sundrop Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Does no contact affect the guys the same way it affects the girls?
easye33 Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 I think it depends on who wants the NC. If your the person who wants to talk and get back together, it hurts more because all you want is to talk to that person and let them know that you still want them. I dunno how the person who wants the NC feels cuz I'm the person who wants to talk. But to answer you question, I'm a guy and it is tearing me apart.
SinceIvebeenlovingU Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Well yes It hurts the guy just as much.... I was the dumpee in this case and she would just im me when she felt like it and didn't return my emails...so I just blocked her screen names....She later emailed me and told me she always cared about me and still did... and left a little <3 Ex type symbol... Then I found out she asked my friend how I was but he wouldn't tell her...so obviously she was thinking about me...and I got away with some dignity because I started the NC...I realized we could never be friends and that if she wanted me she had to call me or come find me...I think soon i will change my cell phone number then the only way she will find me is if she wants me...otherwise...it won't happen...I won't be anyones second choice...but does it hurt....oh it hurts like hell everyday for the last 30 days...so yes it hurts the men as well
greenhorn Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by sundrop Does no contact affect the guys the same way it affects the girls? I was thinking along similar lines when i had this relapse, i was thinking that does NC affects the girls as much as boys and one of my male frnd told me that Girls are more strong in the matters of heart than guys.Once they have thrown someone from their heart they never think of him...donno if it is true or not but as far as guys are concerned my personal experience says that it hurts the guys more than girls or might be equal to girls.
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 i was thinking that does NC affects the girls as much as boys and one of my male frnd told me that Girls are more strong in the matters of heart than guys.Once they have thrown someone from their heart they never think of him...donno if it is true or not but as far as guys are concerned my personal experience says that it hurts the guys more than girls or might be equal to girls. Yes it does...Difference is HOW men/women handle it. Men push it away, bury it and don't really want to talk about it and ignore the feelings (NOT all men...) and most women NEED to talk about it, cry and get it OUT so we can move on. That does not mean it didn't hurt any less. Life just goes on and we need to let go. For me, I know I will always love a certain guy from my past. I'm married now so he's not a factor, but he's always gonna have a special place in my heart. Miss him sometimes, but I don't allow myself to think about him much. No point.
greenhorn Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Yeah i agree that it hurts both guys and grls in equal magnitude and sometimes it makes me feel that whoever is sincere and geninue in love has to get hurt. Happier are those no matter boys or girls who love themselves and not others
Author sundrop Posted February 22, 2005 Author Posted February 22, 2005 I was just curious, I want to talk to my ex yet I want him to call me, So I kind desided not to call him anymore and I was just wondering if maybe he missed me, cause I want to tell him everyday, It has been a week now since we have talked.... And I want ot call or send an email but know it will do no good.
greenhorn Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by sundrop I was just curious, I want to talk to my ex yet I want him to call me, So I kind desided not to call him anymore and I was just wondering if maybe he missed me, cause I want to tell him everyday, It has been a week now since we have talked.... And I want ot call or send an email but know it will do no good. Sweetie hang in for few more days..i know you want him to miss him and call you ..you are doing great just hold on for few more days..
Author sundrop Posted February 22, 2005 Author Posted February 22, 2005 Thank you Greenhorn for the vote of confidence. Today is a new day and feeling better than yesterday. I am starting pilates tonight with a friend after work, so excited about that. I'm doing something for myself, and I'm in the mood that next time I see him, (whenever it may be) Watch out, cause I'm going to be looking good.....
greenhorn Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by sundrop Thank you Greenhorn for the vote of confidence. Today is a new day and feeling better than yesterday. I am starting pilates tonight with a friend after work, so excited about that. I'm doing something for myself, and I'm in the mood that next time I see him, (whenever it may be) Watch out, cause I'm going to be looking good..... Sure my eyes are popping in anticipation... One genuinue querry what is 'pilates' ? Sometimes i find it difficult to understand american things and references..pls tell me...
Author sundrop Posted February 22, 2005 Author Posted February 22, 2005 Pilates is kind of like Yoga, but it focus more on core muscle tone and strengthing. Yoga is more for streching and limbering the muscles..... But if you know what Yoga is Pilates is kind of like that...
greenhorn Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by sundrop Pilates is kind of like Yoga, but it focus more on core muscle tone and strengthing. Yoga is more for streching and limbering the muscles..... But if you know what Yoga is Pilates is kind of like that... yes yes i know what YOGA is ..oh ok now i know what pilates is ..i learnt a new thing today.. yeah it's a good idea to go for pilates.. all the best for it.
limejoose Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Hey Sundrop Dudes get lonely too, its the truth.
TranslucentThoughts Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 What if you're both sort of doing the no contact thing? My ex and I both basically avoid each other.. But, probably for different reasons. I was dumped by him... but it wasn't an angry breakup or anything like that. It was just difficult... he said it was hard for him... but I think it was harder for me. I miss talking to him... it's been 3 weeks since we haven't talked AT ALL at school... it's really hard. I could approach him but i'm honestly afraid in a way... Afraid he'll treat me coldly. Sometimes I see him accross the atrium at lunch and we'll glance at eachother at the same time and then look away. It's so weird... Things are so different now and I hate it. I don't want him back... it's just sad we can't even talk..
Recommended Posts