Offspring Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 ^ i just wanted to ad, that i've been in a very similar situation, where i fell victim to somebody's charms and felt like i walked into a web. Thing is, they can't respect us, because we've shown them we are willing to give it up for crumbs. The trick is to become more aware of what you want (review or raise your standards), and what i've realised lately is NEVER compromise your standards, because you have to live with yourself and your standards.
Author Smileygirl1 Posted July 20, 2014 Author Posted July 20, 2014 Yeah exactly. At first I was on the fence about liking him but then I started to really like him when we hung out. He seemed to be everything I wanted in a guy but then I backed off once he started acting wishy washy. But his texts after a long silence would make me like him again..it was so stupid. I fell for his charm. I believe he has a good side but leading someone on isn't right. You don't try to make out with someone then slowly disappear. He said all this nice stuff to me once saying to keep talking to him so we wouldn't end but I think he was a little intoxicated that night and lonely....lol but he claims he knew what he was saying. He told me I should've given effort to what ever this was. Maybe he thought I wasn't mature enough to date him but who knows..I would've been fine with staying just friends n it hurt being a fling. I hope he enjoys his new gf with the "naughty side" he likes....haha she fits him better than I do.
Offspring Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 I hope he enjoys his new gf with the "naughty side" he likes....haha she fits him better than I do. He's made his choice, read above advice about moving on! It's good that you can have a touch of irony in what you say, it shows you may be moving on a bit!
Author Smileygirl1 Posted July 21, 2014 Author Posted July 21, 2014 Ha yeah I'm startin to get used to seein the pictures online of her all over him and him sending me vids of them at the lake...
redbaron005 Posted July 23, 2014 Posted July 23, 2014 Never trust a guy who says he wants to cuddle. That is code for "I want sex." He was hiding the fact that you guys were going out because he was probably pursuing that other girl at the same time. You're a woman. If you feel like you have to chase a guy, he isn't really interested. I like cuddling, and chasing from a woman can be attractive. I would disagree with those points, however this guy is clearly a player. You don't want a player, you want someone to go steady with that you can trust.
edgygirl Posted July 23, 2014 Posted July 23, 2014 I only read your thread title and didn't read your OP or other posts but I have to say something I've noticed because I'm older. ALL the guys that made me feel like that ended up with women who are much more boring and less good looking than I am. Don't do that to yourself. It's usually not about that. It's more about who we are a match with in life (interests, chemistry, compatibility etc). When we are young we always think it's because we are not good enough. I swear to you it's not the case. You two were just probably not meant to be / a good match. It's relieving to know and I hope you realize it sooner than later and let this one go so you can find the right one for YOU
Author Smileygirl1 Posted July 23, 2014 Author Posted July 23, 2014 Exactly edgygirl. I mean I know he liked me for a little bit at least but I wish I knew his intentions/thoughts through it all or why he did what he did. But I'll never know and it probably wasn't my fault. I wonder if he knew the whole time I was just a fling or if he just fell for the other girl since I never saw him. Or according to him "make an effort to see him"...lol stupid questions, I know.
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