Vero Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 She's my teammate on my high school track and field/cross country running team. I think I've always liked her but I always just focused on my sport. I never thought I would be able to get with her; I thought she was too good for me, but now I know better. We had practice and we ran together to do a hill workout (she's VERY good at the sport, which I think is very attractive), and we talked about the practices we've been doing and everything running-related, I noticed we both really do the same things for our sport and we have to same mindset and ambitions. I just thought "why can't I be with her?". The conversation was 50/50 and she did laugh a couple times. I was pretty chill when I was talking to her, but she knows I have a wild side when I'm with my other teammates. I did notice that she didn't keep eye contact much at all. When I went to look at her and talk she might look away or she might already be looking forward, but to be fair we were running most of the time. I think I noticed that she also tries to justify what she's saying when I don't give that much of a reaction, but that just might be her bad convo skills. Any help/advice to progress with her? Thanks!
d0nnivain Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I'm going to imagine "get with her" means date her as opposed to use her for sex which is what it sounds like. That said, work out with her. Smile be friendly. After practice ask her if she's like to do something with you -- even go get a vitamin water or other sports drink.
Author Vero Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 But this is where I always fail with girls. I never know when's a good time to ask to do something, and I end up not getting anywhere. I also don't want it to sound like a date if I ask her so it doesn't too serious of a thing. School will start in about a month, and I feel that if I ask her to doing something OUTSIDE the school, she'll feel like its a date and she won't be cool/comfortable with it. Any ideas? Her mom is a yoga instructor and my coach told our team that we could attend her moms yoga sessions at the local running store if we wanted, so I decided that I could/should go to get some stretching, and possibly talk a bit more to her.
deathandtaxes Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 You DO want a date with her. It doesn't have to be a 'serious thing' but you should be clear it's a date. Why else ask her out? Man up, son! The best time to ask was yesterday. The second best time to ask is RIGHT NOW! Don't be scared of how she is going to perceive it. Ask her out properly - day, time, place, etc. 1
hasaquestion Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 But this is where I always fail with girls. I never know when's a good time to ask to do something, and I end up not getting anywhere. I also don't want it to sound like a date if I ask her so it doesn't too serious of a thing. School will start in about a month, and I feel that if I ask her to doing something OUTSIDE the school, she'll feel like its a date and she won't be cool/comfortable with it. Any ideas? Her mom is a yoga instructor and my coach told our team that we could attend her moms yoga sessions at the local running store if we wanted, so I decided that I could/should go to get some stretching, and possibly talk a bit more to her. Don't do the yoga session thing, it looks weird. You're doing base mileage this time of year I assume? Next time you see her, offer to go on a run together, then get ice cream together afterwards. If she's fast she can keep up. No pressure, good opportunity to talk and flirt lightly. Then if that goes well try for a real date next. 1
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