easye33 Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 My G/F broke-up with me and I am confused. We were together for a year and eight months and things were going great. She said she needed her space and some time. She also said that she wasn't breaking up with me to find someone else. She tells my friends that this is the hardest thing she's ever done. But when I asked her if we would ever get back together, she said she didn't know. She said that she still loves me and cares about alot. What does all this mean and what should I do?
sundrop Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 Unfortunantly, if she says she needs space you have to give it to her. As hard as that is going to be. Most or all of us here on LS have been throught it, or is going through it like myself. So give her the space she needs, if you don't you will piss her off and end up making it worse. And take care of yourself.
alphamale Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 Originally posted by easye33 She also said that she wasn't breaking up with me to find someone else. She tells my friends that this is the hardest thing she's ever done. they all say the above...
sundrop Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 alphamale, I love your honest to the point advice.
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 Show her that you still care and want her friendship but don't be pushy about it...Don't call her. Email her once a week and just say hello. Allow her the time to deal with whatever she needs to deal with. She's been honest with you and not playing a game...Just take this time and go do afew things you enjoy to help pass the time. Don't make her so important to you right now...Maybe she'll come around, maybe not. Sorry to say this but the ball is in her court now.
alphamale Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup Show her that you still care and want her friendship but don't be pushy about it...Don't call her. Email her once a week and just say hello. I disagree. Institute strict NC immediately and only contact her when she contacts u first. Allow her the time to deal with whatever she needs to deal with. nice thought WWIU but his time is valuable too. It is not all about HER NEEDS here. He has needs also.
sundrop Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 Does no contact also work hen you are dealing with a ex boyfriend? Does it sometimes make them want to contact you?
Author easye33 Posted February 21, 2005 Author Posted February 21, 2005 Thank You all for your suggestions. She said she still wants to talk, if fact we are going to talk tonigth. The thing I am affraid of the most is that she will find someone else and fall in love with them. I trust her but sometimes I let my fears get the best of me. I just know that there are alot of guys out there who only want sex. And the thought of some guy even touching her makes me sick to my stomach. I know she wouldnt do anything because it took us three months to do ANYTHING, and I was the first guy she had done anything with, but again i let my fears get the best of me.
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 nice thought WWIU but his time is valuable too. It is not all about HER NEEDS here. He has needs also. Yes, but there are times when your own needs come second to others...Varying on the situation ofcourse! I disagree. Institute strict NC immediately and only contact her when she contacts u first. I see what you're saying but it all depends on the situation, how severe NC is warrented...
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