cas_thf Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 my girlfriend and i have been going out for 5 months. the first 3 1/2 months were amazing.we would always spend time and we were very affection towards each other. she kinda hinted at being ready to move into the next step and put a title on it. i made the move and took her on a romantic date and ask. everything seemed to being going great then she started acting distant and said she needed space. i treated her the same and a few days later she was back to normal. fast forward another month and she said she need space again. i notice that she seem to get like this during her time of the month so i didnt think much of it. well when she kinda just never got out of it so i talk with her one day about what was on her mind. she said she has been having a lot on her mind lately and she's not sure if she's ready to be in a relationship and take the risk of being hurt again. she said she needed space to clear her mind and she would get back to me because she feels its not fair to me if she cant put 100% into the relationship. she also feels that maybe we are moving a little fast. background information im 24 and this is my 1st relationship. i have a steady good job. own place. my own car. she is 26 and she has had many relationship all which have ended badly especially two of them. she works a min wage shares a car with her mom and lives with a roomate as far as moving too fast i can see some of the things we did rush on. we didnt have sex until almost 2 months which i didnt really care because i knew it was gonna happen eventually. she did meet my friends after about a month and then she met my parents after about 2 1/2 months. i met her friends and parents after about a month. i asked her just to be honest with me but she has a hard time opening up because of trust issues. she doesnt have a relationship with her biological father. her exs cheated on her and accused her of cheating when she never did. she feels like she is running out of time because of her age and she is not were she wants to be in life. i asked her whats on her mind and if she still has feelings for her ex. she said that yea she still keeps in contact through text with him (she told me this the 1st week we started dating). she only keeps contact because the car that her mom drives is under her exs name so that the only reason they keep in contact. she said she has zero feelings for him even tho he says he loves her all the time. she tells me that im different than all her exs. she says thats a good thing but sometimes she feels its too good to be true. here's were im confused. she said she wanted space but yet she contact me everyday asking how my day is and what i am doing. she told me she understands if i dont talk to her because she wanted space but she would appreciate it if i respond to her calls and text and she would do the same.so what im asking is what do i do. how do i get her to make up her mind? if there is any more info that i left out that needs to be know to help with a decision just ask and i will do my best to answer.
JungleLover Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 The girl is most likely damaged goods. Here are some things to keep in mind. 1: All of her relationships ended badly. This isn't good. Everyone has a few that end badly, but all of them? All of her exes are bad? I doubt it. 2: The line about her talking to her ex because of a car is BS. She is talking to him because she wants to talk to him. If she is still paying for the car, she could continue to do so without texting him all the time. 3: No one asks for space in a relationship that is working out. I say you give her even more space, like not talk to her at all. I agree with all points above. She doesn't want to fully commit. I am willing to bet you will be the next bad ex. 1
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