loppydoppy Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 been on a few dates with this girl and she asked me what she thinks of us and i said..im having a good time, im interested she said ":im not sure actualy. i usually can tell pretty quickly if something will work with a person, but im niether yes or no with you. i havent figured it out yet, but good with continuing teh hwole dating thing" i have no idea what she means but it sounds awful
writteninreverse Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 You better do something amazing the next time you see her. Otherwise, it's over. This was her way of saying, "you have one last chance to win me over. What have you got?" 2
Author loppydoppy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 You better do something amazing the next time you see her. Otherwise, it's over. This was her way of saying, "you have one last chance to win me over. What have you got?" ok more added i said wow i dont know if thats a good thing or bad thing she said ---its not a bad thing.. when i figure it out ill let you know,i know its cliche but you are pretty great, i just over analyze to eb honest
smackie9 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 (edited) She's looking for the romantic grand gesture......she's a high maintenance b itch, run the f away or she will be nattering at you during your whole relationship on how you''dont get it'' Edited July 17, 2014 by smackie9 2
Author loppydoppy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 She's looking for the romantic grand gesture......she's a high maintenance b itch, run the f away or she will be nattering at you during your whole relationship on how you''dont get it'' look at my second post...she said im pretty great
writteninreverse Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 ok more added i said wow i dont know if thats a good thing or bad thing she said ---its not a bad thing.. when i figure it out ill let you know,i know its cliche but you are pretty great, i just over analyze to eb honest 'When I figure it out'? at the moment, she has a bunch of evidence from the dates you guys have been on. She's not convinced by this evidence. She's waiting for you to add some more evidence to the pile to help her sway her decision. Personally, i'm not into this type of situation but if you are, I recommend you think of something exceptional to keep things moving along the way you'd like.
smackie9 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 If you were soooo great we wouldnt be having this conversation. she is pushing the commitment thing,,,,,IMO they will push you around on other things in the future.
Author loppydoppy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 If you were soooo great we wouldnt be having this conversation. she is pushing the commitment thing,,,,,IMO they will push you around on other things in the future. what you mean she is pushing the commitment thing
smackie9 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 If a guy I was dating said that crap to me, I would think...hey wait a min. say what? Yer out out of there! 3
smackie9 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 what you mean she is pushing the commitment thing Ya and before you know it she will be waking you up in the middle of the night screaming when will you be giving her a ring....
Author loppydoppy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Ya and before you know it she will be waking you up in the middle of the night screaming when will you be giving her a ring.... lol damn damn
Lernaean_Hydra Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Sometimes I have to remind myself that some people really don't grasp the concept of being "undecided" or that indecision is a very real state of being. I don't think she's looking for any grand gestures in particular or something like that. I think she really just doesn't know. It's sounds like it's merely a simple matter of she likes you and likes hanging out with you but hasn't yet felt that "spark". that electric jolt that creates a sudden, unmistakable torrent of feelings. A lot of couples start out like that. 1
writteninreverse Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Sometimes I have to remind myself that some people really don't grasp the concept of being "undecided" or that indecision is a very real state of being. I don't think she's looking for any grand gestures in particular or something like that. I think she really just doesn't know. It's sounds like it's merely a simple matter of she likes you and likes hanging out with you but hasn't yet felt that "spark". that electric jolt that creates a sudden, unmistakable torrent of feelings. A lot of couples start out like that. But she's obviously concerned about this situation because she asked the OP what he thought of it. So, it seems like she wants things to change. I'm not sure how exactly she wants things to change, but I think if the OP just continued as he has then he will lose this person. 1
smackie9 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 lol damn damn Look I don't know if you are the type that lacks confidence and are unsure, or you are laid back and like to take your time, or you are totally clueless (JK), but uh ya she is wants you to make it official. I'm not a big fan of manipulation, but I'm guessing she is doing it because she really likes you. She sounds pretty traditional and wants the man (you) to take the lead....ask her to be your GF.
fred123 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Look I don't know if you are the type that lacks confidence and are unsure, or you are laid back and like to take your time, or you are totally clueless (JK), but uh ya she is wants you to make it official. I'm not a big fan of manipulation, but I'm guessing she is doing it because she really likes you. She sounds pretty traditional and wants the man (you) to take the lead....ask her to be your GF. she doesnt want to be ur gf!! she doesnt even know if she likes him or not. where did u get this rubbish from?! 1
Zippy2000 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Look I don't know if you are the type that lacks confidence and are unsure, or you are laid back and like to take your time, or you are totally clueless (JK), but uh ya she is wants you to make it official. I'm not a big fan of manipulation, but I'm guessing she is doing it because she really likes you. She sounds pretty traditional and wants the man (you) to take the lead....ask her to be your GF. "but I'm guessing she is doing it because she really likes you"......WHAT!???? My God, man! READ the original post. She is NOT sure about him and still wants to see how it goes. What are you basing your opinion on? You know how to kick a man when he`s already down. 1
Fitguyinfl Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Personally, I wouldn't go on another date with someone who told me they were "undecided" about me. Either they want to get to know me or not. I would move on. 1
the tank Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 ok more added i said wow i dont know if thats a good thing or bad thing she said ---its not a bad thing.. when i figure it out ill let you know,i know its cliche but you are pretty great, i just over analyze to eb honest Last girl I date did the same thing. I didnt ended up with her because I tried to change her mind during the next date. Stop contact with her and if she like you she will comeback. She may be an high maintenance girl.
Author loppydoppy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 i dont know if im doing anything wrong. my last relationship was awful...i was cheated on and she basically left me saying really horrible things so stepping into a new one im very tentative
PegNosePete Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 What she means is: she's seeing other guys who she likes more, but she wants to keep you around as a backup option in case things don't work out with them. Are you happy to be a backup plan? I wouldn't be. 1
rewl Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 i dont know if im doing anything wrong. my last relationship was awful...i was cheated on and she basically left me saying really horrible things so stepping into a new one im very tentative Your problem is that you can't take control of relationships, girls are controlling you, they're stepping all over you and you seem content. Could you grow a pair please? This is for your own sake. Start with this girl who you've just given your heart to and now has under her tight fist wondering what to do with it. Dump her. You NEVER confess to girls you like them this early on in the relationship. Just laugh off such questions or say that you think she's a great friend. As for this girl, you're not going to have a long-term relationship with her, don't even think about it. Either she will dump you when she finds a boy she actually respects or is just bored with you. OR you will dump her. Decide.
Zahara Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 In a very immature and blatant way, she is telling you that she's not really sure about the potential of what she has with you but that she'll just date you for now -- she probably doesn't find much chemistry and is waiting it out to see if it develops. You're the nice/great guy but unfortunately she sounds like the kind that gets bored by that so she tries to "like" you because of your qualities versus just accepting that nice guy or not, if it's not working, it's just not working.
Author loppydoppy Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 In a very immature and blatant way, she is telling you that she's not really sure about the potential of what she has with you but that she'll just date you for now -- she probably doesn't find much chemistry and is waiting it out to see if it develops. You're the nice/great guy but unfortunately she sounds like the kind that gets bored by that so she tries to "like" you because of your qualities versus just accepting that nice guy or not, if it's not working, it's just not working. so as usual...because im not a bad boy, im not going to get the girl wow
Zahara Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 so as usual...because im not a bad boy, im not going to get the girl wow Firstly, there is nothing wrong with being the good guy. When a girl likes a bad boy, it says something about her mindset, and in an emotionally negative way. You don't want to be involved with that. Secondly, another point of view. Compatibility. She may truly want to be with a nice guy and is of a very healthy emotional mindset -- but if she's not feeling it with you and finds very limited compatibility, whether you're the greatest nice guy or the despicable bad boy, it won't matter.
mangetout Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 No don't be bad boy. Just be yourself. You don't need to impress anyone because if she is sitting on the fence then there isn't much you can do to change her mind. I wouldn't brush her off either. Just chill out and not read into it too much. If you enjoy her company then whats the harm? Its early days. Just to let you know that I didn't feel a spark for my last boyfriend immediately.I could take it or leave it. but after a few dates I started falling for him
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