JustSomeGuyHere Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 This happened to me 5 years ago. I really loved her. It was an intense relationship, but there were issues and we broke up but stayed friends. I really wanted to get back together but knew it was a terrible idea. That it was just never going to work out. I was still obsessed with her. I remember just thinking about her all the time. It was torture. One night she called me up, we were talking and she invited me over. We slept together and it was great but sad at the same time, since I knew we couldn't get back together. A few days later she died in a car accident. Looking back now, I realize how hard this was. Not only was I dealing with the death of a relationship. But also with the death of a friend, ex gf, and lover. I haven't been in a relationship where I felt as strongly about someone or let them know me as well, until last year. And with that relationship recently ending, it's bringing back up old demons. Just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced anything like this before? 1
scobro Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 My ex wife years ago met someone behind my back, she stopped seeing him and we got back together, but the guy was in a serious car accident and was left paralyzed 1
sooshi Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 My former best friend's ex died shortly after she left him for someone else. She blamed herself for his death for a long time, and it didn't help that his family blamed her too. He jumped in front of a moving truck, but there was never any conclusion as to why this happened (if it was intentional or not; he had been taking medication for bipolar disorder and it's felt that maybe he was going through a manic episode and wasn't fully aware of what he was doing). This was in early 2010 and she has had the whole "he was my true love and I don't want to let him go/betray him by being with someone else" thing going on most of the time throughout the years. I'm sorry for what you've gone through. That must have been a really tough experience. 1
todreaminblue Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 yes, i broke up with him because he used drugs, in particular needles, he wanted me to come on a car trip with him and a mate to reconnect our relationship...i thought about it seriously.....i said no..because i got a very firm no when I prayed from my heart about it dont go..they crashed both were killed...mayeb they both fell asleep ....mayeb i would have been awake had i goen too..chances are i would have slept......high chance i woudlnt be here now...i did struggle with this......but i know that it was out of my control and what happened happened and that it wasnt my fault i wasnt meant to be in that car... my sister had her fiancee die next to her in bed again drugs being the cause his heart stopped......she awoke on the death rattle i had to come and support my mum and my sis at three in the morning and help them deal with it.....i was hugely pregnant at the time...and i never want to see dead bodies again...not just died.......its horrible and traumatizing for the people left behind.my sister has never really recovered and she has never married.......drugs have been the major bane of my family......lots of heartache for us all...i freaking hate drugs.......deb ...deb 1
Elle1975 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 After my sister died, one of her exes contacted me on facebook. He told me they'd had an intense but short relationship, and he was saddened by the news of her passing. 1
zen2475 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 A guy I dated briefly ODd the last night I saw him. We had broken up a couple months prior and I ran into him while out on a date. He was clearly coked out of his mind and drunk. He ODd a few hours later. Another ex died a couple of years after we broke up. He was a musician and just released his first record. He was on tour and was on stage in Scotland when he collapsed. He never recovered. Lastly, my ex husband died in a hunting accident. He fell out of his tree stand while deer hunting. He only had a waist harness and when he fell it snapped his back. He was left hanging parallel to the ground with his back arched such that he eventually suffocated. I can't imagine a more horrific way to die. He left behind a wife and two young sons.
mammasita Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 One of my exes died in a motorcycle accident in 2009. He cheated on me while he was deployed in 2008 so I had dumped him and we weren't together when he passed.
edgygirl Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 Wow. I haven't cried really after my breakup, but this brought tears to my eyes. Sorry for your loss(es). Not only was I dealing with the death of a relationship. But also with the death of a friend, ex gf, and lover. 1
irresolute Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 I'm really sorry for your loss, and I hope you'll find some solace 1
Ordinaryday Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 possibly, I have absolutely zero contact with most exes and no mutual friends with a lot of them so if they did die unless I saw it in the news I would never hear about it.
d0nnivain Posted July 18, 2014 Posted July 18, 2014 He died about 2 years after the breakup so it wasn't that close in time. While I didn't want him back I had hoped he was going to get his life together; he never did. It was all very sad. My now husband was my new BF at the time & one of the reasons I fell in love with him was that he was very supportive & understanding while I attended the funeral.
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