alexwood Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Last night I was on a date with this girl, 3rd one. we were talking about our lives and she was talking about some flaws shes been working on my dumbass said that "some people say im too nice and can be a pushover" and that "people have told me im sensitive" not sensitive as im always crying but i do have feelings..if someone i cared about said something hurtful it would affect me but afetr thinking about saying that i realize how stupid i wa ssaying taht now i look like a weak crying man i told her i dont think im a pushover, i have kicked people out of my life who i feel took advantage of me. she said she would see me next week but i feel i blew it did i?
I am Bud Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Dear alexwood I don't think that you blew it with this girl. She revealed a flaw so you mentioned something that you perceived as a flaw too. So you both shared some information within an appropriate moment. There is nothing wrong with a guy saying that he is sensitive in certain situations, it just being honest so it's good. Don't pretend to be someone that you perceive that she wants. Just be yourself. If she is willing to dump you over that comment than she is definitely not the right person for you. She said that she would see you next week so relax and aim for that 4th date. All the best - Bud.
Blade96 Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I don't think so...she revealed something so did you. To sympathize and to bond a little with her. If she sees something wrong in that, a conversation SHE started, she needs to give her head a shake.
Thegreatestthing Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Being vulnerable and open is part of love ,I definitely as a girl would not look down at a guy who said that,it would make me trust him more I don't think you did anything wrong.
kolleamm Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Relax, if a girl truly likes you she likes you. Imagine telling her that the day you two would get married, would she leave you?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 If you come across to this woman as you do in the post, then you lack confidence...not too sensitive. We tend to like positive, confident men. See you next week? Call her up. Take charge. Co-signed. OP, you need to chill a bit. If you worry this much about everything you say, it's going to become obvious to her that you aren't so confident. And that is generally a turn-off to us ladies. I don't see from your post how you blew it.
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