themanisweak Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 was on a date and we were walking by a river. i thought about holding her hand but i thought to myself, thats more of a relatiobship thing so i didnt hold her hand. should i have or do you think maybe it was a wise move not to?
PegNosePete Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 It really depends on many factors. How old are you? How many dates have you been on? Has there been any physical touching up to this point? Is she generally a touchy/feely person? How was her body language: hands in pockets or swinging? And the most important one... did she want you to hold her hand? Hard to answer I know and only one way to find out for sure. But often you can tell, for example if she holds it close to yours or even brushes against it, it's a sign. You have to learn to read the signs.
Author themanisweak Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 It really depends on many factors. How old are you? How many dates have you been on? Has there been any physical touching up to this point? Is she generally a touchy/feely person? How was her body language: hands in pockets or swinging? And the most important one... did she want you to hold her hand? Hard to answer I know and only one way to find out for sure. But often you can tell, for example if she holds it close to yours or even brushes against it, it's a sign. You have to learn to read the signs. im 26 shes 23, 2nd date, kissed end of first date, not really..swinging...no contact or brushing of hands
d0nnivain Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 No I think it was a bad move & a missed opportunity not to hold her hand. Because you failed to take initiative she is now wondering if you like her. Handholding in that romantic setting was expected. If you continue to miss those golden opportunities, she will conclude you don't like her like that & she will view that as rejection & friendzone you.
Author themanisweak Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 No I think it was a bad move & a missed opportunity not to hold her hand. Because you failed to take initiative she is now wondering if you like her. Handholding in that romantic setting was expected. If you continue to miss those golden opportunities, she will conclude you don't like her like that & she will view that as rejection & friendzone you. she knows i like her she said earlier sges not a touchy feely person
d0nnivain Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 You still should have at least offered. You could have done so silently by holding out your hand as an invitation for her to take it. You have already kissed her. You are adults. 2
organizedchaos Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 You still should have at least offered. You could have done so silently by holding out your hand as an invitation for her to take it. You have already kissed her. You are adults. Exactly. OP, take the initiative. I hope you're not trying to tell us something by your screename.
Wisecrack Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 The problem here is you over thought it. You let it manifest in your mind and blew it. Don't think. Just do. When the situation presents itself, don't think next time. Just grab her hand casually in the context of things and don't make a deal out of it. 2
HappyLove Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 so do you think i blew it? No, just take a mental note that next time you'll go for it when the opportunity presents itself.
scooby-philly Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Hey Don't worry about whether or not you blew it. The simple fact that you are thinking about it means your head is in the right place. I didn't have a lot of experience dating when i was younger. I don't necessarily feel bad about it, but it certainly has made me, along with the fact that I tend to over analyze things anyway - too hesitant and too "analytical" and not prone to listen to my gut/instinct. The advice from d0nnivain was the best - just offer it up. If being affectionate is important to you - and she's not "physical" then the best way is to just offer it. When I was seeing a woman this spring I felt bad for not kissing her at the end of the second date. Or the third. But on the fourth we had such a good time, she was driving me back to my car and I told her to pull over - I didn't know how affectionate or physical she was yet - and asked to kiss her. She seemed totally turned on by it. Best move I ever made.
Author themanisweak Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 but she had said earlier, shes not the touch feely type so it made me leery of taking that step i open the door for her, car door, doors to places and she appreciates but said shes not a fan of it i told her she was just going to have to accept thats what i do lol
hasaquestion Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Dude chill the f*** out. Why were you even in a position to hold this girl's hand in the first place? Because she wanted you there. Now stop being a damn stranger and sweep her off her feet.
alexwood Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 if yo guys made plans to see each other again i wouldnt worry
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