7 months after 4 year relationship, ex in another [update- ex single again]

[Timpye]

I still have strong feelings for her. Don't know what to think, advice?

[Philosoraptor]

You don't think as it's none of your concern. Your relationship is dead, so bury it and live for yourself.

 

You've made many threads regarding what's going on in your ex's life. Take that focus off of her and put it on yourself so that you can start to find happiness in your own life.

[scobro]

Mine was 5 years relationship and she was in a new one within 4 months.My ex cannot be alone she has hopped from relationship to relationship for years.She even has an old ex renting out a room from her in her house once her daughter left for school.The woman cannot be alone at all.She was on Plenty of Fish with a profile while we were still together.Messed up at 50 years old....

[Timpye]

Less than 1 week later they have broken up. Don't bother messaging her?

[zen2475]

No. As someone else stated, you should focus on yourself.

[Timpye]

My long term ex recently started a new relationship which lasted less than a week. Iv been in nc for 3 months and haven't received any breadcrumbs. Am I likely to hear anything after this break? I still have feelings for her, but imagine staying nc is still the go? Chances of hearing from her?

[hoping2heal]

Not sure why you expect to hear from her.

 

The breakup had nothing to do with her and this guy (implied by the timeline).

 

Also, don't know how you know about her relationship and status if you've been NC?

[BC1980]

My long term ex recently started a new relationship which lasted less than a week. Iv been in nc for 3 months and haven't received any breadcrumbs. Am I likely to hear anything after this break? I still have feelings for her, but imagine staying nc is still the go? Chances of hearing from her?

 

I was going to ask the same thing. How did you find out about her relationship?

[Timpye]

Facebook...

[hoping2heal]

Facebook...

 

Just a tip,

 

Remember, NC is to help yourself heal so even checking up on them on social networks can be hurtful.

 

But, back to matters at hand...

 

As said earlier, your relationship has nothing to do with their relationship so I don't see any reason to expect contact.

[me85]

She was in a "RS" that lasted less than a week??? That sounds more like a rebound to me.

 

Do NOT be hopeful. Do NOT look at her social media. Do NOT wait around to hear from her.

 

DO your very best to disconnect from her emotionally and see where life takes you.

 

Maybe you will have another chance to be with her in the future, who knows??

 

Just don't torture yourself with all those questions that don't have a definite answer.

 

Best Wishes,

J

[Timpye]

She was in a "RS" that lasted less than a week??? That sounds more like a rebound to me.

 

Do NOT be hopeful. Do NOT look at her social media. Do NOT wait around to hear from her.

 

DO your very best to disconnect from her emotionally and see where life takes you.

 

Maybe you will have another chance to be with her in the future, who knows??

 

Just don't torture yourself with all those questions that don't have a definite answer.

 

Best Wishes,

J

 

What is an RS relationship? I agree with you 100%. I have a long way to go il admit, but at least I know where to get to I suppose

[gj13]

RS = relationship.

 

Just keep NC, only valid if you stop checking her social media. If you keep checking you go back to NC day 1. Not worth it.