emotionalMess Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Find someone who will appreciate your efforts. Some will find it awesome that you cleaned up for him and some will see it another way. Personally, it would tell me that you are willing to put an effort into the relationship. But like Simon P said, my place would pass the white glove test before I have any date over. Good luck. Don't waste any more of your time. Your a catch, toss him to the curb and don't look back.
Zahara Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Update: he randomly texted me last night asking if I was up.. After contemplating if I should respond I did & told him yes he asked me if I wanted to know what he really thought & I asked what's that. He proceeded to tell me what he thinks I need to do with my life & what I should focus on.. Honestly it really upset me because this isn't his business at all he dumped me so why is he trying to tell me what I need to do with my life.. I almost feel like he is trying to justify this break up & him being a ****ty guy by telling me what I do wrong to make himself feel better. This is why you don't respond. This is why you block because contact only digs at the wound even more. Yes, you are right. He's trying to place the responsibility of the demise of the relationship on you so that it alleviates his guilt, and makes him feel better about himself. So now, he walks around feeling like he did all he can and he was a great boyfriend but it all ended because you had unresolved issues that got in the way of the relationship. Now you have to work on them so that you can do better for yourself. Don't respond to him again.
Author danielleeroseee Posted July 19, 2014 Author Posted July 19, 2014 My ex dumped me in a text not quite a week ago. We spent a lot of time together too soon but we were so happy & cute & he became distant after a little bit. he broke it off a little bit before our one month. I think we just spent way too much time together too soon. I haven't texted him. He's actually texted me & I've ignored him a few times & then I did text him the other night & he was responding & he was being weird though I was flirting with a guy on twitter (although I blocked him) I think he saw it cause I asked him if I pissed him off just cause he was being short when texting me & he said yes & I asked why & he said he didn't wanna talk about it & told me to go to bed I asked just another time what I did to piss him off he read the text but ignored it. I haven't talked to him since that was yesterday. I don't plan on texting him unless he texts me first.. Do you think this would work? He said he would meet up with me to talk & give me my stuff I left at his place we just never discussed a time. I still really care for him & I hope giving him this space will help.
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