OverlyLost Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Me and ex boyfriend had a really bad breakup! He first hit me for the second time, I left and after we talked I told him to never speak to me again and that his mind games didn't work on me. He had hurt me really bad and done some really ****ed up **** to me during our relationship. Enough was enough for me and I finally let go! He told me today that he is glad I am gone and will never lose sleep over me because he did everything that he ever wanted to do to me and cheated withwhoever he wanted to. He also said that i was another damaged puppy and someone will find use of me one day. He told me he loved me more than anyone or anything at one point. Why would he say such hurtful things to me knowing that I loved, cared, and did everything in my power for him?!
erklat Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I said some bad things also. Well not exactly bad since they were all true but my intentions were to hurt her as I was in such pain that she caused me. I can't exactly say our cases are the same, I always treated her right. Bottom line in the immediate aftermath of the breakup people are in pain. Stuff they say is not reflection of who they are.
Author OverlyLost Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 I said some bad things also. Well not exactly bad since they were all true but my intentions were to hurt her as I was in such pain that she caused me. I can't exactly say our cases are the same, I always treated her right. Bottom line in the immediate aftermath of the breakup people are in pain. Stuff they say is not reflection of who they are. I never hurt him I just left. He hurt me enough throughout the relationship and at the end why would he say such things?! Basically laughing at everything I been through when I'm the one hurt?!
FailedFirstLove Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 They're angry. They lash out. They justify it with the pain you cause them. It hurts
hoping2heal Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 The guy is abusive Even without a breakup he was hurting you, so you can't really be surprised he would be hurtful to you after a breakup, can you? He didn't do anything at all out of character for him, and yet you're still surprised and hurt by this. Don't get me wrong - I'd be hurt, but it's the how you can be surprised part... Do you typically have abusive relationships or was this a first for you?
Author OverlyLost Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 The guy is abusive Even without a breakup he was hurting you, so you can't really be surprised he would be hurtful to you after a breakup, can you? He didn't do anything at all out of character for him, and yet you're still surprised and hurt by this. Don't get me wrong - I'd be hurt, but it's the how you can be surprised part... Do you typically have abusive relationships or was this a first for you? First and last
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