veggirl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 This is something so few women seem to understand. Attention Ladies: When you get 'dressed up' and 'look good' it means that YOU ARE DRESSING FOR OTHER WOMEN. Men don't want you in high heels and an evening dress. It's an attractive look to other women, not to men. We want you in jeans and a tshirt, or maybe a cute sundress. Anything more than that makes you less attractive. If you want to establish your rank in the female pecking order, then by all means dress yourself up. But that is its only purpose. That's not true across the board at ALL. I've never dated a guy who didn't go gaga when I'm in a fitted dress and heels. Maybe clown make up and street walker wear is less attractive and that's what you mean..? 5
Haydn Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I got her number though. As you can imagine she was thrilled to meet me. Summer drinking in LDN, yep that always does it. Haha! In my dreams.
MoreCoffee Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I've always assumed that most women are browbeat by men and I don't want to be "that guy." So I don't hit on women..at all. You already know how that turns out.
hasaquestion Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 This is something so few women seem to understand. Attention Ladies: When you get 'dressed up' and 'look good' it means that YOU ARE DRESSING FOR OTHER WOMEN. Men don't want you in high heels and an evening dress. It's an attractive look to other women, not to men. We want you in jeans and a tshirt, or maybe a cute sundress. Anything more than that makes you less attractive. If you want to establish your rank in the female pecking order, then by all means dress yourself up. But that is its only purpose. Dude are you kidding? Of course we do. Society would stop functioning if women dressed up all the time because we'd be too busy trying to get them out of their clothes... 1
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I get cat calls, sleazy comments from pervs at the grocery store, whistles from passing cars, etc. But as far as actually being approached in a social context and asked for my number, pretty much never. Now I just assume it's the ring on my finger, but it's pretty much always been this way (I'm 27), ring or none.
Mr Scorpio Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 That's not true across the board at ALL. I've never dated a guy who didn't go gaga when I'm in a fitted dress and heels. Maybe clown make up and street walker wear is less attractive and that's what you mean..? Sure. But we're you already dating them at the time you wore those outfits? Or were you out at a random place and approached by these men? Not a wine tasting event or some other high-society flim-flam, but a random place (gas station, post office, etc)? 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 If they are not drunk/on drugs/asking for money...almost never. I get sleazy comments, whistles and car honks but that's about it. It's been this way since I was 15. However, I often feel that male co-workers and bosses are particularly well disposed towards me and generally out of proportion to what I deserve. I have a feeling that if they were not all married/in serious relationships, they would all ask me out but I am probably being delusional 1
EasyHeart Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 If they are not drunk/on drugs/asking for money... Yeesh! Kinda picky, aren't you? 1
somedude81 Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 That's not true across the board at ALL. I've never dated a guy who didn't go gaga when I'm in a fitted dress and heels. Maybe clown make up and street walker wear is less attractive and that's what you mean..? Sure. But we're you already dating them at the time you wore those outfits? Or were you out at a random place and approached by these men? Not a wine tasting event or some other high-society flim-flam, but a random place (gas station, post office, etc)? That's what I was going to say. It's completely different when the woman is already in a relationship and then she dresses up versus when she's single and meeting random men.
Anela Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 To me hitting in would have to be blatantly asking for my number or a date, not just talking to me. I have no idea when the last time that happened to me was That's why I didn't really count them, although they seemed interested. One guy who started talking to me, I cut short, because the store was two minutes away from closing, I only got there once a week, and he was just taking his time. I needed to rush off to find a few things, and didn't want to keep the store staff behind, especially since it was just before Christmas. The last time I was blatantly hit on, outside of a dating site, was by one of the cheaters I've mentioned before. I didn't go for it.
Absinthe Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I've noticed the same thing, and I'm 26! But to be honest, I think it has more to do with the fact that I moved to Asia...It's not impossible to date here, but Asian guys are not as forthcoming as Westerners. And Western guys don't need to go near Western women here, as the local ladies will throw themselves at you I'm noticing that, as I move through my twenties, my peers are one of two things: married or jaded. Either way, they're typically stuck on somebody, which means they're not looking. I can lump myself into that bracket: I'm not just going through a drought of not being hit on, but I'm not finding myself drawn to anyone either. I sense it's a phase, though.
Mr Scorpio Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 However, I often feel that male co-workers and bosses are particularly well disposed towards me and generally out of proportion to what I deserve. I have a feeling that if they were not all married/in serious relationships, they would all ask me out but I am probably being delusional The bolded is ripe for a thread unto itself. Don't we all -- excluding deviants and miscreants -- deserve basically the same thing? 1
veggirl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 (edited) Sure. But we're you already dating them at the time you wore those outfits? Or were you out at a random place and approached by these men? Not a wine tasting event or some other high-society flim-flam, but a random place (gas station, post office, etc)? Who goes to the post office in heels and a fancy dress. Obviously that's out of place. Not that I think the majority often would mind. Actually I'd do errands in shorts and heels in the summer, I love heels. I don't agree at alllll that guys aren't attracted to a dressed up chick. Hot is hot. When I was single and out to dinner or bars damn right I got more attention dressed up than in jeans and flip flops. Edited July 18, 2014 by veggirl 1
Priv Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 That's what I was going to say. It's completely different when the woman is already in a relationship and then she dresses up versus when she's single and meeting random men. Well maybe because you are thinking 'who is she dressing up for'. But that is just forum theory talk. Out in the wild when I see a woman all dolled up I just think 'niceeeeee!'. Brings me to my next point. It is summer. I still see 80% of women wearing jeans. There is nothing more feminine than a nice dress. What is wrong with you jeans wearers!!!!!!!!! Theoretically, I way sooner hit on someone wearing a dress. I like whoever I am seeing to wear dresses and skirts so why would I hit on a jeans wearer. *disclaimer: I am sure those of you reading this wearing jeans are also very lovely, beautiful women who I no doubt would hit on*
Priv Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Every women knows this. Put on a dress, jewlery, hint of cleavage, heels, hair down. Just sit on a bench in the mall and tap at your cell phone. Rarely does a male between 15 and 75 go by without giving you a top to bottom look. This is why I try to be exactly on time and never early to meet for an event, a luncheon, etc. Otherwise, if dressed up at all, I'm being mentally undressed a hundred times. I tried that once on halloween once at uni. I was Thelma. Jewelry, dress, lots of ummm.... cleavage (no heels though). The works. You wouldn't believe the male attention I got! 3
Mr Scorpio Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I don't agree at alllll that guys aren't attracted to a dressed up chick. Hot is hot. When I was single and out to dinner or bars damn right I got more attention dressed up than in jeans and flip flops. Oh, I'm not saying I'm not attracted to a dressed up chick. Sure, I'll give them a double or triple take visually. But I will also likely make inaccurate generalizations that will prevent me from ever hitting on her. 1
EasyHeart Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 A man who tells this lady to wear jeans and a t-shirt should never get laid http://www.voguepk.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Beautiful-Long-Evening-Dress-Fashion-for-Women-Trends-2013-3.jpg She's obviously a beautiful woman, but it has nothing to do with the dress. And yes, that dress makes her LESS sexually attractive. Who wants to dig through all that sh*t to get to a girl? 1
hasaquestion Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Oh, I'm not saying I'm not attracted to a dressed up chick. Sure, I'll give them a double or triple take visually. But I will also likely make inaccurate generalizations that will prevent me from ever hitting on her. Like what? That she's a ho because she makes an effort to look good? A world without heels and party dresses is a sad world indeed.
Priv Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Like what? That she's a ho because she makes an effort to look good? Or that she is already taken, or out of his league etc. Jeez. 1
rewl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Like what? That she's a ho because she makes an effort to look good? A world without heels and party dresses is a sad world indeed. Well, it depends upon how much flesh is being shown. I look at some girls and think "HIV magnet", I wouldn't touch them with a 50 metre metal pole. I look at other girls who show a lot of their leg and chest and think "I'd bang that and show her to my mates, but that ho has a time limit". And then I look at other hot girls who aren't showing too much flesh and don't seem slutty and think " what a bangable classy girl, she could make babies for me".
Priv Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Well, it depends upon how much flesh is being shown. I look at some girls and think "HIV magnet", I wouldn't touch them with a 50 metre metal pole. I look at other girls who show a lot of their leg and chest and think "I'd bang that and show her to my mates, but that ho has a time limit". And then I look at other hot girls who aren't showing too much flesh and don't seem slutty and think " what a bangable classy girl, she could make babies for me". Is there an unlike botton? 3
rewl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Is there an unlike botton? button* And yes there should be.
Priv Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 button* And yes there should be. Button. Thanks, I will remember that. How is your Dutch? Well man, FYI, I too like my 'ho's' dressed up as 'HIV magnets' to show off to my 'bro's'
rewl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Well man, FYI, I too like my 'ho's' dressed up as 'HIV magnets' to show off to my 'bro's' Well, you're certainly in the right country
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