Trane Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 It seems like this is the new "black" for outing a guy. I think it's unjust and unfair really. I know there are real creeps who are dangers to society. Real pervs and predators out there who do nothing but give good men a bad rap. There are innocent guys who don't deserve this label. I here women using this word overboard and there's tons of stuff on the web about it too. What bothers me the most is that a guys level of creepiness is pretty much based on his physical appearance. If he's a trophy-quality, boyfriend with height, good looks and the ability to make her and her friends feel feminine, she'll look past anything remotely obvious that says red flag or creep. Guys who don't measure up get the creep stamp for no good reason other than that she doesn't find him attractive. I wonder if women believe nice guys are the creeps and bad boy a-hole types are the saints. Sure seems that way now. At the same time a good buddy of mine thinks it's OK to call a woman a "psycho" if she puts the creep stamp on him for no reason. I agree with him to a certain point, but in general I'm not one for reactionary attacks. 2
TXGuy Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 It seems to me that women will consider any man she deems beneath her a creep if he has the audacity to try to talk with her. It generally has nothing to do with safety and more to do with ego. Something like, I can't believe that guy thought he had a shot with me. What a creep. I agree Otis being overused. But that overuse is also reducing the stigma. Nobody takes it very seriously anymore.
hasaquestion Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Too many men are creeps nowadays. Don't want to be called a creep? Don't act like one. Simple. If I see a girl, smile at her, walk across the room, and introduce myself, and she isn't attracted to me, that makes me a creep. If I see a girl, smile at her, walk across the room, and introduce myself, and she is attracted to me, that makes me dashing/cute/whatever. I've been perfectly happy pissing off the 95% of girls who don't like it to find the 5% who do. 7
Author Trane Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 If I see a girl, smile at her, walk across the room, and introduce myself, and she isn't attracted to me, that makes me a creep. If I see a girl, smile at her, walk across the room, and introduce myself, and she is attracted to me, that makes me dashing/cute/whatever. I've been perfectly happy pissing off the 95% of girls who don't like it to find the 5% who do. I once heard that a guy's smile can make him a creep depending on his age which I find ridiculously stupid.
Author Trane Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 It seems to me that women will consider any man she deems beneath her a creep if he has the audacity to try to talk with her. It generally has nothing to do with safety and more to do with ego. Something like, I can't believe that guy thought he had a shot with me. What a creep. I agree Otis being overused. But that overuse is also reducing the stigma. Nobody takes it very seriously anymore. Very true. If his looks doesn't measure up to her standards, he qualifies himself as a creep in her eyes. Doesn't matter if he was polite and respectful of her space. If the guy is not physically or visually appealing to her, he usually gets creep stamped which is unfair. This may sound bad, but I have absolutely no problems putting the "psycho" stamp on a woman who calls me a creep. I was raised to be a gentleman with manners and respect. I understand a woman's has her personal space, time and place which should never be interfered with against her will. At the same time, I believe a woman has got to be a little bit messed up in the head if she's creep stamping guys on a regular basis without justification for it. It does go both ways because there are some genuine creeps who give good men a bad rap. The smartest woman knows that the next guy that makes a move on her might not be a creep.
joystickd Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Lots of words get used too loosely like creep, misogyny and misandrist. It's a way to devalue a person.
RonaldS Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Too many people in this world have no idea who they really are and subsequently are extremely insecure. Demeaning another person is the go-to move to help somebody feel better about themself.
GemmaUK Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Lots of words get used too loosely like creep, misogyny and misandrist. It's a way to devalue a person. I agree! For me a 'creep' is someone who I instinctively feel fear or repulsion for. It's a gut feeling and I just want to get away asap. It has nothing to do with good guy/nice guy/bad guy stuff as I don't know the guy at all when I get the instinct.
johan Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 It's a word I've only ever heard to describe guys I generally agreed were acting like idiots and freaking the girls out to some extent. I think the sensitivity toward this particular term is interesting. In the course of conversation the girl probably uses several other words to describe the you but the only one you get uptight about is "creep". What if... I'm just throwing this out there... you actually are acting a bit like a creep? What word would you prefer she use? 2
R3d Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Exactly. Good-looking guys can use all sorts of approaches and won't get lebeled as a creep but if a physcially unattractive guy does, he is considered creepy. This is why I don't buy that confidence is the magical solution. When they say that they want a man to be confident, they mean one that is already good-looking.
R3d Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 If I see a girl, smile at her, walk across the room, and introduce myself, and she isn't attracted to me, that makes me a creep. If I see a girl, smile at her, walk across the room, and introduce myself, and she is attracted to me, that makes me dashing/cute/whatever. This is what I wad trying to say.
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