gulzarzilo Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Hi I am 24 and my gf is 23. She is my 1st gf and i'm her 2nd. At the beginning of the relationship, she was very envious at some other girl i was talking to, who i was in no way into. I ended up stopping the connection with that other girl. 3months into the relationship, i went away for 5 months for officer's school at the army, coming back once every 2 weeks for a couple of days, and she waited for me. She had many family issues back then i helped her go through. During a 1 week recess we went on vacation i organized with the little time i had. There i thought to myself i'd marry her one day. A week later, suddenly she brings up the other girl again, even though i have made it clear there isn't nor there will be anything between me and her, and after we had a serious talk about not bringing her up. After that, with nothing particular happening, conversations started to become duller and duller. She started to get mad at the littlest things. I started walking on eggshells near her. She also treats other people this way. 10 months in, i said i needed a break. She was devastated. She begged me not to, and we didn't part. I explained to her that we don't talk, and i felt like she was mistreating me, and she seemed to understand back then. Since then thing didn't improve much. She constantly sais she loves me, that i'm the best thing that ever happened to her, but gets mad at me for the slightest of things. And she is very short tempered with me. Yesterday, i came home to her late, and asked her if she wanted me to bring something. She replied with a tone "you shouldn't ask things like that, just do it". I came back with some bunrolls and she said "that's it??". Also she hung up the phone on me, which she knows insults me, and later claimed she didn't hear me although we both know she did. The list goes on and on, and this is every day. Also she sat me down for a talk about being cheap knowing full well i spend everything i have on her and us, and that i have no savings at the moment (i make about 300$ a month, i am a soldier for now). I also feel like she is very lazy with her school - she feels like she works very hard, but in reality she puts in less than 1 hour/day, and is happy with low 70ish grades. I don't mind if she tries and fails, I mind that she is being lazy, and settles for mediocrity. I have no one else to compare to, but i also feel like she is lazy in bed. many many times she is tired, has a headache, or if we are at it, she just lays there and moans a bit, caring only about her climax. she likes receiving oral, but not giving it. you get the picture She can be sweet to me but she can treat me like a punching bag. Calling her out on it makes her defencive and crying, or offensive telling me words that silent me either from insult or anger. Just now she texted me i love you for no reason. I don't know what to think. Help please, or ask me questions... anything helps. Thanks
rewl Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 It's amazing how you're still in a relationship, your tolerance for drama, BS and disrespect is off-the-charts high. 1
Damaged217 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 It seems to me that you are settling. This girl loves drama. How can you tolerate this crap every single day? There are plenty of girls out there that will treat you better and won't start fights every day. Actions speak much louder than words. She tells you she loves you, but her actions are telling me that she does not respect you in the least. I say move on unless you enjoy drama, too.
TXGuy Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 I agree with the above. This woman sounds horrible. You don't have to put up with that. Cut ties with her and go no contact. There are plenty of women out there who will treat you far better than this one. It is not your job to make her happy. Since she does not make you happy move on. The fact that she expects you to buy her stuff and calls you cheap should be enough right there. Next time she says that, tell her you have had it and it is over. And stop having sex with her (if you do, be extra careful). She sounds like the type to try to trap you with an 'oops' pregnancy.
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