Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Please help me out with this, I'll post a big chunk of the conversation so you have a better understanding. I want to know whether she has lost interest or actually busy. Me: heyy "name" what are you up to this weekend Her: Hey I'm not sure it's my best friends 21st on Saturday and I have a farewell Friday but not sure if I'm going to make either bed ridden at the moment Her: What about you? Me: What's wrong? Me: Not sure what I'm doing this weekend. But I would like to take you out again Her: Got a chest infection yeah I'd like that Me: I hope you get better we'll see how your feeling tomorrow, then organise something Her: Thanks me too, yeah sounds good Next day: Me: how are you feeling? Her: Hey, not good went back to the dr today and they booked me off tomorrow too Me: thats not good at all, maybe we should just watch movies tomorrow night instead of going out 3 hours later Her: As good as that sounds I do feel obliged to atleast show my face at that farewell Me: Send them a picture of your face to hang up okay that sucks but let me know when your free to do something Her: haha good one will do xx
PegNosePete Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 What's to help out? She said shed let you know when she's free. Now just wait.
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 What's to help out? She said shed let you know when she's free. Now just wait. Yeah I'll be waiting, but I'm more curious to whether I should bother waiting or go out clubbing on the weekend to get with girls.
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Gee whiz. You invited her out again and she doesn't seem to decline whatsoever. Stop pushing and let her follow up once she is feeling better. Nothing to wait for, you're not in a committed relationship. Nothing wrong with meeting more people if you want. 2
PegNosePete Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Yeah I'll be waiting, but I'm more curious to whether I should bother waiting or go out clubbing on the weekend to get with girls. Do you really expect random strangers on the internet to know whether her chest infection will have cleared up by the weekend or not? Let me look into my crystal ball...
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Gee whiz. You invited her out again and she doesn't seem to decline whatsoever. Stop pushing and let her follow up once she is feeling better. Nothing to wait for, you're not in a committed relationship. Nothing wrong with meeting more people if you want. I'm not pushing her at all, I said "Let me know when you're free" and I never double respond to get a response, I always wait for a reply. I'm just not sure if I'm been played. And even though I'm not in a committed relationship I'm extremely introverted and feel it necessary to be loyal because I think it would hurt her if she found out I was hooking up with other girls even though I shouldn't care. But that's just my personality.
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Do you really expect random strangers on the internet to know whether her chest infection will have cleared up by the weekend or not? Let me look into my crystal ball... It was more the fact she said she had to go to the farewell and didn't offer another option.
Allumere Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 hmmmm...how about you focus on the fact that she isn't well vs you won't be entertained this weekend. 3
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 hmmmm...how about you focus on the fact that she isn't well vs you won't be entertained this weekend. Ok I'll do that. My anxiety is kicking in again which always makes it difficult for such small things like this.
HappyLove Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Yeah I'll be waiting, but I'm more curious to whether I should bother waiting or go out clubbing on the weekend to get with girls. So the girl you like is sick & you want to know if you should go out and get other girls while she's not feeling her best?
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 So the girl you like is sick & you want to know if you should go out and get other girls while she's not feeling her best? I don't know what in the world is going on in my mind. She's sick but going to a farewell party? I just feel as if I'm getting played.
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 I don't know what in the world is going on in my mind. She's sick but going to a farewell party? I just feel as if I'm getting played. A farewell is a bit more important than a date. My wife canceled our second date twice because things came up. We rescheduled and the rest is history. She said she'd let you know when she's free so you need to take her at her word. Just continue to live your life for you, and don't focus so much on a possible negative.
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 A farewell is a bit more important than a date. My wife canceled our second date twice because things came up. We rescheduled and the rest is history. She said she'd let you know when she's free so you need to take her at her word. Just continue to live your life for you, and don't focus so much on a possible negative. This is an amazing response, I love it when people have their own experiences to share from. If someone cancelled on me twice I would definitely think they're blowing me off for good but now that I have some insight it makes me think differently already. I didn't really put it into perspective on how important a farewell would be but I'll take her word for it and try to be more positive about these situations. I'll live in my life to the fullest
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Don't text her for the next 7 days. Easily done, i always wait for her to respond anyway. I never double respond or send something just to get her attention. But I assume you mean not to text her in the next 7 day unless she texts first.
Diezel Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Don't initiate any texts for 7 days. That's what I meant.
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Don't initiate any texts for 7 days. That's what I meant. Yeah thought so, I can do that
allez102 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 My honest opinion from a girls perspective is that you are coming across a little pushy, to the point where she is almost apologising for choosing to go to the Farewell on Friday. If I hinted to someone I might be doing something on Friday, then said I was ill, and then the person I was dating STILL invited me over on Friday? I think is find that a little too keen. The good news? She seems like she really likes you from her texts. I would just lay off the texting for a bit now and let her do some of the work.
Author Rexxy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 My honest opinion from a girls perspective is that you are coming across a little pushy, to the point where she is almost apologising for choosing to go to the Farewell on Friday. If I hinted to someone I might be doing something on Friday, then said I was ill, and then the person I was dating STILL invited me over on Friday? I think is find that a little too keen. The good news? She seems like she really likes you from her texts. I would just lay off the texting for a bit now and let her do some of the work. I didn't mean to be pushy at all. I was trying to care for her because I knew she was sick and probably didn't feel like doing too much other than relaxing. I'm going to wait for her to text me back. Thanks for your help.
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