, I just mention it because he is generally quite set in his ways (he's in his early 30s now).

 

Has said he will "treat" his partner to come and watch the play or concert with him and suggests she do the same for events she wants to go to with him (however she enjoys eating out every week so that would involve her spending money on him more often).

 

What do you think?

 

Absolutely not.

 

Not really much else to add to that.

[kiss_andmakeup]

... a guy who refused to go out to eat dinner or go to the cinema because he didn't want to pay for himself let alone treat you?

 

*Guy doesn't want to work, and is living off his savings. He wants to stay at home self-teaching (English Lit) most of the day. Will spend money on concerts or plays (£5). He hasn't really changed his clothing style since he was a teenager (baggy jeans and hoody). I don't really care how a person dresses, I just mention it because he is generally quite set in his ways (he's in his early 30s now).

 

Has said he will "treat" his partner to come and watch the play or concert with him and suggests she do the same for events she wants to go to with him (however she enjoys eating out every week so that would involve her spending money on him more often).

 

What do you think?

 

The fact that he never wants or plans to work would be a deal breaker. Everything else is just a symptom of that larger problem. Whether or not he buys my dinner would be the least of my concerns.

 

In short, no, I would not date him.