Sweett Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 So I had a planned date with a guy, he asked me to pick the place and time so I did. Got ready and dressed and I text him and asked him was he at the restaurant yet...no response. So about 10 minutes later I called and no answer...30 minutes went by. So since he didn't not answer my text or call I emailed him and let him know I was upset because I had gotten all dressed up and I felt like he stood me up...well minutes later I get a text with a photo attached and he says he was in an accident on his way to meet me. The photo was of him in a neck brace and a hospital gown. He said he had almost gotten hit head on...for some gut reason I almost don't believe him and I feel the pic was old. For one he messaged me the next day to try to meet me and personally if someone almost hits me head on to where im in the hospital I don't know if a date would be on my mind the very next day when the pain sets in. Everyone says trust your gut and my gut is telling me he's lying...any advice?? 1
Gaeta Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 Neck brace are mandatory when you are taken to the hospital after a car accident. Doesn't mean he was injured, they put that thing on no matter what till doctor release you from it. It's possible he's ok the following day. Why do you feel it's an old picture? What else makes you suspect this was a set up? 1
Author Sweett Posted July 16, 2014 Author Posted July 16, 2014 Neck brace are mandatory when you are taken to the hospital after a car accident. Doesn't mean he was injured, they put that thing on no matter what till doctor release you from it. It's possible he's ok the following day. Ok, this makes sense... I just had a strange feeling about it besides he is still trying to meet me...
Fondue Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 He's trying to fool you. He wasn't at the hospital yesterday. He just wanted a convenient way to not go out with you. Had second thoughts. Chickened out. Whatever. Actually, he might have just not been that interested to begin with. If that was your first meetup and he's having YOU choose the time/place, etc., he clearly doesn't think much of your "date."
todreaminblue Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 He's trying to fool you. He wasn't at the hospital yesterday. He just wanted a convenient way to not go out with you. Had second thoughts. Chickened out. Whatever. Actually, he might have just not been that interested to begin with. If that was your first meetup and he's having YOU choose the time/place, etc., he clearly doesn't think much of your "date." you dont know this at all.....deb 1
Author Sweett Posted July 16, 2014 Author Posted July 16, 2014 He's trying to fool you. He wasn't at the hospital yesterday. He just wanted a convenient way to not go out with you. Had second thoughts. Chickened out. Whatever. Actually, he might have just not been that interested to begin with. If that was your first meetup and he's having YOU choose the time/place, etc., he clearly doesn't think much of your "date." possibly but we live in different counties and he was coming to me and said he was not familiar with the area so I picked the place since he was coming to me. If he wasn't that interested why is he still trying?
Gaeta Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 He's trying to fool you. He wasn't at the hospital yesterday. He just wanted a convenient way to not go out with you. Had second thoughts. Chickened out. Whatever. Actually, he might have just not been that interested to begin with. If that was your first meetup and he's having YOU choose the time/place, etc., he clearly doesn't think much of your "date." haha how did you come up with that conclusion? Every man has a hospital gowns in their closet and neck braces? 3
ascendotum Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 It is a bit of a sus excuse, and it would not surprise me if he had that pic of him saved on his PC/mobile (from a real incident a while ago) for situations such as this. If he looks a bit different from his profile pic that would be a bit of a give away but not conclusive. It could be totally legit too...but you wont know unless you give him a 2nd chance to meet. I'd take a bet that the minor wounds would have healed and his car repaired by the time you see him. Date him and let us know. 1
Fondue Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 haha how did you come up with that conclusion? Every man has a hospital gowns in their closet and neck braces? Easy. It is an old picture. It happened to him before. As for why he asked her to pick the place? He was lazy. He was lazy and didn't care about the date enough to motivate himself to set it up himself.
KatZee Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Honestly, you don't know the guy. You will never know FOR SURE if he is lying or telling the truth. Be sympathetic but not overly interested in his accident. Just say, "I'm so sorry, hope you get well soon." And then sit back and watch if he tries (really tries) to get together again. This way, you're not overly invested and you don't look like a fool IF he was lying. 3
Elle1975 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Well.. if he got into an accident requiring he goes to the hospital, surely his car is damaged. If you have a doubt, ask him how bad his car was damaged. 1
Lipitor11 Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Yeah, I'm kind of with you on that, if I was injured, I wouldn't want to go out on a date the NEXT day. 1
Versacehottie Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 here's another thing you can do--some photos the way they are coded basically have the date in them so you can tell if it's old. I have to admit im skeptical that's it's real accident. Or at least i'm 50/50. usually the date thing will look like this: IMG38999-20140715 see the date photo was taken is right there for you to check: 2014 is year, 07 is month, 15 is date. Some people would possibly "rename" the photo, which would be a red flag. If you're in hospital and possible concussion who takes the time to rename: meaccident! NO ONE. unless it's an old photo that he saves for excuses. As someone said, ask about the car. Here's the thing. In SC I doubt you go to hospital and put into hospital gown (!!!!) if you're car isn't totalled!! Or near to it. I see accidents every day, many, in southern california and rarely does someone get taken to hospital--even with totalled car!! hmmmmmmm:rolleyes: 2
acrosstheuniverse Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Honestly, you don't know the guy. You will never know FOR SURE if he is lying or telling the truth. Be sympathetic but not overly interested in his accident. Just say, "I'm so sorry, hope you get well soon." And then sit back and watch if he tries (really tries) to get together again. This way, you're not overly invested and you don't look like a fool IF he was lying. This. Personally I don't waste too much time worrying about whether people are lying or not. If they are lying then they weren't interested and it won't come to anything anyway. If they were telling the truth then they'll be trying hard to convince me to give them a second chance on another date. I suspect you'll easily be able to tell the situation with this guy based on whether or not he makes the effort to actually go out with you. I'm chilled about dates ya know? If someone wants to meet me, they will. If they don't, they won't. I'd give someone a second chance to meet but not a third. And I'd definitely make it something more casual the second time, like a lunchtime coffee date, so I'm not booking out 'prime time' in my week for some guy who may or may not show up. 2
Author Sweett Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Well.. if he got into an accident requiring he goes to the hospital, surely his car is damaged. If you have a doubt, ask him how bad his car was damaged. I tried that and he said he had more than one car!
Author Sweett Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Easy. It is an old picture. It happened to him before. As for why he asked her to pick the place? He was lazy. He was lazy and didn't care about the date enough to motivate himself to set it up himself. LOL!!!! I SAID HE IS NOT FROM THE SAME COUNTY AS ME!!!!!!! He is not familar with the area well enough to pick a place. LOL
Author Sweett Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 here's another thing you can do--some photos the way they are coded basically have the date in them so you can tell if it's old. I have to admit im skeptical that's it's real accident. Or at least i'm 50/50. usually the date thing will look like this: IMG38999-20140715 see the date photo was taken is right there for you to check: 2014 is year, 07 is month, 15 is date. Some people would possibly "rename" the photo, which would be a red flag. If you're in hospital and possible concussion who takes the time to rename: meaccident! NO ONE. unless it's an old photo that he saves for excuses. As someone said, ask about the car. Here's the thing. In SC I doubt you go to hospital and put into hospital gown (!!!!) if you're car isn't totalled!! Or near to it. I see accidents every day, many, in southern california and rarely does someone get taken to hospital--even with totalled car!! hmmmmmmm:rolleyes: If a 42 yeard old man had to use an accident to lie vs just saying i can't make it this really bothers me!!!!
ExpatInItaly Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 I tried that and he said he had more than one car! The taking-a-selfie in the hospital seems suspect to me, but you never know. What is he saying his injuries are? Do you have plans to meet up again?
rewl Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 If a guy wants to make excuses for why he didn't turn up to a date, they don't need a neck brace or a car accident. In fact, if they're not interested, they probably wouldn't go through the trouble of finding a pic with a bloody neck brace hehe what's the point? 2
the tank Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Red flag. get out of there . Dont try to find if its the truth or a lie.
Diezel Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 I would have said yes to going out the next day, just to see his "own damage". And ladies, anything with a penis, could have a life threatening experience and still want to go out with you the next day if we knew it'd be worth it.
longjohn Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 So I had a planned date with a guy, he asked me to pick the place and time so I did. Got ready and dressed and I text him and asked him was he at the restaurant yet...no response. So about 10 minutes later I called and no answer...30 minutes went by. So since he didn't not answer my text or call I emailed him and let him know I was upset because I had gotten all dressed up and I felt like he stood me up...well minutes later I get a text with a photo attached and he says he was in an accident on his way to meet me. The photo was of him in a neck brace and a hospital gown. He said he had almost gotten hit head on...for some gut reason I almost don't believe him and I feel the pic was old. For one he messaged me the next day to try to meet me and personally if someone almost hits me head on to where im in the hospital I don't know if a date would be on my mind the very next day when the pain sets in. Everyone says trust your gut and my gut is telling me he's lying...any advice?? If in doubt call the County/City.. Fire/Police/EMS that responded to the accident. They will have a record and Fire/EMS will have a patient name if treated or if they refused treatment/transport. Police will have records if a ticket or citation was issued. Obtain a copy of the incident report as it's public record. That's one undeniable way to be absolutely sure they are not lying.
Gaeta Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 If in doubt call the County/City.. Fire/Police/EMS that responded to the accident. They will have a record and Fire/EMS will have a patient name if treated or if they refused treatment/transport. Police will have records if a ticket or citation was issued. Obtain a copy of the incident report as it's public record. That's one undeniable way to be absolutely sure they are not lying. I would not go through all that just to justify a first date was cancelled under true pretense. OP: You have ANY other reasons to believe it was a lie? If your mind went straight to it's a lie it's because it's not your first suspicion possibly?
longjohn Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 I would not go through all that just to justify a first date was cancelled under true pretense. OP: You have ANY other reasons to believe it was a lie? If your mind went straight to it's a lie it's because it's not your first suspicion possibly? True for a first date maybe, however one phone call and an accident or lack of an accident report later will prove if it's a lie or not. If it's a lie.. move on. I personally won't waste time with liars. This has happened to me before and guess what I made the inquiry and found there was in fact an accident which built some trust in that person.
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