jacobroberts41 Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 Hey there, I fell in love for my first time 7 months ago. After 5 and a half amazing, romantic and heavenly months things went downhill. She became much more controlling and disapproving and I had enough. We split about a week ago (my choice) and I said some pretty horrible things, as did she. I knew it would be painful but I had to do it. She put on Facebook (I deleted her but I keep looking on her profile) a picture of her and a boy who has a birthday today. She wrote on the picture: 'Motto of the day: Do what you want with no regrets' I am sure she is going or has already slept with him How the hell do I cope with this? I hate the idea of her 'giving herself' to someone else so quickly I just want to talk to her and ask her if she did that... It's so painful How do I cope?
SoThatHappened Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 First off, I feel for you man. So many of us have been there. There are great posts all over offering advice and showing that you're not alone. Seven months isn't a long time, but that doesn't matter when you're heart falls for someone. She sounds young. How old is she, may I ask? In my case, my current ex and I were together 7 months. Everything was over-the-top perfect as you describe, until the last 2 or 3 weeks. Same situation as yours, she became controlling, got mad at every little thing I did, and wasn't as available. Literally out of the blue... well to me. Turns out she was flirting with and doing who knows what else with a coworker. She was gone before the actual breakup, if you know what I mean. You'll see it a million times on this site. Go No Contact (NC). Not to get her back, but to shield yourself and move on without her dragging you along. No contact means to phone calls, texts, FB messages, no checking any social media of hers, no talking to her friends, family, etc. There's a great guide in the link below: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide Keep your head up, post and vent here, and you WILL feel better and be better. It's hard to see that right now, but believe me, it gets better.
Author jacobroberts41 Posted July 16, 2014 Author Posted July 16, 2014 She is 27 and I'm 18. Yeah, I guess you're right :/ NC is definitely the best bet... It's just so hard ;/ I've blocked her to remove the temptation... Thanks a lot for the advice It's really good knowing I'm not the only one! I will try much harder to have NC!
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