Going on second date - her birthday is coming up

[bu2002]

I have been chatting with a girl since the beginning of the month. We went out for the first time a week ago. Her parents came into town so she was tied up since then but we're meeting up again on Sunday. However, her birthday is coming up on Wednesday and not sure if I should attempt to make plans and/or what type of gift would be appropriate. Now this could all be moot if Sunday doesn't go well but I don't see that happening.

 

I'm just not sure how to deal with a birthday this early on. I haven't dealt with this before from a timing standpoint and what's appropriate

 

Any thoughts?

[Potz4prez]

Don't be a try-hard. You're not her boyfriend yet.

[deathandtaxes]

An acknowledgement of her birthday at this point is all you need to do. A phone call should do it. Don't try to plan a date or flowers or card or anything. You've had one date.

[rewl]

Don't buy her a damn thing. "Happy Birthday" is more than enough.

[scooby-philly]

I agree with the first two posts. You're not her boyfriend yet, so getting her something should be expected - at all. But, getting her something small shows you are thoughtful. I had that experience when I first got back on the dating scene last year. After 2 or 3 dates it was her birthday so we went out during the day on a weekend and I got her a bottle of wine and we had a picnic. The last woman I went out with on multiple dates - it wasn't her birthday, but I went on a trip early on - after 4 or 5 dates, and got her a little magnet for her new condo. She loved it. Unfortunately it didn't work out in either case, but the action went well.

 

I'd say if the second date goes well and you get a third, then in the time between get her something small that makes her realize you were listening to her and were getting to know her.

 

The simple fact that you're asking this question means your head is in the right place!