katinlc Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I've read all the stories about the dumper coming back when the dumpee finds happiness - karma, blah blah. I always just thought it was a coincidence. My ex broke up with me in March & I never heard another word. Found out he had been cheating on me via Facebook, but we have NO mutual friends and my FB is completely private so he has no way of knowing what is going on in my life. I've been online dating since then and been out with several people, but nothing clicked until recently. I just met a seemingly nice guy - we've been talking a couple weeks and been out once. Way too early to know if there is anything, but he's the first guy I could see being myself happy with since my ex. We actually talked ex's on our first date and I realized I still had my ex's pics, texts, and number in my phone (though I aptly changed his name to Douchbag). I deleted all this Tuesday. Just now, I got a message from FB from my ex saying the girl he cheated on with cheated on him! How does that happen? I know I should ignore, but I'm so tempted to message back - sucks doesn't it...I guess the nice girl wouldn't have been a better choice, but I know I should just ignore.
loversquarrel Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Ignore him, he made his bed now let him lay in it.
SoThatHappened Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Not that it's a competition, not that karma is real or not, but effin' A.... He got what was coming to him. Not that you won, but still I would do a stupid little dance tonight and enjoy this. I say don't respond. Move on. Who cares what he's doing or going through. You deserve this... enjoy it 2
LostConfused123 Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Not that it's a competition, not that karma is real or not, but effin' A.... He got what was coming to him. Not that you won, but still I would do a stupid little dance tonight and enjoy this. I say don't respond. Move on. Who cares what he's doing or going through. You deserve this... enjoy it Exactly! After all the pain and heartache I'm sure you suffered, breathe this in and celebrate the fact that you dodged a bullet. 1
mightycpa Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 If you do message back, send a little reply that says, Tough break, sorry to hear about that. But don't worry, if my experience with you is any guide, you'll be completely over it in a couple of weeks! 2
music_and_poetry Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Asking you, begging you not to answer. He's an ass and don't you dare feel sorry for him. My ex cheated on me with my friend. He asked for another chance and I told him to take a hike. He wound up dating my friend for three years. He still begged for me back twice throughout their relationship. Still she stayed with him. Finally he rewarded her loyalty by cheating on her and dumping her for good. Don't be someone's consolation prize. Be his big f-up and hold your head high. Go for this new guy! I know it's hard!
Author katinlc Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 Don't worry - I would NEVER ever consider getting back with him, even if there wasn't a potential new guy. I am worth way more than that. I just am shocked at the timing - mainly that after months, he contacts me literally 2 days after I delete everything. His message was so weird - like he was looking for sympathy and forgot about the fact that he cheated on me. He said "Well, got cheated on. I know you don't wanna hear it...I can't win."
Chi townD Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I'll be honest with you, I've been on here quite a while and how Ex's know that we've started to move on and date even after a long period of time has happened is STILL a mystery to me. All I can say is that it just happens.
SoThatHappened Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I'll be honest with you, I've been on here quite a while and how Ex's know that we've started to move on and date even after a long period of time has happened is STILL a mystery to me. All I can say is that it just happens. Dude, how do you not know after that long here? It's The Force! katinlc, you just got what so many dumpees/ex's would love to get: a little redemption, knowing that what they did to you was reciprocated. You can take what you've learned from that relationship and infidelity and apply it to your future. You're way ahead of the game (sounds like it too). Next. He's not even a chapter, but a footnote in your story. 3
Author katinlc Posted July 18, 2014 Author Posted July 18, 2014 I did decide to message him back this morning. I simply said "That sucks...guess it would have been a better decision to choose the nice, loyal girl". He immediately replied with "yep, lesson learned. My heart and head told me and I was stupid". I'm leaving it at that. It's weird, but I finally feel this chapter in my life is closed. I would never wish hurt on anyone, even when they've wronged me because life is too short (and forgiveness in life is key to a happy life), so I can't be happy that he was cheated on, but I am happy for the recognition of his mistake. He's not even a chapter, but a footnote in your story. I love, love, love this phrase and it is so true. 2
emotionalMess Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 You can stand proud with the fact that you remained faithful to the end. I would leave it as it is now. No reason to further rub his face in it. He screwed up, he knows it. You win now time for the next chapter - I mean footnote 2
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