swannygirl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Okay, so this is my first ever time on one of these things .. Which probably means I've really hit rock bottom ... But I just need someone to kinda tell me that it's okay and I'm not being absolutely pathetic and that it happens. So here's my story. I'm 19(20 this year) and so is my boyfriend. We've been together for almost two years now and ALL of it has been long distance, we got in contact at complete random on bbm and then we skyped and I just thought "wow, I could speak to this guy forever" (cheesy I know) we were both so young that getting money for a flight as he lives in England and me South Africa was mega hard. It was a whole year until he managed to come down for 6 weeks, and let me just tell you the wait was worth it. I'd never felt so at ease and purely content with someone in my whole life, in those 6 weeks I opened up to him in a way I never had with another human being. And then he left. When I say I was depressed I mean crying constantly, cursing every being that had any part in his leaving and just being in complete disdain for about a month. It was really hard on me, the image of him leaving at the airport completely shattered my soul. I was terrified he'd go back and his feelings would change, or he'd just been pretending the entire time. Luckily when he got back everything was fine but he was also like me, extremely upset. Since then he's visited again for 3 weeks this time and he left two days ago. I'm not as sad as I was last time because we've become stronger as a couple but I'm not looking forward to 2 more years of this until I can move down after my studies. I'm seeing him again in December so I'm really excited ad it'll be my first trip to England and for an entire 6 weeks but I just wanted to know some success stories or tips on how to deal with this. Also I don't have wifi or access to internet anymore since my mother moved out so we can't skype anymore and phonecalls would break the bank. We had an argument once and he managed to snap his phone in half so we can only talk before and after he finishes work now which isn't much at all anymore. I feel completely lost, my friends can't give me advice as they haven't been in my position. Giving him up has never and will never be an option though, he is my absolute world and best friend, he makes me giggle like a 4 year old too. So yeah, success stories?tips?and if you're gonna post negative stuff about how we're too young or I'm being too clingy, save it. Thankyouuuu <3
Philosoraptor Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 It takes patience and understanding to make a LDR work. You just need to continue with life the best you can until the time comes that you can live much closer together. I will say the fact that during an argument he snapped his phone in half is cause for concern. Does he seem like one to have anger issues?
Author swannygirl Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 He used to have anger issues years ago but not at all anymore, he's moody at his worst. He believes in always having a positive mental attitude, I'm the one who usually tends to worry and get self conscious he's more of the gentle, understanding one. God I don't know how I'm going to deal with the next 4 months.
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