sparkless Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 After the endless nights of talk and messaging my best friend and i fell for each other (well thats what i thought). Have been friends for 3 yrs and been there for each other through good times and bad. Until 4 months ago we fess up to each other about our feelings and both decided to be more than friends. The first month was exceptionally well.By the second month things were becoming even better. We both have busy lives and see each other probably twice three time a week but we talk everyday/night over the phone to the extent that we will fall asleep with our phones on our ear and wake up to each other's voice. We would tell eachother that we love them alot and hope it lasts and if God forbids and we don't make it we will remain friends no matter what happens. Off and on he would ask me why i love him and why am i with him and that hes not worthy of my love and that i deserve better. He would outline all his faults to me which i already know and still ask me why am i with him. I mean if i already know all your bad habits and still decide to be with you that says something. i began to question myself as to if he's seeing someone else or if he doesnt feel the same way about me. hes not the cheating type (well thats what ive seen over the three years). Anything i want or say im going to buy or get he will go the extra mile and get it for me without hesitation. at times i feel weird when he does that because im the type of chick that dont like asking my partner for anything. by the third month i unknowingly began to withdraw abit as i was abit frustrated with work but he never mention a thing about it until he started to withdraw as well. then within that time frame i was late and he thought i was pregnant and i constantly kept telling that im not. we had a stupid argument over that because he wants kids bad and he thought i was. Anyway, the third month was rough. we argued almost everyday, i cant talk to him without him becoming hasty. we talk less everyday until we dont talk anymore, we message eachother 3 times a day. im lost confused annoyed and wondering what happened. im afraid that not only am i going to lose him as my bf but as my best friend. Idont know if hes afraid of commitment, if things are going fast, if there is someone else or if hes ready for kids an d im not. Everyday i think about breaking up with him but some part of me just keeps telling me to hold on a bit longer he will come around.
kolleamm Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 You need to break up that paragraph into smaller chunks, seriously I got lost in the sea of words halfway. Anyways, I think you should keep other options open and not just depend on one guy to make you happy. If it doesn't work out with this one simply find another. If things become no fun anymore, then just break up and save yourself some drama.
scooby-philly Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I agree - please break up your writing to make it easier to read...lol You really haven't shared enough information for the group to give you feedback. Are you 16, 22, 26, or 30? Was there any specific incident that happened three months in? And, what's his overall personality like. Sometime, I feel like I'm not worthy enough of love, and I come from a family that's steeped in shame and abandonment, but I've gotten a lot of help over the years and found some peace - now looking forward to good things - though my demons are still there and I still suffer from occasional depression, anger, or just plain apathy. Anyway, back to you - If you can perhaps provide a little more detail we offer up better advice. Particularly information about him - he may simply have low self-esteem and may be unintentionally trying to sabotage things because he considers himself not good enough for you / anyone and doesn't realize that disagreement will happen in every relationship.
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