Lipitor11 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 I use to get hit on all the time when I was in my early 20's, guys would hit on me everywhere I would go. Now, that I'm in my 30's, no guys even look my way, and this is when I get all fixed up! I don't know what happened, I think I'm just past my prime or I don't like that same like I use to. And when I would get hit on, it would be at the most random places, at the store, libraries, etc, etc.
todreaminblue Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 when i am out doing my community blending thing(shopping visiting)its more i am easy to approach and be approached ........guys find it easy to talk to me so they open conversations ...this happens everywhere i go if i pushed it or gave signals some would ask......i feel that.... so i am just open and friendly but reserved in reagrds to what i say....i dont like being hit on...its awkward and makes me anxious with guys whom i dont know...i do like conversation......i like it when guys talk about their gfs or wives...lol....then i can relax.....had a conversation about marshmellows and how he had found his gfs stash ate them all then just blamed it on his son..that was from spyign marshmellows in my trolley...that made me laugh i dont like the conversation if it heads into my personal life......and the inevitible" do you ever get lonely" when i state i am single if they ask..... i start to panic.......and get out of there..i actually get hit on more now than i did in my early years as i was never single for long this has been the longest because i am celibate and waiting for the right guy for me....and i am getting hit on a fair bit mainly by guys who know me.....and that i am single now.......its self imposed singledom...its right that i should be....for now....maybe tomorrow might be different......deb
SJS Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 A lot of guys will talk to me, but I'm a bit on the dense side and not actually sure if they are being friendly or hitting on me, unless they are totally obvious and offer their number or something. I'm pretty friendly and talk to a lot of people, so I just assume that others are being friendly as well. Keeping that in mind, I don't think it's that often, but I don't really put myself in many situations that I can get hit on easily (because my kid is with, or I'm with my husband, manage to mention my husband in conversation, etc).
kodakgirl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I never get hit on. I get looked at all the time and sometimes even turn heads, but I seem to have some kind of "look don't touch" vibe. Women and non-hitting-on-me men chat to me all the time and ask directions and everything, so I can't look so horribly unfriendly as all that... who knows. (oh and I'm 26... has always been like this).
cerridwen Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 ...And when I would get hit on, it would be at the most random places, at the store, libraries, etc, etc. Meh, I do alright. What I want to know, is why guys will hit on us when we're looking pretty damn horrid. Have you had that experience? Like the random locations you cite, there doesn't seem to be rhyme or reason for attention paid during days of looking hideous. 5
Mr Scorpio Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Meh, I do alright. What I want to know, is why guys will hit on us when we're looking pretty damn horrid. For some of us it is because (1) we don't think you look bad in jeans and a sweatshirt with your hair tied up and no make-up on and/or (2) we think a woman who is all gussied up may be "higher maintenance" than her casual counterpart. Also, Approaching in a store/library seems more organic and friendly than doing so at a club. Nothing good comes of clubs. 11
somedude81 Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Meh, I do alright. What I want to know, is why guys will hit on us when we're looking pretty damn horrid. Have you had that experience? Like the random locations you cite, there doesn't seem to be rhyme or reason for attention paid during days of looking hideous. Scoprpio beat me to it. Odds are you don't look as horrid as you think you do. Some guys may actually prefer that look. A girl all glamed up can actually be pretty intimidating.
Lernaean_Hydra Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Several times daily. Not counting cat-callers and horn blowers. 1
Haydn Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I successfully chatted up a lovely girl with a high pony tail no slap on and an earthy pair of dungerees in `Haskin`s` garden centre once. She was gorgeous. I was interested in her purchase of organic bird feed. There is actually nothing more sexy than a girl who has just put her hair up and checks the tyre pressure of her car while nodding sagely.
SmartDude Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Meh, I do alright. What I want to know, is why guys will hit on us when we're looking pretty damn horrid. Have you had that experience? Like the random locations you cite, there doesn't seem to be rhyme or reason for attention paid during days of looking hideous. It is possible for a woman to feel "not sexy" and a guy will still go gaga for her. I am quite familiar with this situation. I think it might this might be a common experience for men. I have this feeling that its not just me that does this...
Anela Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Rarely. I've had men just start talking to me, out of nowhere, but haven't had someone actually ask for my number. I had one man keep looking at me in the bookstore, Spring of last year, but he didn't say anything to me. 1
Anela Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 It is possible for a woman to feel "not sexy" and a guy will still go gaga for her. I am quite familiar with this situation. I think it might this might be a common experience for men. I have this feeling that its not just me that does this... Yes! I've never understood it when I've been called "sexy," and when I was receiving wolf whistles one night, I turned to my dad and asked him if I suddenly looked slutty, or something. I was wearing clothes I've worn before, with no reaction like that. 1
Priv Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 For those of you who are hardly getting hit on: How you dooooing? Hope I made your day! 7
Emilia Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 What I want to know, is why guys will hit on us when we're looking pretty damn horrid. Have you had that experience? Like the random locations you cite, there doesn't seem to be rhyme or reason for attention paid during days of looking hideous. You couldn't look horrid if you tried cerri, not even after caving covered in mud. Well I'm 42 and I get hit on all the time. Sometimes subtly sometimes not so subtly. Kind of depends on the weather and the time of the day: summer evenings are the worst because of the alcohol, I'd guess. 5
gaius Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Yes! I've never understood it when I've been called "sexy," and when I was receiving wolf whistles one night, I turned to my dad and asked him if I suddenly looked slutty, or something. I was wearing clothes I've worn before, with no reaction like that. You've got it hammered so deep in your head that you're unattractive you don't even notice it most of the time it happens I'm sure. Like I didn't notice after I lost weight and got rid of the beached whale look. But not the mindset.
Imported Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I never get hit on. I get looked at all the time and sometimes even turn heads, but I seem to have some kind of "look don't touch" vibe. Women and non-hitting-on-me men chat to me all the time and ask directions and everything, so I can't look so horribly unfriendly as all that... who knows. (oh and I'm 26... has always been like this). Maybe you have "resting bitch face syndrome". Do people ask you if everything is OK a lot for seemingly no reason? Do you get weird looks from customer service worker types when they interact with you? Some people have always had a bad "resting expression" and some people develop it with age. They even have plastic surgery to make it so you have a better resting expression. 1
Candy_Pants Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Now that I'm 31 weeks along I only get stares. It's pretty funny really. They see my face and probably think "mmm", then the boobs "alright!", then the huge bulging belly "oh!". Back to face/boobs. 2
veggirl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 To me hitting in would have to be blatantly asking for my number or a date, not just talking to me. I have no idea when the last time that happened to me was
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I think it can be open to interpretation what being hit on actually is... Are you referring to some flirtatious gestures/remarks that can be a quite ambiguous depending on one's perception/awareness? Or.. Someone going out of their way to approach you or start a conversation out of interest, which leads to ultimately being asked for your number/contact info or relationship status?
EasyHeart Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I use to get hit on all the time when I was in my early 20's, guys would hit on me everywhere I would go. Now, that I'm in my 30's, no guys even look my way, and this is when I get all fixed up! I don't know what happened, I think I'm just past my prime or I don't like that same like I use to. And when I would get hit on, it would be at the most random places, at the store, libraries, etc, etc. Some of it may be that you're not as good-looking as you used to be. Most women (but not all) look better in their 20s than in their 30s. But a big part of it is simply that there are fewer men to hit on you. As you got older, so did the men who might want to hit on you. A lot of them got married and had kids, so they're no longer interested in you. That's why it gets harder and harder to meet people when you get older. It's not that there are fewer attractive people out there; it's that there are fewer a and fewer single, age-appropriate people out there. 1
EasyHeart Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 For some of us it is because (1) we don't think you look bad in jeans and a sweatshirt with your hair tied up and no make-up on and/or (2) we think a woman who is all gussied up may be "higher maintenance" than her casual counterpart. This is something so few women seem to understand. Attention Ladies: When you get 'dressed up' and 'look good' it means that YOU ARE DRESSING FOR OTHER WOMEN. Men don't want you in high heels and an evening dress. It's an attractive look to other women, not to men. We want you in jeans and a tshirt, or maybe a cute sundress. Anything more than that makes you less attractive. If you want to establish your rank in the female pecking order, then by all means dress yourself up. But that is its only purpose. 1
Emilia Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Attention Ladies: When you get 'dressed up' and 'look good' it means that YOU ARE DRESSING FOR OTHER WOMEN. Men don't want you in high heels and an evening dress. It's an attractive look to other women, not to men. We want you in jeans and a tshirt, or maybe a cute sundress. Anything more than that makes you less attractive. If you want to establish your rank in the female pecking order, then by all means dress yourself up. But that is its only purpose. A man who tells this lady to wear jeans and a t-shirt should never get laid http://www.voguepk.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Beautiful-Long-Evening-Dress-Fashion-for-Women-Trends-2013-3.jpg 1
Bruce Leigh Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 A man who tells this lady to wear jeans and a t-shirt should never get laid http://www.voguepk.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Beautiful-Long-Evening-Dress-Fashion-for-Women-Trends-2013-3.jpg Ha ha, she would probably be able to wear greasy overalls and still have guys chat her up 2
Haydn Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Emilia, you look great. A man who tells this lady to wear jeans and a t-shirt should never get laid http://www.voguepk.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Beautiful-Long-Evening-Dress-Fashion-for-Women-Trends-2013-3.jpg 4
Emilia Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Someone going out of their way to approach you or start a conversation out of interest, which leads to ultimately being asked for your number/contact info or relationship status? Summer drinking in London... same response.
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