amyO Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 The last two weeks of the semester, I hooked up/hung out with a guy I knew for a while. He had broke up with his girlfriend the month before and I was also getting over another guy. I figured it was just a fun end of the college type thing. We were both graduating and moving back home. We both ended up really liking each other. We would text all the time and he even asked me to go out to get food one night. I didn't expect it, but he was a nice and sweet guy. I used to hear sometimes that he was kind of a "tool", but he really wasn't. The past two months since we've both been home, we text all the time. We both take turns initiating conversations. It's never inappropriate. We talk about our jobs, our families and what our plans are for the week. We have also talked about how much we miss each other and wish we had met earlier on in the year. We live over an hour away from each other and on top of that, we both work full-time during the week. He also has to work some Saturdays. I have asked him twice to hang out. The first time, he really couldn't. It was a few days before he started work and he had to complete a physical as well as a whole training program on the computer that took a few hours. A few weeks later, I was supposed to go away, but ended up not going. I asked if he was free that weekend,but it was very last minute. He was actually going away that weekend with his friends too. I guess I'm just confused because I'm not sure what to make of all this. A part of me wants to believe he hasn't asked me to hang out for the sole reason that he was in a relationship not too long ago. He had also been in another relationship the year before and the difference between the two was like 2 months. I feel it's awkward if he were to bring me home to meet his friends/family this soon. I also feel like he wants to take things slow, as again, he was in a relationship only a few months ago and doesn't want anything serious right away. His friends know about me, so I know it's not like I'm this big secret. I'm not sure what to think. If he's stringing me along or just taking his time and figuring out what he wants? What are your thoughts?
Wisecrack Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Your rebound has lost interested in being your rebound. Be logical. If someone liked someone that much, they'd do anything to see them. You've unfortunately become emotionally attached and the distance between you and him has allowed your mind to overthink, manifest and build this dude up to the point of obsessing over him. He has most like moved on and been with a other chicks. No offence but that'd be me. Like girls, guys phones aren't just filled with only guy friends.
Author amyO Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 Your rebound has lost interested in being your rebound. Be logical. If someone liked someone that much, they'd do anything to see them. You've unfortunately become emotionally attached and the distance between you and him has allowed your mind to overthink, manifest and build this dude up to the point of obsessing over him. He has most like moved on and been with a other chicks. No offence but that'd be me. Like girls, guys phones aren't just filled with only guy friends. I understand and agree with part of what you mentioned. However, I am in no way obsessed with him! Haha. I wasn't even expecting it to go any further than a hook up between us. instead here we are two months later still talking and having had a few other hookups and time hanging out together. At first, he was the one texting me every day. And the last time we talked, it had taking me a few hours to respond since i was at work. He, i guess, started getting worried and wrote back "helllo?" With all of this, it was making me wonder what his intentions could be. Why would he tell his friends about me and text me all the time? Usually when i am not interested in someone, i would never tell my friends about that person or text them all the time. .. if i were to meet someone else, i would have no problem with moving on from him and giving another guy a chance. However, i definitely like this guy. It would be nice to see if it did in fact grow into something more. Since i haven't met anyone else besides him anyway, i don't mind that all we do is talk. I guess i'm more curious about his actions and wondering what he could be thinking.
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