No Limit Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Very, very rarely. And those few who did do it were piss poor drunk, with only 1 exception. At least when it comes to looks I've long quit counting. I get looks, I get turned heads, I got a guy staring at me and forgetting about his coffee, I got a jogger raising his shirt a little on a hot day when approaching me and some other dude greeted me from behind while passing with his bike. But talk? Impossible. For those of you who are hardly getting hit on: How you dooooing? Hope I made your day! Well done. 1
Woggle Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 A man never knows how a woman will react and sometimes it just isn't worth dealing with the response. 3
hotpotato Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Maybe you have "resting bitch face syndrome". Do people ask you if everything is OK a lot for seemingly no reason? Do you get weird looks from customer service worker types when they interact with you? Some people have always had a bad "resting expression" and some people develop it with age. They even have plastic surgery to make it so you have a better resting expression. Is there such a thing as accidental bitch face syndrome? Sometimes when I deal with customer service folks, it just happens... Now that I'm 31 weeks along I only get stares. It's pretty funny really. They see my face and probably think "mmm", then the boobs "alright!", then the huge bulging belly "oh!". Back to face/boobs. There are men who like pregnant women. Some women only get hit on when they are obviously pregnant. Dudes want to hit it raw. I have never been hit on much in my life. Most of the guys who really come at me are really old or really unattractive.
Mr Scorpio Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Like what? That she's a ho because she makes an effort to look good? No. Not at all. I would assume that either (1) I don't meet her standards and/or (2) that we aren't compatible. I would think "I'd probably find you to be boring, and you'd probably find me to be weird". Mind you, I am not criticizing folks who like to look nice. More power to them. Also, if there is an apparent reason for being dressed up (wedding, fundraiser, etc) then that changes things entirely. 1
D.Mc. Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I grew up in the South Bronx, so the constant "psst chica" & "hey mama" I used to get at 18 y.o. never registered w/me since I couldn't wait to get out of there. Nowadays, I used to get "cute" remarks from the 60 to 80 y.o. men when I checked them out as a cashier. From men my age or younger either at work, school or in the street...never... OP I feel for you, wait till you're over 40. Even with a body slimmer than some 20 y.o.'s out there you become invisible. The truth is many women don't mind being hit on by a guy but it's the quality of who's doing the hitting that matters (sorry my gender but it's TRUE). A handsome man hitting on us could be a potential date, an unattractive one is just a creep.
regine_phalange Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 From people my age, not very often. But old men seem to have a special liking to me. And with old, I mean 70+ fellas. I guess I will be especially happy about it when Im 80 3
gaius Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 From people my age, not very often. But old men seem to have a special liking to me. And with old, I mean 70+ fellas. I guess I will be especially happy about it when Im 80 By then people will be living way longer and you'll be stuck with the 130 year olds. 2
regine_phalange Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 By then people will be living way longer and you'll be stuck with the 130 year olds. Go away, 2000 year-old head. 3
hotpotato Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 From people my age, not very often. But old men seem to have a special liking to me. And with old, I mean 70+ fellas. I guess I will be especially happy about it when Im 80 Im glad im not the only grandpa magnet here! 2
regine_phalange Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Im glad im not the only grandpa magnet here! Why do you think that happens? I want to believe that it happens because we look like Grace Kelly and Ingrid Bergman. 1
veggirl Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Oh, I'm not saying I'm not attracted to a dressed up chick. Sure, I'll give them a double or triple take visually. But I will also likely make inaccurate generalizations that will prevent me from ever hitting on her. Or that she is already taken, or out of his league etc. Jeez. Right so it's not that guys like Scorp and SD aren't attracted to women who are dressed up, it's that they are intimidated by them. That's a big difference. 1
hotpotato Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Why do you think that happens? I want to believe that it happens because we look like Grace Kelly and Ingrid Bergman. Lol I dont look like either, but it still happens! I think old men are very bad at reading social cues, or rather dont read them at all. For example, the last one thought I was in need of a man because I was alone on a saturday night. Well, if im chilling by myself on a saturday night obviously im not trying to meet dudes! Ive tried being nice to them, and they see that as opportunity and sexual interest. Plus, some of them really, really want someone who is young. The remote chance of getting someone very young is enough to make them try. Of course, you are supposed to overlook his age. Elderly men nowadays have viagra and cialis. As long as he can get it up, he believes he is sexy. Ive heard of men and women having issues with horny old dudes in gyms and other places where people exercise. This is usually where I meeet them. Young guys are there with their girlfriends or concentrating on their workouts. If its the weekend I imagine they want to get the workout done and then go to the club. Older men dont work out as hard and are more likely to notice other people. Imo old guys are braver. The chance of being 75 with a 25 year old gf destroys their logical thinking. Plus, they see Hugh Hefner and believe its feasible that he too can date much younger women.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 The frequency of women being hit on by men usually have absolutely nothing to do with how they look...many attractive women never get hit on and its got nothing to do with them being out of anyone's league... There is a certain "approachability" that some women exude...Then they wind up complaining that they get too much unwanted attention...go figure.... TFY 5
Revolver Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Older guys are more bold because they don't care what people think of them at that point. A lot of them were probably shy and awkward in their youth but now It's like... "What do I really have to lose?"
Emilia Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 She's obviously a beautiful woman, but it has nothing to do with the dress. And yes, that dress makes her LESS sexually attractive. Who wants to dig through all that sh*t to get to a girl? Dresses and skirts are appealing because they only need to be lifted up and the woman has very little on underneath - if anything. I thought every single man on this planet understood that 1
SammySammy Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Dresses and skirts are appealing because they only need to be lifted up and the woman has very little on underneath - if anything. I thought every single man on this planet understood that Most men do understand that. 1
SolG Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I very rarely get hit on. I work predominately with male dominated industries and learnt early on to cultivate a look that will drop a potential Romeo in his tracks at 50 feet. I can now pretty much project that overall 'vibe' whenever I want to. Works like a charm in all contexts. The only ones that make it through are either very drunk, very cocky, or those who use surprise and stealth tactics.
acapelo_dp Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I rarely got hit on when I lived in a small town. Since moving to a big city a year ago, I get hit on pretty regularly. I've had guys come up to me randomly and ask me on a date. Usually it is when I look like crap and put no effort into my appearance which baffles me.
Woggle Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Older guys are more bold because they don't care what people think of them at that point. A lot of them were probably shy and awkward in their youth but now It's like... "What do I really have to lose?" Exactly. They just don't give a eff at that point which is why they have no qualms about approaching whoever they want.
seekingpeaceinlove Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I used to get hit on everywhere I went in my 20s. It was pretty ridiculous. There would be notes left on my car, guys following me off the freeway, customers emailing me at work. I don't consider myself beautiful maybe pretty but I think I exuded a strong sexual energy. Now, in my 30s I get hit on much much less..maybe once every week or so. My sister, who is beautiful, rarely got hit on in her entire life but I would say she has the "bitchy resting face" syndrome. lol.
EasyHeart Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Dresses and skirts are appealing because they only need to be lifted up and the woman has very little on underneath - if anything. I thought every single man on this planet understood that Good gravy, I'd need a hoist and tackle to lift up that dress! I'm just trying to help you, ladies. I don't really care if you believe me.
gaius Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Go away, 2000 year-old head. I can't, there's just something about you.... :p Dresses and skirts are appealing because they only need to be lifted up and the woman has very little on underneath - if anything. I thought every single man on this planet understood that The one you linked wasn't as bad as a lot of them but they do often distort the figure of a woman and that's what we find most sexy. It's never hotter than when shes in something skintight. I'll take a nice top and skintight boots/jeans over a dress any day.
SpiralOut Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I get stared at and catcalled pretty regularly. Actually, it is happening less often this year than last year, maybe because I don't spend as much time in a sketchier neighborhood. I'm usually oblivious when men hit on me or flirt with me, unless they are being very aggressive and obvious about it. I've been told before that I don't notice men flirting with me.
somedude81 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Right so it's not that guys like Scorp and SD aren't attracted to women who are dressed up, it's that they are intimidated by them. That's a big difference. That's pretty close to how I feel but not exactly. I also wonder why a woman is dressed up, who she is dressed up for. And it also gives me the feeling that she's too good. It's kind of hard to explain. Though I will say that the first time I saw my ex dressed up when we were going to go Salsa dancing, I was blown away. She looked so amazing and I couldn't believe that I was going out with her. It was such a great feeling knowing that she was with me.
hotpotato Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 This is why we women are attracted to respectful confident men. They are the opposite to Woggle. They go after what they want ( me) without worrying about rejection. They just brush it off without the fretting. As for 'older' men. Yes, they are wiser...this is is why they tend to be more assertive and take the initiative. They have learned, again, that confidence is a big plus. It is not that they 'don't care'...it's because they have learned that standing in the corner never asking the pretty girl to dance accomplished nothing. Better to take command of the situation. As my father used to say. Better to go down swinging than looking at a called third strike. I promise that much of the time it is not wisdom... 1
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