zekethegeek Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Went out on a date last night with this girl. I had a FABULOUS TIME! unfortunately I think I made a bad impression. I was sort of nervous and dont think I showed the real me! This was my first date after getting out of a 2 yera relationship that ended horribly so I was a bit nervous and kept some stuff to my chest. She was trying to get to know me and I didnt open up like I should have!!! I think she could tell and I apologized and told her, It just takes me a bit of time to open myself up about personal stuff. I hope I didnt scare her off. We kissed good night and made plans for next week, hopefully it goes through! I will make improvments
rewl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 If you've done anything wrong, it's your apology to her. Unless you turned up to your date late or cancelled it or threw your drink all over her, you never ever apologise in your first date. You don't like sharing personal stuff in your first date? So what? That's not something to grovel an apology over. That's just weak and pathetic. If she really wants to know more personal things about you, she'll go on a second date. Stop apologising. 2
ThorntonMelon Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Just be yourself, whatever that is. If she doesn't like it, the hell with her. Only mistake you made was apologizing - it's a first date, you owe her nothing. If she wants to share, that's fantastic. Enjoy the dating process - if she's the right one, it will all fit together. 1
Elle1975 Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 You're beating yourself up. Being nervous is not a turn off. Opening about personal matters on a first date is over sharing, so I wouldn't worry about that one. You did good. I don't expect a guy to spill out his entire emotional baggage on me on a first date. I would find that unsettling and that would make me run. Good luck on your next date. 1
TigerLilly78 Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 If you've done anything wrong, it's your apology to her. Unless you turned up to your date late or cancelled it or threw your drink all over her, you never ever apologise in your first date. You don't like sharing personal stuff in your first date? So what? That's not something to grovel an apology over. That's just weak and pathetic. If she really wants to know more personal things about you, she'll go on a second date. Stop apologising. Communication is never weak or pathetic its the right way to run any relationships! I'm sure she would rather he be honest and open then sit there and play the guessing game or wonder if it was something she did. I'll take a man who can tell me whats wrong over a game player any day even on the 1st date.. 1
HappyLove Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 So how did you chase her away? You're very dramatic. Calm down. 2
pteromom Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 She kissed you. She made plans for another date. Nothing is ruined. Just be yourself and try to have a good time rather than over-analyzing everything that happens.
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